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The following blog was originally published on January 4, 2015.
******************* I’ve been seeing an interesting theme the past few months. Well it’s a theme I’ve been seeing for many years since the late eighties. I’ve even touched on this theme here and there in my blogs over the past year from the male side of things. See I’ve been seeing many women online and in the real world complain not so much about a shortage of men but specifically a shortage of men with money. Women are meeting men just not the ones they want. It’s never been a shortage of men per se but rather a shortage of certain men i.e. good looking men with money. One thing I’m seeing is women kicking men to the curb because the men are broke. Okay fair enough. A woman doesn’t have to deal with any man she doesn’t want regardless of the reasons. A funny thing happens though. After being alone for a few months to a few years a woman starts getting lonely for companionship. They’ll go on social media and start complaining about the lack of men in their lives with other similarly situated women. They give each other encouragement and hope. Then one day it happens. A woman runs into a handsome man with money. He’s tall, he has a career, a home, and a late model car. He even looks like he would be good in bed. The woman has hit the jackpot as she can check off most of the things on her list. He might not be able to speak fluent French but nobody is perfect. The woman is texting all of her friends and makes a long status update on social media. Her joy, however turns to tears of frustration within a week. The man of her dreams doesn’t have the slightest interest in her. Truth be told she doesn’t register on his radar. Many women want a successful man. Women want that man who already has his act together. They want the man who is already at the top of his profession. Many romance novels play into this desire. What many women fail to realize until it’s too late is that these Successful Men don’t want them back. See the average woman does not understand men let alone a Successful Man. Ironically even women who seem to be successful with men don’t really understand them. Beyond knowing that men want sex most women are clueless. I’m going to share some things about the psychology of the Successful Man so that women especially will understand why that fine man with E-class isn’t looking their way. The key thing for a woman lusting for a particular Successful Man to understand is that that this man did not always have women lusting for him. Indeed most men who are successful did not reach a level of success until they were in their late thirties and early forties. Many might not “make it” until their fifties. Now unless these men were also exceptionally handsome with great bodies it is very likely that they went long stretches of their youth in a state of involuntary celibacy. In other words they weren’t getting any sex. A big part of a Successful Man’s drive to succeed is the desire to get sex. So this man is going through his horniest years without consistent female companionship. It is during these years that a man is either in school or if blue collar, in an apprenticeship where he is learning the skills that may bring him success later on life. He is laying the foundation for his future. Here’s some game for the ladies: This is the period of time when a man is MOST receptive to being in a relationship with a cooperative woman regardless of her physical appearance or personality traits. This is a very important consideration. A man may want a beauty queen or a pin-up girl but at this point he may settle for an average looking woman who could stand to either lose some weight or in some cases put on some. At this point a man will reach for the lowest hanging fruit if the woman is COOPERATIVE. In plain language the average man is not going to be as picky when he doesn’t have as much money and he knows he doesn’t have movie star looks. A smart woman with some common sense would grab this man. Yeah she might not be able to get dinners at fancy seafood restaurants on a weekly basis and she might have to rock knockoff designer bags from the flea market for a little while but the payoff in the long run is enormous. This is where many women get in trouble for two primary reasons. One, many women don’t want to be around a man while he is building his career or business and two which is even more of problem many women don’t know what a Successful Man looks like up close and personal. The first thing is that many women don’t want to be a relationship with a broke man. It’s not because the man has some type of personality flaw. Most women see dating and the early stages of relationships as entertainment. Men are not chosen initially because they are responsible men with ambition to do great things. The average man is chosen because of the level of entertainment he can provide a woman. Dating is entertainment. Even if a woman chooses a man just for sex she is doing so for entertainment. When women consent to a date with a man they are looking for a good time. They are not thinking about buying a house or building a family. The woman is thinking about eating good food, watching a funny play, dancing, and possibly getting her back blown out later that night. Good food, plays, and dancing cost money. A man has to have the ability to spend a couple of hundred dollars to give a woman a nice evening. Now a man who is a student or is just making enough to get basic bills paid is not going to be able to date the average woman. The average man will be rejected because he doesn’t LOOK like he can afford to entertain a particular woman. Many women don’t even want to around men they perceive as broke. Now one other issue that isn’t discussed is that many women really don’t know what a Successful Man looks like. Yeah a woman can read a story about a Successful Man and depending on their social circle and where they work may even encounter one. The issue is that women will typically only see the finished product. See despite what many women like to think about themselves they are average. They are average looking women living an average existence. On their own they will never be affluent and the overwhelming majority will never live their dreams if they even have any. An average woman will have trouble truly understanding a Successful Man for the simple fact that she didn’t do the work to get to a point of success. She sees the tall handsome man with the luxury car. What she doesn’t see is the hours of blood, sweat, and tears the man had to go through to reach his level of success. She aspired to an ordinary life. He aspired to an extraordinary life. An average woman would have seen this man when he didn’t have anything and not recognize his potential. How could she? It’s not her mindset. The women who recognize that potential are the ones who grew up with a successful father or male relative. Ironically a woman from an upper class background may actually be very receptive to a broke man with potential because they recognize the personality traits for success. Let’s brings this back around full circle. A woman is looking for a Successful Man. Somehow she manages to meet one. She gives him blatant choosing signals and is rejected. The Successful Man may or may not even speak to her. The worst thing many women do is let a man get successful without them. An important thing for men is loyalty. Now many women say they are loyal to men which really means certain men. Women are loyal to good looking knuckleheads. Average looking men who don’t have money didn’t feel that loyalty. It’s important for a man to bond with a woman in order for him to be a relationship with her. Despite what women think a man doesn’t bond with a woman because of sex. A man can have sex with a woman he doesn’t like for years. A man bonds with a woman through the intangibles she brings to the table such as cooperation and loyalty. Many Successful Men when they needed cooperation the most did not get it. The Successful Man went through his toughest years ALONE. He finds out the hard way that he really doesn’t need women EMOTIONALLY. Now if his sex drive is normal he still needs women PHYSICALLY. This is where women catch hell. That Successful Man isn’t looking for a life partner. He’s looking for a tight young body for physical release. Indeed many Successful Men will become Sugar Daddies or engage in sex tourism. If they do get married they will do so with trophy women. Average women will be rejected if they can even manage to get into the same social circle as a Successful Man. In the eyes of the Successful Man he sees the same women who once rejected him all of a sudden finding him attractive. This is something that these men highly resent. A few will dog out the women who once rejected them. It’s a vicious cycle. If men and women really want change we have to really examine the values we are using to choose mates. Women complain about men judging them on physical appearance and yet the same women reject men because their bank accounts are small. Real change has to come by changing our overall cultural values. Changing our values will be a theme I will be discussing in future blogs. I’ve been seeing an interesting theme the past few months. Well it’s a theme I’ve been seeing for many years since the late eighties. I’ve even touched on this theme here and there in my blogs over the past year from the male side of things. See I’ve been seeing many women online and in the real world complain not so much about a shortage of men but specifically a shortage of men with money. Women are meeting men just not the ones they want. It’s never been a shortage of men per se but rather a shortage of certain men i.e. good looking men with money. One thing I’m seeing is women kicking men to the curb because the men are broke.
Okay fair enough. A woman doesn’t have to deal with any man she doesn’t want regardless of the reasons. A funny thing happens though. After being alone for a few months to a few years a woman starts getting lonely for companionship. They’ll go on social media and start complaining about the lack of men in their lives with other similarly situated women. They give each other encouragement and hope. Then one day it happens. A woman runs into a handsome man with money. He’s tall, he has a career, a home, and a late model car. He even looks like he would be good in bed. The woman has hit the jackpot as she can check off most of the things on her list. He might not be able to speak fluent French but nobody is perfect. The woman is texting all of her friends and makes a long status update on social media. Her joy, however turns to tears of frustration within a week. The man of her dreams doesn’t have the slightest interest in her. Truth be told she doesn’t register on his radar. Many women want a successful man. Women want that man who already has his act together. They want the man who is already at the top of his profession. Many romance novels play into this desire. What many women fail to realize until it’s too late is that these Successful Men don’t want them back. See the average woman does not understand men let alone a Successful Man. Ironically even women who seem to be successful with men don’t really understand them. Beyond knowing that men want sex most women are clueless. I’m going to share some things about the psychology of the Successful Man so that women especially will understand why that fine man with E-class isn’t looking their way. The key thing for a woman lusting for a particular Successful Man to understand is that that this man did not always have women lusting for him. Indeed most men who are successful did not reach a level of success until they were in their late thirties and early forties. Many might not “make it” until their fifties. Now unless these men were also exceptionally handsome with great bodies it is very likely that they went long stretches of their youth in a state of involuntary celibacy. In other words they weren’t getting any sex. A big part of a Successful Man’s drive to succeed is the desire to get sex. So this man is going through his horniest years without consistent female companionship. It is during these years that a man is either in school or if blue collar, in an apprenticeship where he is learning the skills that may bring him success later on life. He is laying the foundation for his future. Here’s some game for the ladies: This is the period of time when a man is MOST receptive to being in a relationship with a cooperative woman regardless of her physical appearance or personality traits. This is a very important consideration. A man may want a beauty queen or a pin-up girl but at this point he may settle for an average looking woman who could stand to either lose some weight or in some cases put on some. At this point a man will reach for the lowest hanging fruit if the woman is COOPERATIVE. In plain language the average man is not going to be as picky when he doesn’t have as much money and he knows he doesn’t have movie star looks. A smart woman with some common sense would grab this man. Yeah she might not be able to get dinners at fancy seafood restaurants on a weekly basis and she might have to rock knockoff designer bags from the flea market for a little while but the payoff in the long run is enormous. This is where many women get in trouble for two primary reasons. One, many women don’t want to be around a man while he is building his career or business and two which is even more of problem many women don’t know what a Successful Man looks like up close and personal. The first thing is that many women don’t want to be a relationship with a broke man. It’s not because the man has some type of personality flaw. Most women see dating and the early stages of relationships as entertainment. Men are not chosen initially because they are responsible men with ambition to do great things. The average man is chosen because of the level of entertainment he can provide a woman. Dating is entertainment. Even if a woman chooses a man just for sex she is doing so for entertainment. When women consent to a date with a man they are looking for a good time. They are not thinking about buying a house or building a family. The woman is thinking about eating good food, watching a funny play, dancing, and possibly getting her back blown out later that night. Good food, plays, and dancing cost money. A man has to have the ability to spend a couple of hundred dollars to give a woman a nice evening. Now a man who is a student or is just making enough to get basic bills paid is not going to be able to date the average woman. The average man will be rejected because he doesn’t LOOK like he can afford to entertain a particular woman. Many women don’t even want to around men they perceive as broke. Now one other issue that isn’t discussed is that many women really don’t know what a Successful Man looks like. Yeah a woman can read a story about a Successful Man and depending on their social circle and where they work may even encounter one. The issue is that women will typically only see the finished product. See despite what many women like to think about themselves they are average. They are average looking women living an average existence. On their own they will never be affluent and the overwhelming majority will never live their dreams if they even have any. An average woman will have trouble truly understanding a Successful Man for the simple fact that she didn’t do the work to get to a point of success. She sees the tall handsome man with the luxury car. What she doesn’t see is the hours of blood, sweat, and tears the man had to go through to reach his level of success. She aspired to an ordinary life. He aspired to an extraordinary life. An average woman would have seen this man when he didn’t have anything and not recognize his potential. How could she? It’s not her mindset. The women who recognize that potential are the ones who grew up with a successful father or male relative. Ironically a woman from an upper class background may actually be very receptive to a broke man with potential because they recognize the personality traits for success. Let’s brings this back around full circle. A woman is looking for a Successful Man. Somehow she manages to meet one. She gives him blatant choosing signals and is rejected. The Successful Man may or may not even speak to her. The worst thing many women do is let a man get successful without them. An important thing for men is loyalty. Now many women say they are loyal to men which really means certain men. Women are loyal to good looking knuckleheads. Average looking men who don’t have money didn’t feel that loyalty. It’s important for a man to bond with a woman in order for him to be a relationship with her. Despite what women think a man doesn’t bond with a woman because of sex. A man can have sex with a woman he doesn’t like for years. A man bonds with a woman through the intangibles she brings to the table such as cooperation and loyalty. Many Successful Men when they needed cooperation the most did not get it. The Successful Man went through his toughest years ALONE. He finds out the hard way that he really doesn’t need women EMOTIONALLY. Now if his sex drive is normal he still needs women PHYSICALLY. This is where women catch hell. That Successful Man isn’t looking for a life partner. He’s looking for a tight young body for physical release. Indeed many Successful Men will become Sugar Daddies or engage in sex tourism. If they do get married they will do so with trophy women. Average women will be rejected if they can even manage to get into the same social circle as a Successful Man. In the eyes of the Successful Man he sees the same women who once rejected him all of a sudden finding him attractive. This is something that these men highly resent. A few will dog out the women who once rejected them. It’s a vicious cycle. If men and women really want change we have to really examine the values we are using to choose mates. Women complain about men judging them on physical appearance and yet the same women reject men because their bank accounts are small. Real change has to come by changing our overall cultural values. Changing our values will be a theme I will be discussing in future blogs. The Masked Man is very desired by women. They see a handsome, successful man who is a great catch. He doesn’t have the raw sex appeal of Mr. Goodbar but that’s okay. The woman has had her fun times with the pretty boys, bad boys, and hot boys. The sex was hot but these men didn’t have anything else to offer. The woman has a child from the deadbeat with the pretty eyes and smile. The child is cute and all but also has an appetite. Many women learn the hard way that that the man who got that good dick doesn’t always translate to a man who’s going to be a good provider or parent. So the woman’s needs change and I talk about this in my book, Nice Guys and Players:
Ultimately, what it boils down to is that women choose men according to their needs. If a woman needs a man who is going to give her attention he is the type of man she will choose. An insecure woman chooses a man who can make her feel secure. Women seeking excitement look for men who can provide it. Nurturing women find men they can nurture. Women don’t choose men simply because they look good or are confident or aggressive. They choose men because of some need that has to be satisfied. Needs dictate desires. Women will always choose men according to their needs. Nice Guys and Players Page 52 ******************* Many women get to the point where they desire the Masked Men because they need someone who can provide resources and also has some level of sex appeal. Also many women want a man who looks good to their peers. I’ve always said that a man has to not only appeal to a particular woman but her girlfriends as well. Yet another future blog. Now there’s an issue with a woman’s desire for a Masked Man. The issue is that Masked Men in general are not cooperating with the desires of women. The woman may see a successful man who is a good catch. She may see a way out of her drab nine to five existence. She may see a good stepfather to her gang of kids by different bad boys. She may simply see a genuinely good man. The Masked Man on the other hand sees a hot mess. When Masked Men look at most women they don’t see smart, beautiful, and sexy women who they should be happy to have in their lives. They see average looking women at best who could stand to lose some weight. When they see women with a gang of kids they see a person who made some bad choices in men. Even if the woman is a career woman they see someone who is not in touch with their feminine sex appeal. Mainly Masked Men will see a woman with a lot of emotional baggage and very, very, very few men want to sign up for that. Now there are many forces in the world that try to SHAME a Masked Man into loving a woman regardless of her issues. There are memes floating around the internet suggesting that a man, to be a real man, needs to accept a woman regardless of what she brings to the table. If she is overweight, the real man needs to accept her and find her attractive. If she has kids by multiple men the real man needs to take responsibility and raise the kids that he didn’t help create. If she has a bad attitude, the real man needs to accept her moods. I guess a real man needs to accept whatever is thrown his way in order to satisfy the delusions of women who have made some unfortunate choices in life. In reality, a real man is going to live by his will and not follow the dictates of people who don’t fuck, finance, or feed him. To understand why a Masked Man will reject many women it’s important to understand the price of success. Masked Men are in the position they are in because of hard work. If they are making six and seven figures they had to put in the work. See in this society we are used to seeing instant millionaires. A kid coming out of high school can become a millionaire overnight by signing a contract to play a sport. A kid with a great singing voice can win a competition and become an overnight sensation. An actor can land a role that makes him a household name. The thing is we don’t see the work the athlete or the entertainer had to put into their craft in order to be successful. We see the end result but not the work. It’s the same thing with the Masked Man. People see the handsome face, the muscular body, and the late model car. The see the man walking with confidence. What people don’t see is the hours working on grooming. People weren’t there when the man was spending hours in the gym. People see the fine clothes, cars, and houses but they don’t see the work the man had to do to get to that point. This is especially the case if the man made his fortune as an entrepreneur. Here’s the thing. When men get to point of making six and seven figures they didn’t do so through a regular nine to five job. A significant portion of Masked Men are entrepreneurs. The life of an entrepreneur is not easy. Many very successful men will tell stories of sleeping on air mattresses, or eating maybe one meal a day, of making sacrifices to get where they are. It’s not an easy life. Many will struggle for years to make a business work. Some may give up and find a regular job even though this will slowly kill their spirits. Many men will make their goals and live their dreams. Now here’s the thing, when many men make it to the promise land, they don’t have a woman with whom to share their victory. Let me share a rarely talked about reality. Many of these men who become millionaires were not considered Mr. Goodbar by the girls and women growing up. They didn’t have that raw sex appeal to turn on women. A few may have been lucky to get attention from women every now and then. A few may even get married to some woman who quite frankly is still pining for Mr. Goodbar. They end up getting divorced anyway. Most entrepreneurs go through their hard years without a supportive woman. Indeed many women will reject these men because they didn’t have money to spend on dates. Typically the men didn’t have that thing called Game to offset the lack of sex appeal and money. The men are going through constant rejection and quite frankly the only thing keeping them going is working on their dreams. Now when Masked Men arrives in the promised land of success an interesting thing happens. All of sudden women find them attractive. Indeed many women who had rejected the man in the past will approach him talking about how they always thought, “He was cute.” Of course these women will not be as sexy as they once were and will have a one or two bad ass kids. The woman will talk about rekindling something that never really was to begin with and the man will look at her like she’s crazy. A Masked Man has done all the heavy lifting at that point. He is at a point where he can reject women because they are coming at him because his money has turned him into an image of Mr. Goodbar. At this point the only women the Masked Man will only deal with is the most sexually attractive women. The reason is that at that point he doesn’t need a woman for anything else. Think about it. What can a woman offer a successful man? He doesn’t need her counsel or support. He made it without her. If he wants children he can find a childless woman and doesn’t have to be bothered with a woman who already has kids. He doesn’t need her money which she likely has from a nine to five job. Even if she makes a high salary or is an entrepreneur herself he doesn’t need her resources. He really isn’t going to care about them. Understand that Masked Men see most women as not bringing anything substantial to the table. When men who are either successful or on the path to success get together to talk on social media, message boards, or in person the topic of conversation will often turn to women. Two primary things will be discussed. One a particular woman’s level of sex appeal. Two, and this is very specific to successful men, what the woman brings to the table. The sex appeal piece is obvious. The Masked Man wants to know what the woman is adding to his life. Women may think they have it going on but the man sees something different. What he sees in many cases is a woman who is asking for a lot and putting a big burden on the man but is not really giving anything in return. For a Masked Man a woman needs to at least be sexy. Many women are approaching Masked Men lacking sex appeal. Then the women have a carload of emotional baggage they are bringing with them. And they are asking the Masked Man to make everything okay. The Masked Man has zero incentive to deal with that type of drama. Bottom line the Masked Man has worked hard to be where he is in life. He had to be a hard worker and smart. He has earned the right to make the choices he does as far as female companionship. All the memes and shaming tactics in the world will not change that. The Masked Man got to where he is by exercising some willpower. The will is about the ability to make choices in order to enhance one’s own existence. The Masked Man will make choices that benefit him and not other people who want to latch on to his success. All right I’ve talked about Mr. Goodbar to death. People get it that there are a small percentage of men who have the raw ability to sexually arouse many women. Thing is that Mr. Goodbar does indeed represent a SMALL percentage of the male population. We’re talking at most ten percent. Obviously they are not the only ones getting the attention of multiple women. Just below Goodbar on the sexual hierarchy are the Masked Men. This group of men represents maybe 25 percent of the male population. They are not desired because of their raw sex appeal like Goodbar but they have enough looks to arouse women to some extent. To qualify as Masked Men they have to have some money and status as well.
See the mask is not about a man putting on a façade so much. It’s more about what the WOMAN sees when she looks at the man. The woman doesn’t see pretty eyes, a flat stomach and a big package when she looks at a Masked Man. Even if the Masked Man has these things, which many do, women don’t see raw sex appeal when they look at this class of men. Women will look at the Masked Man and see that he has a nice suit on which means he may be a professional. They see that he is driving a late model car which means he has some money. They see that he speaks and carries himself a certain way which means he may have some status. Masked Men are what women look for when they get tired of dealing with Mr. Goodbar. Most women see Mr. Goodbar as good for sex and nothing more. Women chase Mr. Goodbar from their teenaged years to maybe their early thirties. A few women never really stop chasing Mr. Goodbar like these women in their fifties who blatantly flirt with young boys thinking they’re still sexy. As an aside these older women aren’t sexy to these young boys, just easy. I may do a future blog on that subject but I digress. Women with a little bit of sense eventually outgrow Goodbars. Six pack abs don’t mean anything when the bills become due. Multiple orgasms are one thing but when the car breaks down and the repairs cost over a thousand dollars that good dick isn’t helpful to the average woman. After they come down from that orgasmic high the car still needs to be repaired. Goodbar may not be able to help even if he wants to. Many Goodbars don’t have much going for them outside of sex appeal. Many are living with their mamas or being sponsored by some older woman. Many can’t keep steady jobs because they are going in and out of so many women that their work experience doesn’t go beyond minimum wage jobs. The more thuggish Goodbars may have money from illegal hustles but despite what many people think most street hustlers don’t make that much money. The reality is that someone working at a burger joint makes more money than the average street cat. My point in all this is to say that Mr. Goodbar is more a romantic dream but then that alarm clock goes off and the woman has to deal with real life. That’s when the Masked Man becomes more attractive. So women start looking for that educated professional or in the case of lower social classes that blue collar cat that looks like he is making money. Women in general after they go through their Goodbar phase start looking for a successful man with money. Some women will say they are looking for someone “with benefits.” In the Black community in particular someone may say they are looking for a “BMW,” – a “Black Man Working.” I’m not sure about an equivalent term in other communities though the Masked Man thing is prevalent wherever western culture is practiced. Indeed in the white community the line between Goodbar and the Masked Man is EXTREMELY blurred. Now that’s a topic I would have to get into some deep metaphysical knowledge to fully explain. A few African and Native American Shamans know the great secrets though. I won’t share it here. Y’all not ready. Back on topic, the Masked Man becomes most desirable to women when they want a more stable and grown up relationship. They want a stable home life and someone who can provide the resources for that home life. The women have that biological clock ticking and will want a responsible successful man to be the father. Some women may already have children and want a responsible, successful man to be the stepfather. A game some women will run is to get pregnant by Goodbar and then try to act like the Masked Man is the father. In my opinion that’s why paternity testing should be mandatory. For this reason many very successful men will get vasectomies. So you get the idea that women go for Masked Men for their money and status. Funny thing is that women in private, in the media, and in public forums, will loudly proclaim they want these men. Indeed on social media there will be memes designed to shame Masked Men into wanting a woman regardless of her physical appearance and emotional baggage. In many ways and situations a woman will get angrier with a Masked Man for rejecting her than Mr. Goodbar. The average woman doesn’t have any expectations from Goodbar beyond good sex. They are looking at the Masked Man, however, as that good catch. He’s the good man they are speaking of when they say there is a shortage. The Masked Man is marriage material. A woman’s biggest problem with the Masked Man is that he is not cooperating with her expectations. In my observation a woman is more likely to get dogged by a Masked Man than by Mr. Goodbar. Let’s get into why I have this observation. I’ll need some help with this one, so I’ll turn to Eric Money. I introduced the character of Eric Money in some previous blogs as a successful man. I didn’t really get into his backstory though. Eric Money as a teenager was skinny and awkward. He wasn’t the most popular boy in the neighborhood or in school. When girls texted each other about cute boys his name didn’t come up. In the locker room after gym class he didn’t have any stories or good lies about the girls he had been with like the jocks and thugs told. Eric was just someone who was very good academically. The teachers and older women in the community saw his value but the girls were more interested in the popular boys. Eric went through his four years in high school without getting so much as a kiss. Things got a little bit better for Eric in college. He managed to have sex with a couple of Plain Janes but those were flings that didn’t materialize into relationships as the Plain Janes were more interested in Frat Boys and Jocks. They made it very clear to Eric not to get his expectations up. They both said that he’s a “Nice Guy but…” Eventually Eric graduated college and got a well-paying job as a financial advisor. The women were still not feeling him even with the extra money. Many went on dates with him and pretended to like him so he would spend money on them. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when he took a woman on a date and then after the date took her to a house different from where he picked her up. She gave him a kiss on the cheek and went to the house where a buffed man answered the door wearing nothing but shorts. It was a defining moment for Eric. His view of women changed. Eric was at a crossroads and decided to change his life. So Eric started reading books and blogs about being successful with women. After reading all the information Eric went into a period of transformation. He started hitting the gym to put muscles on his skinny frame. He developed a better understanding of a woman’s inner nature. The most important thing he did though was stay focused on his career and stopped letting basic women interfere with his self-esteem and life goals. Within a period of a few years Eric was able to put on forty pounds of muscle. He upgraded his wardrobe and personal grooming. Eric started to hang out in more affluent circles as he moved into a house in an upper class neighborhood and only drove late model luxury cars. The main thing he did was to begin to hold the women he dealt with to higher standards. Before his transformation Eric had genuine interest in women who rated at best as sixes on the 1 -10 scale. After his transformation he would give barely give women who rated below an eight the time of day. He wouldn’t even look their direction while out and about. Of course as a result of that dynamic more women became interested in him. Incidentally I just gave away some game. Eric transformed into a fully realized Masked Man. No he’s not drop dead handsome. Even with the extra muscles he doesn’t have a great body which would cause a woman to want to take off her panties thinking as the meme says, “I won’t be needing these.” What women see is a man whose demeanor and self-confidence communicates the message that “yes I can succeed and provide resources. Yes I would make a stable husband.” The panties will come off for a different reason. Now here’s where it gets interesting with Masked Men. Women are choosing them but the Masked Men are not choosing them back. Here’s a reality that women need to grasp. Truth be told women tend to get mad when this reality is pointed out to them. Many don’t want to hear it. Too bad. Women need to get their heads out of the sand because what I’m about to share is a very real dynamic. Many women will reject a man for many reasons. Admittedly some reasons are very good but many are frivolous. The rejection itself might not be that bad. It’s part of life. I personally say that a man can learn a lot from a rejection. Rejection helps a man to grow. The problem though is that many women can’t just graciously reject a man in way that leaves his self-esteem intact. Many women will reject a man in a mean-spirited way. Many women will purposely try to hurt a man’s feelings. For what? All he did was find them attractive and work up the courage to approach them. A woman doesn’t have to want a particular man but don’t make him feel bad that he isn’t tall with a six-pack and pretty eyes. Yet many women have no problem rejecting a man harshly. Too bad many women don’t understand a simple universal principle: What goes around comes around. When men are rejected they may get out of a particular woman’s face but they don’t really go away. Some men learn how to game women and become straight up dogs. They learn to treat women in a poor way. A woman may reject a particular man and that man turns around and dogs another woman. Some degenerate men may dog that woman’s teenaged daughter even though he’s forty. In the case of the Masked Men he never forgets what made him into what he is. Here’s a very common scenario that virtually every Masked Man has shared with me. Even a few Goodbars have talked about this as well. Here’s the scenario. When a woman is young, pretty and sexy she will reject a particular man who wanted her badly. The man is typically put in the friend zone so it’s not a case of a man randomly approaching a sexy woman on the street. The young sexy woman knows the man very well. She even likes the man to some extent but for a number of reasons does not want a relationship with him. Even Goodbars will experience this with at least one woman. Rejections like this hurt the man more than a rejection by a random woman on the street. At some point the man moves on to more receptive women. The sexy woman and the man typically fall out of contact with one another. Now a few years later that woman runs into the man she once friend zoned. The man is now more muscular and confident. He’s a successful Masked Man, well dressed and moving through the world with authority. The woman on the other hand has put on some pounds and has taken some emotional hits from dealing with a few Goodbars and maybe a Demon Lover. She also has a child from one of the Goodbars who refuses to acknowledge the child. She’s struggling in life and she sees this man who always adored her and waited for a long time for her to return his feelings. At that point she finds this man she had friend zoned as VERY attractive. She starts flirting and the nicer Masked Man may let her down easy. The meaner ones will say, “Get the fuck outta here with that bullshit.” Once a man gets to a point where he is suddenly desirable after many years of being seen as undesirable he doesn’t all of sudden want the women who rejected him when he was younger. That may work in a romantic comedy and a novel. In real life it doesn’t fly. Now a few Masked Men may have sex with the women who once rejected them in order to dog them out but most will simply not want to be bothered. There’s more to be said about the Masked Man. We’re talking about complex individuals. I mean women find them attractive for their material possessions and their status but what about the man underneath the mask. Also a reality is that beyond sex a Masked Man really doesn’t have a need for women. I’ll get into all that my next blog. |
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