Category: Seduction

Always Another Level

6/21/2015

            There was stuff I wanted to add to the blog last week but I didn’t want to take any shine from Shophar.   Thing is we are still in teacher/student mode, only now sometimes he’s the teacher and I’m the student.   We go deep.   Deeper than anything I put online. The knowledge we bounce off of each other will one day change the current dysfunctional nature of male/female relationships. Right now the knowledge is known and practiced by a select few.   We both apply this knowledge in our everyday lives.   When a critical mass of people begin to apply this knowledge the culture, and indeed the world will change. Yeah it’s that powerful.

            Now I’m bringing this up because I could easily act like I’m high and mighty to the point where someone I once taught cannot teach me.   That’s never been my character though.   There is one lesson that has served me well in life. There are actually many lessons but one in particular stands out.   The lesson was learning to be humble.

            Now I know some readers are like “Rom? Humble? Please!”   Yeah I do have a good size ego. Having an ego is a good thing if it helps one to accomplish their goals in life.   My ego has driven me to get my education, to have jobs where I can help people, to start successful businesses, to write books, and to write this blog when I would rather be chilling listening to good jazz.   Yes I will big up myself but that’s not what being humble means.   Being humble means that no matter who I think I am or who I want to be I will shut the fuck up and listen to someone when they are trying to teach me something.   I’m a person who learns from whoever I come into contact with. Indeed when people first meet me in many cases they think I’m quiet or even shy. Far from it. I just give people a chance to say what they have to say.   Sometimes I learn something, sometimes I don’t.   Over the years I’ve had women especially, drop some gems that helped me to date and have sex with some very beautiful women. Let me tell a bit of my story.   No matter where I thought I was with women, by humbling myself and listening I was always able to take things to another level. There were three occasions that stand out in my mind.

            The first occasion was sometime in 1990.   I was where many men who read dating, seduction, and game blogs want to be now.   I had zero problem approaching women whether it was on the streets during the day or in night clubs at night. I had a smooth rap as we said back then. Smartphones didn’t exist so we had little black books.   Mine was like the yellow pages with several volumes.   Collecting numbers was very easy. I had the sharp suits, the leather jackets, and the shoe game was on point.   I always kept a fresh haircut. I already had a college degree and was working on an advanced degree.   Let’s keep it raw, the race element played a part as well as many Black women don’t so much complain about the shortage of men but about the shortage of EDUCATED Black men. Oh yeah, oh yeah, getting dates was very easy.   I had to work a bit harder for sex but I was getting my cut (pun intended). I just wasn’t getting my cut as much as I liked but still more than the average man.   Now the only real weakness I had which I didn’t see as such was my weight. I was about twenty to thirty pounds overweight.   I still had everything else though and my dick still got wet on a consistent basis.   Then something happened to push me to a new level.

            I had a date with this fine woman. She was hot.   We knew each other for a while and had kissed and grinded at a party before.   So we go to this concert. We have a good time with some friends. After the show I wanted some sex. Seemed logical to me. Not to her apparently. She declined and told me why. She said I was too big for her. If I was in my ego I would have got mad but I humbled myself and received her message.   See I was raised by my Grandmother and she would talk to me whether or not she thought I was listening. She told me when I was little to listen to a person when they tell you about yourself.   Especially if that person tells you in private.   She said don’t get mad and thank the person because if one person sees something others do as well.   Incidentally the woman who told me about my weight was a dear friend for many more years.

            The outcome of that moment was that I started jogging to lose weight.   It had immediate benefits as women who had previously put me in the dreaded friend zone decided they wanted to show my penis some oral love.   Even the quality of women I was dealing with improved as the pounds melted away.   The thing is I still had a ways to go.

            The second occasion was in the summer of 1991.   After getting my post graduate degree I decided to go into federal law enforcement. I was in the application process for a very prominent agency.   Part of the process was a physical test I had to pass.   So instead of casually jogging a couple of miles I now had to RUN those miles because the test required that I run two miles under 16 minutes.   I was also required to do a certain amount of pushups and sit-ups.   Instead of casually exercising, I was in full training mode.   I reached my optimum body weight and build during that summer.   I was 190 lbs. with less than 10 percent body fat.   One woman said I was built like a cross between a Marine and male stripper.   I started getting more sex from women but to keep it raw it wasn’t because of the body. The body was only part of the equation.

            During that summer I was dealing with some sex workers.   I can’t disclose the nature of that encounter without violating some laws.   Honestly the legal nature of the encounters wasn’t the most significant thing.   When I dealt with these sex workers they had a lot to say about male/female relationships.   The info they gave me isn’t something that’s in the public sphere.   Indeed since that summer I have read books, attended seminars on everything from men cheating to Tantric sex, read blogs, and have talked with thousands of men and women and have YET to have this info repeated back to me. I have never seen it written anywhere even on blogs where men claim to be players.   These sex workers gave me valuable insight into a woman’s nature. Basically these sex workers taught me how to SEDUCE a woman very easily.   I was an attentive student. The info is so powerful I rarely discuss it even when I’m around actual players. There were exceptions which I’ll get into later. None of my books or blogs contain the info.   Despite what people think to the contrary men who are true seducers are EXTREMELY rare.   99.9 percent of men get women because the women think they are cute or they fulfill some need. That thing called “game” only works in a man’s mind.   Women let men think it works because it’s easier.

            So by humbling myself I was able to get more sex than I knew what to do with.   I entered a place I’ll call the sexual underworld.   I don’t mean in terms of alternative lifestyles like BDSM or swinging. It was a world I saw the sexual face of women even when they wanted to hide it. It was a world where the church lady who wore conservative clothes during the day had sex with four men at the same time that night. It was where that lame dude who looked like a virgin had ten women in a sexual rotation.   It was world where people showed their true sexual faces.   With the skills I had I used to seduce women to pass the time.   I wouldn’t even bother to have sex with a woman once she was seduced.   I got more from the chase with some women.   Keep in mind one dynamic that is true even to this day. I have very rarely been a woman’s type despite everything I had going for me.   When women discussed their ideal man I never fit the description.   I managed to get around that though.

            The third occasion came in 1998.   I was having a conversation with an older woman. To this day I can’t remember the content of the entire conversation. I just remember a statement she made.   Now I had the body, status, money, car, apartment in affluent neighborhood, and some serious seduction skills that I was growing weary of using.   This woman without smiling told me one of the most profound things someone has ever told me.   In a brief sentence she changed my perspective of how I looked at women.   The understanding that she gave me got me to the point where quality women were ROUTINELY approaching me.   I didn’t have to use seduction skills, I wasn’t working out as hard so I wasn’t at my optimum body weight. I even stopped going on dates. Women would just come to my apartment. It got to the point where I worked to dissuade women from coming over. I told one woman I didn’t have any food she said she would bring some.   I had women who would straight up tell me they wanted to have sex with me.   Women started getting pissed if I didn’t show any sexual interest. I was doing this without spending money or actively seducing.   All because I humbled myself to listen to a woman’s thoughts and then changing my thinking.

            One thing I need to say before closing out this blog.   Many will read this blog and then hit me up privately to find out the secrets I’m keeping. Don’t waste your time. First of all for a man to use the knowledge shared with me he would have to have a certain foundation in place. A man who has had limited sexual contact with a woman would not be able to employ the techniques. I had considerable dating and sexual experience when I encountered the sex workers. I already had a frame of reference to process what they told me.   A man who had experienced multiple rejections from women would have dismissed the info as science fiction.     I’ve shared the info in the past and many men didn’t get any results.   Notice I said many men.   The second reason I don’t share the info easily is because one time I carelessly gave a womanizer with bad intent an insight on how to see a woman’s sexual face and he took it and became a more efficient womanizer.   He was the type who would have sex with all of his friend’s wives and girlfriends.    The bad part was I gave the info freely.   So please don’t hit up my inbox asking for some tips.   Work on the foundation first which is the body and learning how to talk to women.   Pay your dues first.

            This isn’t about so much listening to a woman’s advice or changing to please a woman. This is bigger than that.   I’ve humbled myself to listen to many men.   See I read many blogs and websites. I talk to a lot of people. Many men think they are on top of the game.   Many men are considered players simply because they talk to a woman.   Some men think if they get consistent dates they are the man.   Some men think they have arrived if they have sex with a new woman every other month.   One thing I see is a lot of arrogance.   Many men need to humble themselves because no matter where they are there is always another level.

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The Beautiful Ones

11/16/2014

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            Back in the late nineties I was working on an interesting book project.   It was a novel about a subculture of extremely beautiful people and the problems they face.   Hey, hey, hey, don’t laugh.   If you watch any television show on the CW network you would think this subculture really existed.   I’ve always had a fascination with subcultures.   Sometimes I even think of getting a formal sociology degree even though I took more than a few of these classes in school.   That might be something to do.

            Anyway as part of my research I put an ad in a local newspaper looking for “extremely attractive men and women for a research project.”   I only talked to a few individuals.   A couple were looking to get paid and a few more I played phone tag with.   The few I talked to included an attorney who said he didn’t get taken seriously in court or while playing sports and another guy who was a gay intellectual with an astronomical IQ.   No joke.   This dude was on some serious deep esoteric, intellectual stuff that suggested to me he was born maybe two centuries too soon.   He was talking about concepts found in the classic movie, The Matrix, three years before the movie came out.

            Since I didn’t get enough people from my ad I talked to some male and female friends who other people would consider extremely physically attractive.   I emphasize the term PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE.   Beauty is in the eye of beholder and also how someone comes across.   For example, someone who physically wouldn’t stand out in a crowd can still be considered attractive if they have charisma and great grooming.   Some people become more attractive as you get to know them.   These types weren’t going to be the focus of my novel.

            I was interested in those rare individuals who have what I call optimal genetic beauty.   They have a great bone structure that transcends race, nationality, and culture.   Indeed, many of the individuals I interviewed and knew personally were multiracial.   There were also a few I interviewed who could be said to be the optimal genetic representative of their racial phenotype.   One was a muscular chocolate brotha who had women swooning. Women would see us talking and then take me to the side and ask, “So who’s your friend?” Another was a pale Irish redhead whose skin looked like porcelain.   There’s actually some science behind what I just wrote but it’s some really deep stuff I don’t go into publicly.

            The angle I was going to take with my novel was about the inner life of physically beautiful people.   Using my chocolate buddy as an example, so many women used to ask me about him I thought about pimping him.   Seriously this dude used to have women just throw themselves at him.   Thing was he was laid back and even shy.   What I really found interesting was that women would think and ask all sorts of things about him based on his physical appearance and they would be off by miles.   He got plenty of sex but he really wasn’t a classic player trying to juggle multiple women.    He was just a good person.   Many women thought that because of his looks that he was womanizing dog.   Naw, he was more of a serial monogamist.

            He was just one example.   What I found most was that these beautiful ones faced a lot of stress because of their looks especially the women.   Extremely beautiful women have a reputation of being airheads with nothing to do but look good.   A few seem like they deserve this reputation upon first meeting them.   Getting to know them though I found these women to be deep and fascinating individuals.   This has always been the case.   For example, I knew one very beautiful young woman who was working as an exotic dancer.   Physically she was a traffic stopper with her face and body.   She was also voracious reader who could probably hack a government computer network. I remember her telling me, “Rom leave those PC’s alone! Get yourself a MAC.”

            Many of the beautiful ones have a deep inner life but because of the culture we live in people don’t really care.   The whole PUA/Seduction industry is based on getting these extremely beautiful women.   Any street harassment an average woman faces is magnified for the extremely beautiful woman.    I remember when I worked at a health club in downtown DC and I almost had to throw hands with a man who followed one of the workers into the club.    This worker have a very beautiful face and the body of video vixen.   Outside of her physical appearance she was very sweet person.

            Things can be almost as bad for physical attractive men.   There is a subculture of men on the internet who feel if they get plastic surgery to improve their looks they will finally get women.   Maybe, but there are many physical attractive men feel differently.   The thing about the physically attractive man is that he typically is not a player.   Most are genuinely nice men who won the genetic lottery.   Most womanizing men are not drop dead gorgeous.   On average, womanizers are plain looking men with good bodies and nice clothes.    Looks matter to women but not necessarily extraordinary looks.   A reality is that while women may stare at and lust for a gorgeous man, actually talking to one may not happen.   Most women are intimidated by a very good looking man.   The average woman doesn’t want to be around a man who looks better than her.   Even in cases where this does happen any insecurities she has will come to the surface.

            Also physically attractive men typically do not have incentive to develop the skillsets of player.   Though most women are intimidated there are still going to be some aggressive women.   In all these stories in the media about female teachers having sex with male students we always see the pictures of the women.   I guarantee that if the pictures of the boys were shown they will be pretty boys with toned bodies.   A man used to aggressive women will typically get caught up with one woman who takes care of his needs. Other physically attractive men will have nerdy interests and mannerisms.   Some women will be this way as well.   I recall a conversation I had recently with a very physically attractive but awkward young woman who is a regular at comic book conventions as a cosplayer.

            I think about these beautiful ones as I think about the more average people who chase them.   There have been whole subcultures that have developed for the purposes of having sex with extremely beautiful women.   Quiet as it is kept there are also a few subcultures of women who are focused on admiring and securing extremely handsome men.   These subcultures can be found on social media if one knows where and how to look.   It’s amazing to me how people try to discount looks and yet so many people are not satisfied unless they have a mate who is very physically attractive. Even people who are in nominally loving relationships will step out if given an opportunity with a Beautiful One.

            Honestly that’s normal. Two things need to happen though. First we need to stop pretending that looks, especially good looks, don’t matter.   It’s a politically correct and a marketing lie for dating companies that needs to be put to rest.   Second, people need to remember that Beautiful Ones have personalities and quirks just like anyone else.   For the person that has to have a Beautiful One they have to get past the looks and focus on the personality.   Sometimes the personality is even more beautiful than the outer shell.

            One issue extremely attractive men and women have always said to me is that they want to be seen as human.   Too many people treat the Beautiful Ones as objects and not as human beings who need love, affection, and companionship like everyone else.

            As far as that novel, read the final product in my serialized story, Those Eyes.   For a long time the working title of the book was, The Beautiful Ones.

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Is She You?

9/28/2014

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           Is she you? Now I'm old school. Back in the day the fellas and I would be checking out some girls and we would ask each other, "Is she you?" What was meant by this phrase was whether this particular young lady would be a good match for the young man checking her out. A sad reality is that most men are not with a woman who truly compliments their personality, their goals, indeed their very being. To make it simple most men are not with the right woman.

         The majority of men who are in relationships or just dating are dealing with women that the men consider, shall we say, less than optimal. These women may have a negative disposition, a boring personality, and in most cases, physically unappealing. The one positive about these types of women is that they are receptive to the man, at least to some extent. Ask yourself, how often have you seen a fairly decent man with some overweight, ugly woman with a bad attitude? The reason you see this constantly is that the woman will at least have sex with the man. The man in this case is simply settling for sex to the point he will put up with the other negatives. The man may feel like he can do no better.

         On the other hand there are some men with women who are drop-dead gorgeous with beautiful faces and killer bodies. This is what most men want right? There's still a problem. A beautiful woman is great when you first get one. You're feeling good and men envy you. Then after being with her awhile you start finding out that all that glitters is not gold. You find out that once you get beyond the pretty package, you and this woman have nothing in common. It's kinda like that car that looks good in the showroom but once you take it off the lot you find yourself in the repair shop every other week. The relationship becomes more of a burden than you thought it would be. You hang in there though because she looks so good.

        It's very important that a man focuses his energy on finding the right woman. Now I understand that every now and then we might have to make that midnight call. Sometimes that dumpy woman is one who will be available at two in the morning. It is good for the ego to get with the sexy woman every other man is sweating. When we're talking long term or a woman who truly compliments the MAN, fellas have to exercise care in finding the right one.

        Now I know some men reading this may think they have to put a facade to get certain women but a man can be who he is and still find the right one. In my books I don't ask that a man shed traits he thinks aren't appealing to women. My books simply ask that you add to the foundation that you have already established. A man must always focus on finding someone who fits with HIS personality and life goals. Trust me, a man can still get a beautiful and complimentary woman this way. I'll use my own experiences as an example.
         Now in my player days I practically lived in the gym. So I had the confidence, the looks, the body, and the educational/professional status. I was also a big science fiction fan and comic book geek. Most men would hide their geeky side and show only the confidence, education, and looks. I showed all sides and still got the women. Women would call me up to talk and I would tell them, "Call me back, I'm watching Star Trek." Sometimes I would take a woman to the comic book store with me. The interesting thing I found though was that there are a great many drop-dead gorgeous women who are science fiction fans and comic book geeks too. It was a drop-dead gorgeous woman, who was a 9 on a bad day, who told me to check out The X-Files many years ago.
         My point is that I invested time and energy in women who fit the MAN I represented. I never tried to be cool and fit a woman's reality. No man can truly do that. The man either clicks with woman or he doesn't.
          So the question all men need to ask themselves, "Is she you?"

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August 17th, 2014

8/17/2014

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Develop Your Own Style

7/27/2014

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            There are millions of men looking for ways to improve their relationship experiences with women.   A whole subculture/industry has developed around seduction gurus, dating coaches, bloggers, and websites.   It’s proven to be financially lucrative for many men and some women as well.   Thing I’m seeing though is that men don’t seem to be getting better in their interactions with women.   In my personal view things are getting worse.   I don’t say this lightly. I’m one of those men who will dig deep and ask a lot of personal questions if I’m trying to find the solution to a problem.   Many men quite simply are failing to connect with women despite the resources out there.   That’s because there is a real issue with how these resources are shared.

            See men are really just copying the styles and techniques of their coaches and gurus and not developing their own thing.   The men aren’t being authentic and true to themselves.   For example one man may take a seminar where the instructor says to approach 100 women a week.   The man thinks this is a good idea because the he has seen videos of the instructor successfully approaching and even kissing women in the street.   So the man takes notes and a few days later goes out and approaches as many women as possible and is harshly rejected most of the time and the few phone numbers he gets are from women who simply wanted him out of their faces.   The man can’t figure out what went wrong.

            Another man may not go to a dating seminar or even bother reading books. He believes that as long as he works hard, has money, and shows a willingness to be a good provider women should find him attractive. He gets frustrated when he sees women with lazy thugs who can’t afford their own cars while he has a Mercedes C-Class and a large house.    After all he knows other men with the same things who have more women than they know what to do with.

            These men are having problems because they are following someone else’s style.   I written before that it would be a con job for me to teach “game.” Things work a certain way for me because of my nature which is unique to me.   I can tell a man to look directly into a woman’s eyes when he talks to her and she will be sexually aroused.   Most men will fail. Looking into a woman’s eyes works for me because women consistently tell me I have pretty eyes.   The method would only work for another man with pretty eyes.   A man doing the same thing with unremarkable eyes could be considered creepy.

            The most a seduction guru or dating coach can give a man is a perspective.   In my own coaching the most I give a man is my perspective and perhaps what I have seen work with a group of men generally.   Ultimately a man has to develop his own style. He has to develop skills and techniques that are unique to who he is and his mission in life.   He can’t worry about what everybody else is doing.   Let me use the analogy of basketball.

            Of the five players on the basketball court, each one has his own game.   The point guard’s game may be passing and penetrating to the basket.   He may not have a good outside shot but that’s cool.   He helps the team win by playing his game.   The shooting guard may be able to rain three point shots all game but may not be good penetrating.   The small forward may be good at ball-handling and defense but can only hit an occasional outside shot.   The power forward may be a beast on the boards but non-factor for scoring.   The center may be good at blocking shots and have a great inside game but can’t hit a three pointer.   All of them contribute just in different ways. Their different styles are all legitimate.

            In the game of men chasing women a man has to find his personal style. Using myself as an example many things that are taught in dating seminars didn’t work as well for me.   Many men will say “approach, approach, approach.”   Well when I was younger I would do that and get shot down.   Then I started noticing that when I was more laidback or even non-chalant women would approach me.   What I found was that when I approached women they would ask themselves, “Why is this good-looking man approaching me with these corny lines?”   The women would think something was wrong with me because in their minds someone that looks like me shouldn’t come off as thirsty.   I’ve had women tell me this was the issue.   Women have actually told me that I could have any woman I wanted.   I started chilling out and noticed that women would approach me on the street. Even to this day I have random women approach me, flirt with me, and even tell me to smile while I’m walking down the street.   This has been the case even when dressed like a bum in need of a shave and haircut. What I have works for me.

            Now if I taught men to do exactly what I do they would fail unless they had identical physical and mental attributes. See the next man may need to be a little more aggressive while out in public.   He may need to speak to more women and “shoot that jumper” as this one player I know likes to say. That’s cool.   Still another man may have to dress sharp just to get a woman to notice him.   He might need to have his haircut on point to get attention.   Still another man may need to limit approaching women to social environments where he is part of a group.

            In order for a man to develop his style he has to learn how to be PRESENT with women.   When I say present I mean a man has to literally be right there with a woman. Most men when they are with a woman are thinking about doing something in the FUTURE with her.   A man sees a thick booty woman while walking down the street and his thoughts go to doing her doggy style. He’s not paying enough attention to what she’s doing in the NOW.   He approaches her thinking about the future. He's not paying attention that she seems distracted. She has not given him any indication that she wants to be bothered.   He approaches her and she give him a crazy look. He keeps trying to talk to her until her girlfriend walks up and is ready to fight. Yeah I said girlfriend.   If he was present and not thinking about the future he would have noticed that despite the phat ass she didn’t give the vibe that she was into men.

            The main thing with a man being present is that he starts to pay attention to how women respond to him.   Using myself as an example the other day I was coming home from the gym and I stopped by the grocery store.   I had on a sleeveless shirt and some shorts.   Many women were staring and smiling.   I’ve learned that women really like my body so I wear clothes that show my physique.   Even when I dress up I wear fitted clothing.   It works for me.   Another man may notice that women pay attention to him when his head is shaved. Still another man may notice that women really respond to him when he is speaking.   Different things work for different men which brings me to my next point.

            Too many men get caught up in thinking that they have to be tall, muscular, and male model handsome in order to get women.   Yes being tall, muscular, and handsome will attract many women.   The problem is that men who don’t have these attributes feel like they can’t get women.   Bullshit.   I read a blog one time where the writer stated that women are only interested in one type of man; the tall, muscular, and handsome man.   The writer felt that women didn’t have “fetishes” like men do.   He said that there are “face men,” “breast men,” “ass men,” and “leg men.”   He also mentioned chubby chasers, men who like short women, and men who like tall women.   I would add that some men like buttafaces.   We all know this. What’s kept real quiet though is that women are the exact same way.

            Now women are more open about wanting the tall, muscular, and handsome men.   There is a growing industry of websites and even feminist porn where men are seen as sex objects.   What isn’t talked about publically though is that women do indeed have certain types that get them sexually open.   One such type is the Big Handsome Man (BHM) or as their called in the Black community “Teddy Bears.”   To be clear Teddy Bears in the Black community have nothing to do with the Bear subculture within the LGBT community.   Some women are turned on by big hamburger and fries eating dudes.   Some women are turned on by buttaface men.   Many women don’t want to be around a man who looks better than they do.   I’ve met women who were turned on by short men.   I’ve known many men in their forties and fifties who had twenty year olds chasing them.    For every type of man out there are women who are turned on by their particular attributes.

            A man has to be comfortable with who he is and his unique nature.   He always wants to improve himself but he has to be realistic.   A 5’6” man will not grow to over 6 feet tall.   What he can do pay attention to which women respond to him and play up his positive qualities that attract women.   Some big dudes might not get any more muscular.   They can deal with the women who like big men.   The bottom line is that a man can get another man’s perspective but ultimately he cannot be a clone.   All men have to develop their own unique style.

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Goodbar Clans

7/20/2014

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            So the star of the show in my books, blogs, and coaching is Mr. Goodbar. Well I write what I know.   It’s who I am. Actually women in the past have called me cocky, arrogant, player, bad boy, jerk, and those were the nicer comments.   They called me sexy too so for some odd reason the other names didn’t prove to be a hindrance to getting sex.   That might have to be the “Being Mr. Goodbar” book I need to get around to publishing.    Anyway Mr. Goodbar is in my blood as the men in my family had zero problems getting women. My great-grandfather was a minister that had the women in his congregation swooning.   My paternal grandfather was a “whoremonger” as my grandmother called him. He knew a woman’s body better than a doctor. My maternal grandfather was a smooth numbers runner who was a straight Mack.   My maternal uncle as a cop looked like Billy Dee Williams with a personality like Alonzo Harris from Training Day.   My father is a blue collar man who has women young enough to be my daughter chasing HIM. I have a couple of cousins who got paid by women for sex.

            My point though is not to provide my family background. My real point is Mr. Goodbar isn’t one single character type.   The men in my family represent different types of Goodbars.   My great grandfather was Black upper class while his daughter, my grandmother, married into a numbers running family. She in turn had a son who became a cop.   My father’s people were blue collar. My cousins were on that line between working class and Black Elite. All these men came from different places but represented different types of masculine sex appeal.   In the manner of role playing games and young adult novels I have identified eight types of Goodbars or as I’ll call them, Goodbar Clans.   What follows is a description of each group and their appeal to women.   One thing I will point out is that in earlier blogs I talked about Lovermen, Demon Lovers, and Male Freaks.   These titles don’t constitute separate groups because they are traits that can be found in men in any of the clans.

            One thing to note is that these clans are categorized according to how women are sexually turned on by them.   For example a woman will be turned on by men in two of the clans but unmoved by men in the other five clans.   There is no hierarchy in how these clans are presented.   Think of them as different styles of sexual seduction.

LOOKERS

            The Lookers are the pretty boys of the Goodbar Clans.   These men are extremely handsome. They have been blessed with great facial bone structure, and in many cases pretty eyes.   Lookers tend to have average bodies and be of average height.   Women really don’t care about a Looker’s body. A few rare Lookers may be a few pounds overweight.   Women are too busy staring at the face of a Looker to care about the rest of him.    Lookers tend to take care of their face and will always have a fly haircut.

BODYMEN

            Many women don’t want to be around a man that looks better than they do. These women get turned on by a man with an average face and muscular body.   The Bodymen are those cats with the killer physiques. They will have the big chest, broad shoulders, tall, muscular legs, and tight butts. Women say “dat ass” too. Women will want kiss the Lookers but will want to lick the chest and back of the Bodymen.   Ask me how I know.

SWAG CATS

            This clan is made up of men who are stylish dressers.   These men will have fly glasses or shades. Maybe a nice gold chain. Cotton shirts or polos.   Their pants will be pressed and creased. Rest assured their shoes will be shined to the point where you can see your reflection.   Even when dressed casually these men will have on crisp jeans or athletic suits. Many women are turned on by a man who knows how to dress.

BAD BOYS

            The Bad Boys are the Clan that catches the most hell.   Many non-Goodbars think this group gets the most attention. Not really but they get enough.   The Bad Boys tend to be decent looking with decent bodies. A big part of their appeal is their non-conformity.   From a physical point of view they don’t look like the mainstream population.   Their hair will be longer. They will have more tattoos than the average person.   They tend to make money in sometimes illegal ways or if legal outside the normal nine to five. Many may be artists.

COOL DUDES

            The Cool Dudes are the charismatic Clan.   They don’t have the looks and the body.   They are average dressers and they tend to be more mainstream.   They are the men who can click with damn near everybody.   Women are rarely turned on by the Cool Dudes at first. A woman may meet a Cool Dude and immediately put him in the friend zone. Then she talks to him for an hour and is ready to take him to a motel.   The Cool Dudes know how to connect to a woman emotionally.

BANGERS

            The Bangers are not necessarily handsome or have the best looking bodies. They tend to be built solid but not with muscular definition.   Many may have a bit of a gut. They are not stylish dressers and are surprisingly conformist.   They are very down to earth.   The thing about them is that they look like they would fuck the shit out of a woman.   The Bangers tend to be the men women go to when they just need to some good dick.   Many people think women go to the Bad Boys or Bodymen for straight sex.   Naw they go to the Bangers.   See the other groups tend to be picky and will limit their sex partners to women who rate as an eight or above.   The Bangers will fuck anything female. And they will do it WELL.   These men aren’t making love with candles and rose petals.   Some women just want straight pounding and the Bangers happily oblige them.

THOROUGHS

            The Thoroughs don’t necessarily turn on women from raw sex appeal in terms of face and body. The Thoroughs turn on women because of how they handle themselves in life.   The Thoroughs turn on women because they are confident and aggressive in how they approach life. These men are natural leaders.   Most women and men for the matter were built to follow.   The Thorough is the man who will always take the lead. He will take charge of a situation without thinking about it. Women will unconsciously submit to a Thorough.   Many women are turned on sexually if they submit to a man.

TANTRA BROTHAS

            The eighth clan is a recent creation starting in 2007.   There is a tiny but slowly growing subculture of primarily Black men who are learning how to bring a woman to orgasm without touching them.   They are doing this through energy projection. Check out this video starting at the 4:00 mark. For the most part these men look like Nice Guys.   These men don’t have game.   As a result of learning energy techniques as well as going through some other regimens women are being sexually aroused by these men by simply being in the same room.   I estimate the number of men doing this to be less than 100 right now. In another ten years the numbers may be in the thousands.

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            So there you have it. If you look at the clans any man can become a Mr. Goodbar.   Many men will say that they’re ugly, or short, or broke and thus will not attract women.    Other than the Lookers, the Goodbars aren’t the most handsome.   Only the Bodymen have killer physiques.   The other clans are made up of average looking men.   The only thing they all have in common is sex appeal.   A man can be ugly, short, and broke and still get sex as long as he is a Cool Dude or Thorough.   He can still dress well like a Swag Cat. The Tantra Brothas are mostly nerdy in behavior and physical appearance. Yet many of them have multiple women.

            It’s all about self-improvement. Many of the men in the Mr. Goodbar category didn’t start off that way. One Looker showed me pictures of him that were very nerdy. When I met him he was modeling.   Every Bodyman had to pick up that first weight. Every Swag Cat had to take years to develop their personal style.   Every Bad Boy had to make a decision to be a non-conformist. Every Cool Dude had to talk to that first girl. The Bangers had to have that first sexual experience. Every Thorough had to develop his confidence. The Tantra Brothas had to learn their techniques.

            If a man wants to become a member of one of the clans he has to be willing to do the work.

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Why I Don't Teach Game, The Conclusion: The Real Deal

6/18/2014

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            So the question must now be if Rom doesn’t teach game, how can I get women? I’ll say this. Game does work. There is no disputing that.   A man using game can definitely get women. Even at the rudimentary level that is being taught by dating coaches and seduction gurus.   The real issue is what type of women are receptive to game.   The women most receptive to a man running game on them are not the top quality women men pay hundreds of dollars for books and seminars to meet.   The women most receptive to game tend to be either plain Janes or simply ugly, overweight, low self-esteem females who lack street smarts.   Even the physically attractive women who seem to be receptive to game have some things going on. The attractive women tend to be promiscuous anyway and quite frankly will have sex with a man whether he used game or not.   If I wanted to teach game I would simply teach men how to tell if a woman is promiscuous or easy regardless of her mask.   My point in all this is that men using game are not getting the best they can get.   They are getting grocery store hamburgers instead of steakhouse Filet Mignons. So what should a man do?

            First thing a man needs to understand is that women WANT to have sex.   Many men have the false belief that women are not as interested in sex as men.   As a result many men approach women thinking they have to convince the woman to have sex.   She’ll have sex just maybe not with him.   The first mistake is that men tend to approach women who are not trying to seduce them. Women are really as sexually aggressive as men. They just express their aggression in a different way.   Instead of approaching a man, a normal woman will dress, and behave in such a way as to draw a man to her. Women by nature are seductive. They want to draw your attention to them. That’s how they hunt.   A young girl on my day job had a short sexy dress. I complimented her and said, “You’re hunting aren’t you?” She answered, “Yeah I’m looking for a new man.”   A man doesn’t really need game to get a woman. He simply needs to pay attention.   If he pays attention he will notice that at least one woman has been trying to seduce him.   The key for a man is to develop himself into the type of man a woman will want to seduce.

            The first thing a man has to do is develop his physical sex appeal. Women are turned on by a man’s body period.   A woman has to be able to look at a man and want to PHYSICALLY have sex with him.   Forget all that mess about WORDS turning a woman on.   A man’s body turns a woman on, period.   Now let me explain why it seems like a man’s words turn a woman on.   Women are moved primarily by emotion. They are built that way.   Men need to stop expecting women to be rational. They can be but they are primarily moved by emotion. A woman’s emotions are moved by her hormones. That’s why a woman’s moods changes by the week, even day to day.   Now what women do is rationalize their emotions.   Let me get Dexter Goodbar in here to illustrate my point.   A married woman, Gwen, meets Dexter at a store he owns.   She immediately lusts him.   Dexter picks up on it and immediately hits her with his sexually enticing conversation.   Gwen wants him bad because her lust is affecting her emotions.   She starts thinking that her husband isn’t attentive or that good in bed.   What she is doing is rationalizing her desire to sleep with Dexter.   She sleeps with Dexter and tells her friends.   Instead of saying that she was simply turned on by Dexter’s body she says that he said all the right things.   The truth is that Dexter was trying to get a sale and his best sales technique with women is to flirt with them.   Gwen had decided she was going to sleep with Dexter when she first laid eyes on him.   She just had to rationalize her choice.

            Men need to understand the reality of a woman’s sexual aggression.   If there is a man thinking he still thinking he needs game let me share this.   There are plenty of stories in the media about female teachers having sex with underaged male students.   Those are just teachers.   There are many older women who seduce and sleep with teenaged boys. Something I’ve NEVER shared before but I will do so now.   When I was seventeen I had a brief relationship with an older woman. I don’t want give away the details. I didn’t see it as abuse or a bad thing. It’s just something that happened.   The thing about it though is that I didn’t use any type of game. I just allowed myself to be seduced.   She was pretty and besides the physical aspect we were both science fiction fans.   My point is that I was able to get her without using any type of game.  She wanted me and I allowed it.

            So a man needs to understand a woman’s true sexual nature as well the need to work on his body. Just a note about that. A man does not have to be super-muscular or drop dead handsome to attract a woman. It doesn’t hurt but if someone isn’t blessed with great genetics he call still turn on a woman physically.   Women like different types of bodies. Some women like tall and beefy, some like short and slim.   A man needs to work on developing the best body that he can. He then needs to pay attention to see which women are turned on by his particular body.   All men really don’t need to have movie star looks to get women.   Most women don’t want to be with a man who looks better than they do. All a man has to be is decent looking with a body that appeals to a particular women.   The only women that tend to want a man that looks better than them are buttaface women.   The reason is that it makes them look good by being able to seduce a good-looking man.   Most men classified as Mr. Goodbar have average to slightly above average faces.   Men who are extremely handsome tend to have issues with women for numerous reasons I’ll get into in a future blog.

            Other than his physical presentation a man needs to work on his overall character.   A man doesn’t need to and shouldn’t change his basic personality to get a woman. If he is naturally cool and calm he shouldn’t become gregarious because he thinks it will attract women. Many women are attracted to cool and calm men.   A gregarious man shouldn’t try to be laid back because he thinks it will attract women.   Many women are attracted to gregarious men.   See what many dating coaches and seduction coaches teach men is how to wear a mask.   That’s why so many men fail.   Men have to be themselves.   They have to develop their character.   Too many want to become a clone of someone else. For example, many men try to emulate pimps because they see how pimps control women.   First of all pimps do is manage women, they don’t control them.   Most women who get with a pimp are naturally promiscuous anyway.   All most pimps do is take advantage of the prostitute’s basic nature.   There are plenty of women out there who sell their bodies for money and they don’t have a pimp.   I first learned of that hustle during my childhood.   I also know some former sugar babies.   People really don’t know how deep the sexual underworld goes.   Yet another future blog. My point about pimps is that men try to emulate that which they don’t know about. The books on the market about pimps, even those by pimps, are just the tip of the iceberg.   Ask me how I know.

            When I talk about character that deals more with how some men interact with other people.   The reason most men fail with women is not because they are ugly, or broke, or don’t have game.   Some men are just not likeable.   I was at a wedding reception one time.   I was sitting at the table with a lame ass dude. We’re at a joyous occasion and all this lame dude was doing was complaining about how women don’t like him.   I guess not.   He really wasn’t likeable as a human being.   He wasn’t the type of person I would invite out with a group for some beers.   Many so-called Nice Guys are whiny and obnoxious.   A woman could be turned on physically by a man and still get turned off when he opens his mouth.   Words won’t seduce a woman but they will sure as hell turn her off.   A man needs to work having a positive character.   Nobody wants to be around a negative individual. A man who wants to attract women needs to work on being likeable by women. This doesn’t mean agreeing with everything a woman says.   It means being cool to be around. A man has to get to the point where a woman wants to be around him because it feels good to her. A negative man isn’t going to make a woman feel good.

            I use the character of Dexter Goodbar as an example of a man who gets women based on his physical appearance. A few blogs ago I introduced the character of Jimmy Cool. Jimmy is Dexter’s cousin. Jimmy isn’t fine like Dexter but women love him because he is cool to be around. Let me share another thing about myself. I attracted many women because they liked how I looked physically.   There were other women I got with who looked at me and said, “He aw’ight.” There were a few women who didn’t like me all at when I first met them.    I won these women without trying because they were able to get to know me and considered me to be really cool. For the most part I'm a positive person to be around.   I’m not the type who complains a lot.   If I complain publically about something I usually try to come up with a solution.   See I was a person women liked being around even if I wasn’t having sex with them or spending money on them. I’ve always had a lot of female friends. Ironically I’ve only heard the term “I only see you as a friend” a few times.   Those women who friendzoned me were women I either eventually had sex with or they expressed a desire to do so. All because I stayed cool and kept a positive character.

            This doesn’t need to be too complicated.   Instead of taking the shortcut of game and getting subpar women a man needs to develop his body and his character. The more his body and character is developed the better the quality of women who will try to seduce him.   At the end of the day that’s what it’s all about: a man being the best version of himself and getting the best out of life.

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Why I Don't Teach Game Part 2: Demon Lovers

6/16/2014

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            Most people who want to learn that thing called “game” are motivated by desires for sex and love.   They realize that they are not the most physically attractive person so they want to learn any method they can to improve their sexual value. I get that. Whole industries have developed to help them with that.   For men an example is the seduction industry with books, videos, and seminars.   Quite as its kept women have their own things as well. Most women’s magazines have articles on methods to deal with men. Also you have the cosmetics industry to make a woman look more beautiful than she actually is as well as intimate apparel to make their bodies look tighter.   Also high heel shoes serve no real functional purpose yet women wear them to make their legs and butt look more sexually appealing.   Now that’s game.   Most of the men who attend seminars and the women who shop at lingerie stores are essentially good people who really want love.   In general they don’t have negative intentions towards the opposite sex.    That’s not the case with Demon Lovers.

            There are men and women in our society who are…different from everyone else. Their thinking and outlooks on life are different.   These…people are predators plain and simple.   They are like serial killers in a way. Instead of killing people they kill a person’s spirit. They do so through sexual relationships.   They are the Demon Lovers.   The vampire myths probably arose from people dealing with these entities in ancient cultures.    In his book, The Natural Blueprint for Relationships (Natural Blueprint) Yao Nyamekye Morris devotes a whole chapter to Demon Lovers. He refers to them as “fiends of the sexual underworld.”   He had this to say:

             The fiends of the sexual underworld do not necessarily look like the demons we see in comic books. It is just the opposite. Most often, they are men and women who are above average in the looks department. Many of them look trustworthy and innocent on the surface. They have one thing in common. He or she is skilled at saying the things you want to hear. They may not have a degree in psychology but they are very perceptive in sizing someone up. They have trouble relating to the opposite sex in normal ways, so they compensate by exploiting weaknesses and unfulfilled desires. The men know that most men are not as romantic and sensitive as the typical woman would like. So they learn how to be better at that than the average male. They listen for clues and act on them. These men are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please a woman because they have nothing to lose. They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship. They don’t care about you or what you think about them. But they make you think they care very much.

             The female demon lovers know that most black men do not feel appreciated and respected by the black woman. And the first thing they do is show him how much they respect and appreciate what he is about. They normally dress in a provocative manner and make it clear that fulfilling the man’s sexual desires is a high priority for them. They listen for clues about what the man likes and then are quick to act on them. Those women are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please her man. They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship. They don’t care about you or what you think about them. But they make you think they care very much.

              The Natural Blueprint for Relationships P. 251.

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               Even though Natural Blueprint was written for an African American audience, the part about Demon Lovers can be applied to any race or culture.   I’ve met a few white Demon Lovers.

               So what does this have to do with game and why I don’t teach it? For one thing Demon Lovers are the top of the pyramid as far as “game.” You’re talking the ultimate manipulators. Even Pimps have nothing on Demon Lovers. What dating coaches and seduction gurus teach is a pathetic joke next to what a Demon Lover can do.   You’re talking about people that will consciously destroy a person’s life for no other reason than their own amusement.   There are the men playing mind games with women for no other reason than to pass the time.   You have women are stealing another woman’s loving husband for no other reason than that she can.   Those are the “nicer” Demon Lovers.   Some Demon Lovers are literally weapons of mass destruction. I’m not exaggerating.

               Every now and then there is a story in the media about a person intentionally infecting a large number of people with a sexually transmitted disease such as HIV.   Think about it, a single man or woman has unprotected sex with several hundred people and infects them with HIV.   Those men and women go out and get into relationships or have sexual encounters, thus spreading HIV to several thousand more people.   Many will die or at the very least get very sick and may get financially ruined paying medical expenses.   That’s a weapon of war right there.   A single Demon Lover can literally destroy whole communities.

              Stop and think about it.

              Now what is my connection to Demon Lovers? Remember in part 1 of this blog series I said I spent a part of my childhood in a dysfunctional environment. It wasn’t just my home but pretty much a mile radius around my house. There were folks around there who made the characters on The Wire look like the law-abiding citizens.   My mother’s “friends” were one thing. My own were another.   So I’m hanging around other kids my age and to say they were “interesting” is an understatement. There was one friend I’ll call Zeke. Zeke had the pretty boy thing going as well as being a true thug.   The little girls loved him enough to engage in an eight year-old’s approximation of sex.   Zeke kept me on my toes because he would manipulate anyone around him without remorse.   He was fairly sociopathic. Last I heard about Zeke he was serving time for premeditated murder. Another kid I’ll call Bo used to suck older boy’s dicks but chased little girls as well. Bo had a big crush on my sister.   He probably grew up to be a DL brotha.   Another kid I’ll call Dan was just nasty. Every conversation with him involved sex.   He probably grew up to be pimp or a porn actor.   As far as myself, I’ll put it like this, my street name was “Romeo.”   At my house, some of my mother’s WOMAN friends did things like walk around in their underwear and at least one always wanted to “hug” me. That’s all I care to say about that.   My point is that looking back I was exposed to Demon Lovers at a very young age.

          I also took on many of their traits.

          When people used to ask me to teach them how to be a dog they didn’t do so because I was some smooth player who brought a smile to woman’s faces and could be a fun date.   I was a straight up dog.   Love them and leave them wasn’t a tactic for me. It was just how I rolled.   It didn’t bother my conscience at all because MOST of these women had boyfriends or at least good guys who were interested in them.   I wasn’t going to get emotionally invested in a woman cheating on a man who obviously loved her.   If the woman got her heart broken because I didn’t return her phone call so be it. She had a man, cry on his shoulders.   Quite frankly I roll my eyes when women complain about men cheating.   Women do it more and are way better at it. See a woman will cheat within the rhythm of her daily activities.   There’s a certain period of time when her man thinks she’s doing one thing when she may be with someone in a hotel room.    A woman can send her man off to work, invite her 16 year-old neighbor over to the house, suck the young boy’s dick, and then have her husband’s dinner on the table when he gets home. She may even have sex with her husband that night.   The man is oblivious to his wife’s cheating because she’s submissive, she cooks, and gives him regular sex.   He thinks he’s running things.   Yeah right.

           As far as myself I was like Blade. I had all the Demon Lover powers but none of their weaknesses. I wasn’t the villain of the story. More like the morally ambiguous anti-hero of the story.   Another unique aspect of my childhood was that I used to read the Bible a lot. Could have been a child preacher. My mother before her nervous breakdown used to open our home to some of the local kids to teach them the Bible. That’s how I made some of my first friends.   My mother’s spiritual nature was unique in itself. She read the Bible but she also read New Thought material such as Norman Vincent Peale and Rev. Ike.   Many things people are talking about now she was talking about then.   She even got money for praying for people.   My home environment was sexualized and spiritual at the same time.   Plus if someone actually reads the Bible there were some players up in there.   King David set up his boy to get killed just to get at his wife. King Solomon (whom my mother compared me to) had 700 wives. Shoot, getting with multiple women was sanctioned by God as far as I was concerned. I say all that to say I had some type of moral compass to keep from going totally to the dark side.   Don’t get it twisted though there were times that had nothing to do with women where I did cross the line.   Y’all might not hear those stories.

          Now the average Demon Lover grew up in an environment where there wasn’t any type of moral compass.   See, religion is more than just a way to worship a person’s vision of God.   In this culture religion is a behavior control system.   Specifically most religions serve to control a person’s sexual nature.   If you pay attention to very religious people, particularly women in Protestant churches, you will notice that they typically dress in a way which deflects attention away from their bodies. When a man looks at them his first thought isn’t going to be, “I want to bang her.”   Her clothing and body language will not arouse him even if she is otherwise beautiful with a voluptuous body.   If the same woman was wearing a short dress and heels he would likely get a massive hard-on.   Now you raise a child in a non-religious environment with few other restrictions, they will not do anything to limit their natural sex appeal. Indeed they will dress in a way to magnify their body. Girls from dysfunctional homes typically dress in sexually provocative clothing even in instances where more conservative clothing would be appropriate.

          So you have a child in a dysfunctional environment who isn’t taught to suppress their sexual nature.   Let’s add some more ingredients to this mix.   You have a kid who has very good physical genetics.   The boys will grow up to have a tall muscular body while the girls will grow up to have a shapely body with optimal contrasts between the breasts, waist, and hips.   Add to this above average facial features.   On these factors alone the kids will grow to attract multiple mates.   There’s still more to add to the mix.   A Demon Lover has above average, even genius level social intelligence. Most IQ tests only test a person’s linguistic and mathematic ability.   It’s hard to test a person’s social genius or street smarts.   Indeed if there were such a test the Demon Lover would purposely underperform on it. Demon Lovers really aren’t normal. Yet they will make an effort to appear normal.   Looking normal is how Demon Lovers get over.

        When people think of players, there’s an image of men in flashy clothes, with tattoos and loud talking being the center of attention. With women it’s the image of someone wearing sexually provocative clothing. Demon Lovers are smart enough to look clean cut and innocent.   A male Demon Lover is likely to look like he is a church going nerd if it works for him. A female Demon Lover may look like a “goody goody girl” if it works for her.   I had an acquaintance who was bragging about his new girlfriend.   She was just perfect for him in his eyes. I met her and I knew something was up. She was very beautiful and very innocent looking. I caught something in her eyes though for a brief second.   I started to take the acquaintance to the side but he was so enamored with her he wouldn’t have received what I said. A few months I saw him again and found she stole money and personal items from him. Nothing is safe with a Demon Lover. Many a bank account has been emptied behind one.

         One thing sometimes people will see a Demon Lover in action and not know what they’re seeing. Men will see a bunch of women hovering around a Demon Lover and foolishly try to emulate what they see.   They think they can be a jerk and insult a woman and she will sleep with him.   Really it’s not the behavior itself that’s turning on a woman.   The woman is tolerating the behavior because the man is fulfilling some other need the woman has. One major need is sex. Women want to sleep with a sexy man period.   Also the Demon Lover picked up on the psychological need which he at least pretends to fill.   Notice I said pretends.   The Demon Lover exploits the needs for his own ends, which could be money or simply a place to stay. He might just want some ass and nothing else.   He might want the challenge of turning out a church girl.   A female Demon Lover may want to change her living situation.   A sexy woman can change her social class and financial situation by simply pussy whipping a rich man.   Many men can make money but lack common sense.   A female Demon Lover will stroke his dick and his ego and all of sudden she has a nice home and money.

          This is serious stuff. Many men out here want to learn game because they think with game they can go from a man who doesn’t get the time of day to becoming a player. Seriously if a man isn’t getting attention from women he has bigger problems he needs to deal with. Learning some dubious techniques won’t help him. The knowledge I have is dangerous.   Say hypothetically I give the knowledge to a bitter man.   That man isn’t going to go out and get into a functional relationship.   He’s not going to be loving towards women.   He’s going out for revenge. He’s going to take out all those years of frustration on some women who did nothing to him.   Many women now are catching hell now from men who didn’t get sex regularly when they were young.   Let me share something with you. All Demon Lovers don’t come from dysfunctional backgrounds.   There are a few men and women who develop the traits later in life. Let me use an example.

            You have a man named Fred.   Fred grew up in a home with both parents in a middle class neighborhood. Now Fred is slim and nerdy. He was never the type who went to parties or played sports. The girls in high school and college weren’t checking for him.   He gets a good career out of college and gradually makes enough money to get a house and late model car.   He has everything except the girl. So he starts checking out seduction material.   He improves a little bit because he is given rudimentary game. He’s instructed to approach several women a day and he has brief sexual encounters with a few women who are quite frankly unattractive and easy.   Fred is still frustrated until he runs into Dexter Goodbar and his cousins, Jimmy Cool and Damon Lover. He sees them in action at a club and offers them money to teach him. Dexter and Jimmy decline. Damon though agrees to teach him.   Damon blows Fred’s mind. Damon tells him some things that he can’t hear in a seduction seminar or find on the internet. Over the period of a year Fred is transformed but not in a good way.   Fred is able to get better women but because he learned from a Demon Lover he starts dogging them. See the thing that Fred didn’t deal with was his bitterness.   Fred made it his mission in life to dog as many women as possible because of numerous past rejections. Fred the Nice Guy closed his eyes, Fred the Demon Lover opened them.

          There’s too many Fred’s out there.   Too many men who allowed their spirits to be consumed by bitterness. When many men asked me to teach them how to be dogs they didn’t have good intentions.   These men would have been dangerous to women and I couldn’t be responsible for any damage caused. Now this is not to say that I won’t give insights. I mentioned “Roger” in the “Do The Work” blog.   I tell him whatever he wants to know. Why? He has a genuine love for women.   A love he likes to share with several women at the same time but still a love.   I’ll never put what I know in a book.   The knowledge I give in my books will increase the number of women a man can attract.   It requires work though in such a way that will enable a man to deal with his bitterness and other issues preventing him from attracting women.   Until a man deals with his personal demons he can’t be allowed access to the deeper knowledge.

          I’m going to do a part 3 to this series.   I’m going to talk about how man can attract women without using game.

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