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All About Sex

11/20/2013

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Another excerpt from my unpublished manuscript, "Being Mr. Goodbar."

    Why do women cheat on hardworking and devoted men?  Why do men and women defy custom and mores to couple with someone whose skin color contrasts sharply with theirs?  Why do my Brethren and I get the attention we do?

    It’s all about sex baby.

      Women are not casting sideways glances at men of handsome faces and buffed bodies while walking with their devoted mates because they think these pretty men are dependable workers who will faithfully keep a roof over their heads.  They are not thinking this sexy man will support their dreams and aspirations.  These women have their husbands for that.  No they want something more primal as they lustfully eye the men with confident strides and sexy smiles.

     We really don’t talk about sexuality in relationships.  The psychologists, sociologists, therapists, and talk show hosts will talk around sexuality, as if it is incidental to the maintenance of a relationship.  They will say that the couple just needs more communication, more time to talk about their goals together, and a respect for each other.  What somebody needs to ask is if the couple has a fulfilling sex life.

     Even the so-called experts who do discuss sexually do so in a clinical way or one tainted by religious bias.  I recall one such book by someone of national renown.  This person listed what a woman needed to be satisfied by a man.  Listening and washing the dishes were among the items listed as well as being treated nice.  I laughed out loud while browsing this book in the store.  The listed items were the specialties of the Nice Guy.  If this was what was needed for satisfaction the sexual hierarchy would be flipped on its head as the Nice Guy with his intellectual and sensitive veneer would be the object of desire for the masses of female humanity and Mr. Goodbar would be the one at home sexually frustrated while watching the latest straight-to-video DVD.

      As a society we are not publicly comfortable with a woman’s sexual needs.  The causes of this discomfort stem from socio-religious-political indoctrination formulated in many cases by men in power who were uncomfortable with their own sexuality.  That’s why we see so many boyish looking fashion models and not the voluptuous paradigm of a generation ago.

     In the surface world we put women on the pedestal of chaste perfection while we vilify the woman who is comfortable with her sexual desires and is blatant in their assertion.

      Damn, no wonder things are so crazy.  On one hand we tell the women to be chaste and pure and on the other hand we use the power of a woman’s sexuality to sell everything from toothpaste to outdoor grills.  It’s in this contradiction, this duality, which the shadow world exists.


       Women are not the only ones affected as many men buy into the illusions and suppress their sexuality to the point that once they get into a relationship they cannot satisfy their women.  After being left high and dry for the umpteenth time, these women become susceptible to the lure of Mr. Goodbar. A major reason Mr. Goodbar gets the women, to put it into the vernacular of those of less poetic sentimentality: he knows how to hit it.

      The sexual needs of the average woman are not met.   Their greatest complaint being that they don’t feel the rush of orgasmic pleasure.  Their men don’t make them feel good.  Many women seek a substitute for that elusive pleasure.  Some get high from shopping for items they have little or no use for.  Many others flock to church to get the spirit, as it becomes an abstract substitute for the pleasure they lack in their mundane world.

    Others are of a more pragmatic disposition as they flock to dark clubs to be entertained by the gyrations of muscular men inducing erotic trances with their sexually provocative and rhythmic movements.  Others are more discreet, settling for an occasional rendezvous with the smooth skinned man in the office two doors down as he kisses her neck and rubs her round posterior.  Sometimes that’s all she needs as she straightens her skirt, and sits back at her desk and calls her husband to ask what does he want for dinner.

     Is a rush of pleasure too much for a woman to ask for? Is carnal fulfillment something reserved for men?  Women need to get theirs too.  There needs to be a greater discussion about sexuality and not pretend it’s not significant.  Until this is done the problems stemming from bad relationships will continue to rise and Mr. Goodbar will continue to have his way.









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The Spirit of Man: Spiraling

11/6/2013

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    In my previous blogs I talked about the “House of the Man” and the levels of  man.   These were probably abstract concepts for most of the people reading the  blogs.   Only tiny subcultures of people are familiar with the concepts I  presented.    Perhaps in a hundred years or so the concepts will be applied and  practiced by the masses.  That’s my vision anyway.   For the time being it’s  important for men to develop the practice of spiraling.
            
     Spiraling, very simply, is evolving.   A man must constantly look to improve  himself spiritually, mentally, and physically.   A man must constantly strive to  bring forth the god within.   He must constantly work to expand his knowledge.    He must work to develop his physical body.  

         One issue I’m  seeing with the overwhelming majority of men is that they are content with
wherever they are in life.     They accept their lives.  Now some may say that  this is okay.  I say it’s some bull.    All people always want more at a deep  level.   They may lie to themselves and pretend like their crappy job is okay  and the car with no air-conditioning is cool.    They may act like they are cool  with a mate who treats them like crap.    At some point though reality smacks  them in the face and they will go into a deep depression because the weight of  dissatisfaction becomes too much for them to bear.   They don’t know what to  do.

            A man must keep moving forward.    If he doesn’t like his  job he must not just look for another one but must acquire the knowledge and  skills necessary to move forward.    Once he improves his economic position he  can improve his material position.   With a better job he can fix the car or get a better one.   He can get a nicer home.   He can move forward to take care  of his physical needs.

            Many men don’t like their relationship  circumstances.   Spiraling is very important in this situation.   If a man is  constantly dating subpar women with attitudes he must not blame the women but  ask himself several questions.  First, he must ask himself what is within him  that attracts subpar women.  Then he must address the issues in order to attract  a better class of woman.   Most importantly he must learn from each relationship  experience in order to grow.   There’s nothing wrong with dating a six, but if a  man is spiraling at some point he should be dating nines and then marrying what  he considers to be ten. 

        The bottom line is that a man must  strive to improve himself.    In relationships women look for men who are going  forward.  They look for men who are going somewhere.   A man must have in his  spirit the desire to move forward. 

            A man must always strive  to rise and transform.
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The Spirit of Man: Three Levels of Man

11/4/2013

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    Many ancient cultures, philosophies and spiritual systems recognized that there  are three levels of humanity. Early Christianity and the Tao are ancient  examples. In the modern era one such system which follows this  paradigm is the Ausar Auset Society through the study of the Metu Neter. Though  these systems used different terms, for simplicity sake and for this blog it can  said that the three levels of men are the Inferior Man, the Superior Man, and  the Divine Man.

    The Inferior Man represents the overwhelming majority of  men. These men are the followers. They are the men who are comfortable living  within the herd. They will embrace the social customs of the group without  question. They will embrace the popular religions, political philosophies, and  economic ideas prevalent in whatever society they reside. They will follow the  fashion dictates of the general population. Most of these young boys wearing  their pants off their butts are doing so because their peers are doing so. Most  will never question the origin or wisdom of this practice. Some Inferior Men  appear to be leaders but in reality all they are doing is following the path  made earlier incarnations of the herd.

    The Inferior Man not only follows  forces outside of himself but he is also a slave to his lower nature. If he
filled with fear he will allow this fear to dictate his life decisions. If he is  filled with lust he will allow this lust to dictate his actions. The Inferior  Man is the man who allows his addictions to control his life. He is inferior  because he has not developed the will to control his lower nature.

    The  Superior Man is the man who not only is above the common herd but has imposed  his will on his lower nature. In my book Sexual Chemistry I said the following  about the Superior Man:


    The Real Man (Superior Man) is the man who has developed his will  and is able to make the  correct decision at the crossroads. The Real Man  (Superior Man)is the one who has mastered the art of discipline. Outside  forces cannotcontrol this man. This man does not take action based on  emotion.
This man does not let his sex drive control him. He does not play  games or wear a mask to hide his true face. He is not a passive bystander in  the game of life. He is a hawk who soars above the  crowd.


    The Superior Man doesn’t follow the herd but creates  his own path like the eagle. In indigenous African and Native American cultures  boys would have to go through a rites of passage ritual in order to become
Superior Men. Such rituals are not a part of the machine culture of western  society which is why there are so many Inferior Men walking around with their  pants hanging off their butts. There are, however, a few small African-American  subcultures in which the cultivation of Superior Men is practiced.

    The  Divine Man is the highest level of spiritual evolution. This is the man who has  not only developed his will to control his lower nature but has awakened the  higher levels of his being. The average human will go through life using at best  five percent of their brains. By comparison the Divine Man will be able to tap
into as much as thirty percent of their brains. The Divine Man is also known as  the holy man, god-man, or sage. All of the world’s religions were founded or  based on the teachings of Divine Men. The more famous ones recorded in history  were Imhotep, Moses, Krishna, Jesus, Buddha, Lao Tse, Okomfo Anokye, and
Medicine Black Elk. There have been thousands of others who have been with us  and are still coming to this day. Many of the Divine Men living today are not in  the public eye. The reason they are so low key is a blog for another  day.

    To become a Divine Man is something special, but to become a  Superior Man should be the goal of every single man alive. A man must work every  day to evolve into something greater. He must not be content to be an ordinary  part of the herd. Society is crying out for more Superior Men. From the Superior  Men the Divine Men will emerge.

Evolve!

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