One of the foundations of what I talk about in my books and blogs is how women categorize men into select and non-select categories. These categories are further broken down into four subcategories. For the most part it has helped many people and I will continue to use the categories in a general sense when discussing certain aspects of male/female relationships. That being said, I also believe in evolution. I’m a student as well as a teacher and I will continue learn and evolve until the day I transition. I’ve encountered a very significant issue with this classification system. I’ve known about it for years but until now haven’t figured out a way to correct the issue. The problem is that despite how descriptive I tend to be with the categories many men have a hard time figuring out where they are placed.
Most men think they are select. If I ask a man where he think he places many will say Mr. Goodbar. Some with a little bit of money will say Masked Man. Listening to these men talk and being in a position to watch women respond to them I realize that these men are non-select. At the same time I’ve had men who would definitely qualify as Mr. Goodbar identify themselves as Nice Guys because they didn’t feel like they had game. Understandable since Mr. Goodbar types tend to be lousy at doing any work to get a woman. Very few Goodbars have “game.” Almost no man identifies themselves as a Gamesmen even though conversations with them reveal that the only they get women is through deception. Thus the big problem. Though many men get the concepts in general they have still not been as helpful as they could be.
It’s the same thing for people who use the Alpha Male/Beta Male model. Many men are confused as to what is Alpha and what is Beta. This question will be asked and discussed on many message boards and blogs. Some men will think they are Alpha when they are not. Some men will think they are Beta when they are not. See the key to all this is not how men see themselves but rather how women see them.
See when women categorize men they don’t do so in hierarchal terms. They don’t go into a club and say, “Oh there’s the Alpha Male, let me try to get his attention.” They don’t really use the terms I use either which are really like general allegories. They don’t go into a club and say “Oh, there’s Mr. Goodbar, let me go jump on his dick because he’s taller and handsomer than the other men.” Men and women think differently. Men tend to be more direct and focused. Men are like Hawks. A Hawk will fly from point A to point B in the shortest time possible. Women are like Butterflies. A Butterfly will still go from Point A to Point B but they will stop every time they get a chance. They sure as hell won’t go in a straight line. They might fly close to point B at some point and then fly back to point A. Women are more circular in their thoughts and movements. Women don’t rate men according to hierarchy but rather according to whatever their needs are at that particular moment.
What follows are eight of the categories that women in general put men into. There are actually more depending on the woman. I won’t use allegorical names for this. These are everyday terms that any man can recognize. Also something to keep in mind is that all men can fall into every single category. A man who is seen as Husband material to one woman is seen as a Creep to another woman. A man who is seen as Dick to one woman is Invisible to still another woman. The thing to understand from these categories knowing that regardless of how a man see himself a woman will have a completely different viewpoint.
HUSBAND
As the name suggests women see this man as good husband material. This doesn’t mean they see him as particularly handsome or sexy. It means they see him as someone they could build a life with. Usually it means someone that shares their value system and would be acceptable to family and social circle. For most women it means a responsible man who will handle his business. Women tend to take their time with this man. They will date this man for a while before sleeping with him because most women know that men will not want to marry a woman who has sex with them too soon. Women tend to get conservative when dealing with a Husband type. Women tend to choose Husbands for pragmatic reasons and not for romantic reasons.
BOYFRIEND
The Boyfriend isn’t seen as a marriage prospect. Yes many women marry their boyfriends after a while but this is something different. The Boyfriend serves two primary purposes, entertainment and companionship. The Boyfriend is the steady guy to have fun with and provide regular sex. He isn’t necessarily Husband material. Many women know that beyond fun and games the man they’re dealing with is a loser. Some lie to themselves and try to see something that isn’t there but as I maintain, women are way more pragmatic than they are given credit for. Many women who deal with bad boys don’t plan to marry these men. That’s why a woman can be with a Boyfriend for years and still end up marrying another man.
DICK
When a woman sees a man as Dick, it literally means his value to her is his penis. Dick is not seen as Husband or Boyfriend material. This is regardless of what Dick has going for him socially. A significant number of women just want a hard penis up in them. Dick is whoever a woman considers sexy enough to jump his bones with as few complications as possible. Generally men in this category have solid body builds. Facially these men may not be the most handsome and they may not be that intelligent. It’s irrelevant as women just want their dicks. Many women with Husbands and Boyfriends will cheat with Dick. Dick’s calling card is great sex or at least the women will think so upon meeting them. Much of a woman’s arousal is based on her imagination but that’s is another blog.
BUDDY
A woman will have sex occasionally with Husbands, more with Boyfriends, and as much as possible with Dicks. When a woman sees a man as a Buddy he’s been put in the dreaded friend zone. A Buddy is the type of man a woman will be cool with. She will have conversations with him. She will joke around with him but she does not see him in a sexual manner. She might not even him as a friend. A Buddy is more somebody a woman happens to know. They probably have something in common like work or a social group. A woman is not going to share any deep secrets with a Buddy.
BROTHER
A woman seeing a man as a Brother is probably the worst part of the friend zone. That means the women sees ZERO sexual value in a particular man. Even a Buddy with some effort can move into the Husband or Boyfriend category. When a woman puts a man into the Brother category on some level she is saying, “I will never have sex with you.” What she will do is treat you like her brother or depending on the situation, her sister. A woman will tell a Brother, “I haven’t had sex with my Husband in a year but that’s okay. Dick has been giving me that good-good. He got a big one and knows how to use it.” A man knows he’s been seen as a woman’s Brother when she has no problem discussing intimate details of her sex life with him.
THIRSTY
A woman sees a man as Thirsty when he just pesters the hell out of her and she has no interest in him. This is the guy who likes all of her pictures on social media or texts her all the time if he manages to get her number. Most women see men who catcall them on the street as Thirsty. Most women are turned off by Thirsty men. The reason why is because of how women think. Their reasoning is that if a man is getting regular sex he’s not going to be thirsty. Thus if a man is thirsty something must be wrong with him if he is not getting regular sex. A few women will keep a Thirsty man around for a spare Dick. Thirsty men are to women what fat ugly women are to men, easy. Every now and then a woman needs somebody who is going to come over and eat the pussy without any major problems. Many will string along a Thirsty man for this reason.
CREEP
Thirsty men tend to be decent looking enough for some women to string along. Creeps are Thirsty men who are physically repulsive to women. They are unable to physically arouse women. Indeed their presence tends to evoke negative feelings in women. A man in the Dick category can say, “Good morning” to a woman and she will go weak in the knees. A Creep says the exact same thing he might get cursed out and have a video of him getting cursed out go viral on the internet. Women will get mad that a Creep even approaches them.
INVISIBLE
Women don’t even see these men. There could be a social event where are thirty men. Ten of the men are Invisible. Later when asked how many men were at the event most of the women in attendance will say, “About twenty.” Yeah it’s that deep. An Invisible can say, “Good morning” to a woman on the street and she won’t respond because she literally didn’t hear or see him. Many men don’t register on a woman’s radar. Women simply don’t see them. Even a Creep registers more than an Invisible.
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As I said these are only eight of the categories. Every SINGLE woman has a way she rates men which will be influenced by factors such as race, religion, economic class, and even whether she is in hurry to get home to watch a TV show. The average woman sizes up a man according to her criteria in a few seconds. They are very good at this. Indeed I call bullshit on women who act surprised when a man they’re dealing with turns out to be a loser. Very few women are fooled that easily by a man. Women learn how to read men from the time they are babies. The problem is women like to play innocent victims and many simps and white knights want to believe them. I’m going to go in on this in another blog.
The takeaway is that a man must work hard to find out how women really see him. Don’t ask family members. If they love you they won’t be honest. Ask women you think will tell you the truth. A player once told me that it’s very important to cultivate female friends who will practice tough love with you. They will let a man know how other women see him. They will even suggest improvements. Once a man knows how women see him he can make real progress in getting the women he truly desires.
Most men think they are select. If I ask a man where he think he places many will say Mr. Goodbar. Some with a little bit of money will say Masked Man. Listening to these men talk and being in a position to watch women respond to them I realize that these men are non-select. At the same time I’ve had men who would definitely qualify as Mr. Goodbar identify themselves as Nice Guys because they didn’t feel like they had game. Understandable since Mr. Goodbar types tend to be lousy at doing any work to get a woman. Very few Goodbars have “game.” Almost no man identifies themselves as a Gamesmen even though conversations with them reveal that the only they get women is through deception. Thus the big problem. Though many men get the concepts in general they have still not been as helpful as they could be.
It’s the same thing for people who use the Alpha Male/Beta Male model. Many men are confused as to what is Alpha and what is Beta. This question will be asked and discussed on many message boards and blogs. Some men will think they are Alpha when they are not. Some men will think they are Beta when they are not. See the key to all this is not how men see themselves but rather how women see them.
See when women categorize men they don’t do so in hierarchal terms. They don’t go into a club and say, “Oh there’s the Alpha Male, let me try to get his attention.” They don’t really use the terms I use either which are really like general allegories. They don’t go into a club and say “Oh, there’s Mr. Goodbar, let me go jump on his dick because he’s taller and handsomer than the other men.” Men and women think differently. Men tend to be more direct and focused. Men are like Hawks. A Hawk will fly from point A to point B in the shortest time possible. Women are like Butterflies. A Butterfly will still go from Point A to Point B but they will stop every time they get a chance. They sure as hell won’t go in a straight line. They might fly close to point B at some point and then fly back to point A. Women are more circular in their thoughts and movements. Women don’t rate men according to hierarchy but rather according to whatever their needs are at that particular moment.
What follows are eight of the categories that women in general put men into. There are actually more depending on the woman. I won’t use allegorical names for this. These are everyday terms that any man can recognize. Also something to keep in mind is that all men can fall into every single category. A man who is seen as Husband material to one woman is seen as a Creep to another woman. A man who is seen as Dick to one woman is Invisible to still another woman. The thing to understand from these categories knowing that regardless of how a man see himself a woman will have a completely different viewpoint.
HUSBAND
As the name suggests women see this man as good husband material. This doesn’t mean they see him as particularly handsome or sexy. It means they see him as someone they could build a life with. Usually it means someone that shares their value system and would be acceptable to family and social circle. For most women it means a responsible man who will handle his business. Women tend to take their time with this man. They will date this man for a while before sleeping with him because most women know that men will not want to marry a woman who has sex with them too soon. Women tend to get conservative when dealing with a Husband type. Women tend to choose Husbands for pragmatic reasons and not for romantic reasons.
BOYFRIEND
The Boyfriend isn’t seen as a marriage prospect. Yes many women marry their boyfriends after a while but this is something different. The Boyfriend serves two primary purposes, entertainment and companionship. The Boyfriend is the steady guy to have fun with and provide regular sex. He isn’t necessarily Husband material. Many women know that beyond fun and games the man they’re dealing with is a loser. Some lie to themselves and try to see something that isn’t there but as I maintain, women are way more pragmatic than they are given credit for. Many women who deal with bad boys don’t plan to marry these men. That’s why a woman can be with a Boyfriend for years and still end up marrying another man.
DICK
When a woman sees a man as Dick, it literally means his value to her is his penis. Dick is not seen as Husband or Boyfriend material. This is regardless of what Dick has going for him socially. A significant number of women just want a hard penis up in them. Dick is whoever a woman considers sexy enough to jump his bones with as few complications as possible. Generally men in this category have solid body builds. Facially these men may not be the most handsome and they may not be that intelligent. It’s irrelevant as women just want their dicks. Many women with Husbands and Boyfriends will cheat with Dick. Dick’s calling card is great sex or at least the women will think so upon meeting them. Much of a woman’s arousal is based on her imagination but that’s is another blog.
BUDDY
A woman will have sex occasionally with Husbands, more with Boyfriends, and as much as possible with Dicks. When a woman sees a man as a Buddy he’s been put in the dreaded friend zone. A Buddy is the type of man a woman will be cool with. She will have conversations with him. She will joke around with him but she does not see him in a sexual manner. She might not even him as a friend. A Buddy is more somebody a woman happens to know. They probably have something in common like work or a social group. A woman is not going to share any deep secrets with a Buddy.
BROTHER
A woman seeing a man as a Brother is probably the worst part of the friend zone. That means the women sees ZERO sexual value in a particular man. Even a Buddy with some effort can move into the Husband or Boyfriend category. When a woman puts a man into the Brother category on some level she is saying, “I will never have sex with you.” What she will do is treat you like her brother or depending on the situation, her sister. A woman will tell a Brother, “I haven’t had sex with my Husband in a year but that’s okay. Dick has been giving me that good-good. He got a big one and knows how to use it.” A man knows he’s been seen as a woman’s Brother when she has no problem discussing intimate details of her sex life with him.
THIRSTY
A woman sees a man as Thirsty when he just pesters the hell out of her and she has no interest in him. This is the guy who likes all of her pictures on social media or texts her all the time if he manages to get her number. Most women see men who catcall them on the street as Thirsty. Most women are turned off by Thirsty men. The reason why is because of how women think. Their reasoning is that if a man is getting regular sex he’s not going to be thirsty. Thus if a man is thirsty something must be wrong with him if he is not getting regular sex. A few women will keep a Thirsty man around for a spare Dick. Thirsty men are to women what fat ugly women are to men, easy. Every now and then a woman needs somebody who is going to come over and eat the pussy without any major problems. Many will string along a Thirsty man for this reason.
CREEP
Thirsty men tend to be decent looking enough for some women to string along. Creeps are Thirsty men who are physically repulsive to women. They are unable to physically arouse women. Indeed their presence tends to evoke negative feelings in women. A man in the Dick category can say, “Good morning” to a woman and she will go weak in the knees. A Creep says the exact same thing he might get cursed out and have a video of him getting cursed out go viral on the internet. Women will get mad that a Creep even approaches them.
INVISIBLE
Women don’t even see these men. There could be a social event where are thirty men. Ten of the men are Invisible. Later when asked how many men were at the event most of the women in attendance will say, “About twenty.” Yeah it’s that deep. An Invisible can say, “Good morning” to a woman on the street and she won’t respond because she literally didn’t hear or see him. Many men don’t register on a woman’s radar. Women simply don’t see them. Even a Creep registers more than an Invisible.
*************
As I said these are only eight of the categories. Every SINGLE woman has a way she rates men which will be influenced by factors such as race, religion, economic class, and even whether she is in hurry to get home to watch a TV show. The average woman sizes up a man according to her criteria in a few seconds. They are very good at this. Indeed I call bullshit on women who act surprised when a man they’re dealing with turns out to be a loser. Very few women are fooled that easily by a man. Women learn how to read men from the time they are babies. The problem is women like to play innocent victims and many simps and white knights want to believe them. I’m going to go in on this in another blog.
The takeaway is that a man must work hard to find out how women really see him. Don’t ask family members. If they love you they won’t be honest. Ask women you think will tell you the truth. A player once told me that it’s very important to cultivate female friends who will practice tough love with you. They will let a man know how other women see him. They will even suggest improvements. Once a man knows how women see him he can make real progress in getting the women he truly desires.
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