Never say never.
In 1996 I wrote a pamphlet called Finding a Good Man. The pamphlet, which was only twelve pages long, was simply my thoughts at the time on how a woman could find a good man. I sold it for a dollar. In some cases I gave it away. To me it was my “two cents” on male/female relationships. I wasn’t a PhD; I hadn’t done any research. I didn’t think the pamphlet would stack up against the numerous relationship books on the market.
Man, was I in for a surprise.
That little pamphlet, which I typed up and put together in my grandmother’s living room, changed the direction of my life. I changed other people’s lives as well. Women came back to me and said they needed to hear what I had to say. That pamphlet got me on cable TV and led to bigger things because so many men wanted something for them. I was prompted to write Nice Guys and Players: Becoming the Man Women Want and its follow-up, Sexual Chemistry, Nice Guys and Players Level II. These two books have sold all over the world and I can honestly say that at least one copy of each of these books sells somewhere on the planet every single day.
Now life is funny. When I was pushing Finding a Good Man men wanted something for themselves so I produced two books for men. Now when I make appearances or do book signings I have women who will buy either Nice Guys and Players or Sexual Chemistry despite me telling them that the book is primarily for men. I have had more women get something out of the books than some men. Numerous women asked when I would write something for them.
I had said I wouldn’t write anything else for women because in my view there are plenty of relationship books for women. Yet women are still looking for these types of books and are always the majority at relationship forums and seminars.
That’s why I decided to write this book.
Despite the books, tapes, movies, seminars, and forums, there are an increasing number of single women. This is causing long-term relationship problems such as infidelity, loneliness, depression, single parent households, and a whole list of related problems. Even women who are in relationships are not satisfied with their men.
Our community is suffering because men and women are not in productive relationships. I’ve addressed the issue from the male side with the Nice Guys and Players series. Finding the Right Man is addressed to women, although men can read it to get a perspective.
This book is about finding the Right Man from the perspective of a man. I’ve lived an interesting life. I have interacted with thousands of women of different ages, races, nationalities, and economic backgrounds. After a while you start to see the same patterns. I’m not a PhD in sociology or some other discipline. My greatest qualification is that I’m a man. I know what other men are looking for. I am somebody who presents a realistic approach to finding the Right Man. In addition, at a point in this book I will provide a powerful secret which, when employed by a woman, will draw men to her like moths to a flame. I will provide hints to this secret throughout the book and it will be very important to read every single word because even when I provide the secret it still might not sink in unless seen in the context of the entire book. Everything in this book is meant to be applied in a holistic fashion. Everything works together.
As you read along don’t think of this as a mere book. Think of it as a letter from one friend to another.