There are men and women in our society who are…different from everyone else. Their thinking and outlooks on life are different. These…people are predators plain and simple. They are like serial killers in a way. Instead of killing people they kill a person’s spirit. They do so through sexual relationships. They are the Demon Lovers. The vampire myths probably arose from people dealing with these entities in ancient cultures. In his book, The Natural Blueprint for Relationships (Natural Blueprint) Yao Nyamekye Morris devotes a whole chapter to Demon Lovers. He refers to them as “fiends of the sexual underworld.” He had this to say:
The fiends of the sexual underworld do not necessarily look like the demons we see in comic books. It is just the opposite. Most often, they are men and women who are above average in the looks department. Many of them look trustworthy and innocent on the surface. They have one thing in common. He or she is skilled at saying the things you want to hear. They may not have a degree in psychology but they are very perceptive in sizing someone up. They have trouble relating to the opposite sex in normal ways, so they compensate by exploiting weaknesses and unfulfilled desires. The men know that most men are not as romantic and sensitive as the typical woman would like. So they learn how to be better at that than the average male. They listen for clues and act on them. These men are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please a woman because they have nothing to lose. They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship. They don’t care about you or what you think about them. But they make you think they care very much.
The female demon lovers know that most black men do not feel appreciated and respected by the black woman. And the first thing they do is show him how much they respect and appreciate what he is about. They normally dress in a provocative manner and make it clear that fulfilling the man’s sexual desires is a high priority for them. They listen for clues about what the man likes and then are quick to act on them. Those women are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please her man. They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship. They don’t care about you or what you think about them. But they make you think they care very much.
The Natural Blueprint for Relationships P. 251.
Even though Natural Blueprint was written for an African American audience, the part about Demon Lovers can be applied to any race or culture. I’ve met a few white Demon Lovers.
So what does this have to do with game and why I don’t teach it? For one thing Demon Lovers are the top of the pyramid as far as “game.” You’re talking the ultimate manipulators. Even Pimps have nothing on Demon Lovers. What dating coaches and seduction gurus teach is a pathetic joke next to what a Demon Lover can do. You’re talking about people that will consciously destroy a person’s life for no other reason than their own amusement. There are the men playing mind games with women for no other reason than to pass the time. You have women are stealing another woman’s loving husband for no other reason than that she can. Those are the “nicer” Demon Lovers. Some Demon Lovers are literally weapons of mass destruction. I’m not exaggerating.
Every now and then there is a story in the media about a person intentionally infecting a large number of people with a sexually transmitted disease such as HIV. Think about it, a single man or woman has unprotected sex with several hundred people and infects them with HIV. Those men and women go out and get into relationships or have sexual encounters, thus spreading HIV to several thousand more people. Many will die or at the very least get very sick and may get financially ruined paying medical expenses. That’s a weapon of war right there. A single Demon Lover can literally destroy whole communities.
Stop and think about it.
Now what is my connection to Demon Lovers? Remember in part 1 of this blog series I said I spent a part of my childhood in a dysfunctional environment. It wasn’t just my home but pretty much a mile radius around my house. There were folks around there who made the characters on The Wire look like the law-abiding citizens. My mother’s “friends” were one thing. My own were another. So I’m hanging around other kids my age and to say they were “interesting” is an understatement. There was one friend I’ll call Zeke. Zeke had the pretty boy thing going as well as being a true thug. The little girls loved him enough to engage in an eight year-old’s approximation of sex. Zeke kept me on my toes because he would manipulate anyone around him without remorse. He was fairly sociopathic. Last I heard about Zeke he was serving time for premeditated murder. Another kid I’ll call Bo used to suck older boy’s dicks but chased little girls as well. Bo had a big crush on my sister. He probably grew up to be a DL brotha. Another kid I’ll call Dan was just nasty. Every conversation with him involved sex. He probably grew up to be pimp or a porn actor. As far as myself, I’ll put it like this, my street name was “Romeo.” At my house, some of my mother’s WOMAN friends did things like walk around in their underwear and at least one always wanted to “hug” me. That’s all I care to say about that. My point is that looking back I was exposed to Demon Lovers at a very young age.
I also took on many of their traits.
When people used to ask me to teach them how to be a dog they didn’t do so because I was some smooth player who brought a smile to woman’s faces and could be a fun date. I was a straight up dog. Love them and leave them wasn’t a tactic for me. It was just how I rolled. It didn’t bother my conscience at all because MOST of these women had boyfriends or at least good guys who were interested in them. I wasn’t going to get emotionally invested in a woman cheating on a man who obviously loved her. If the woman got her heart broken because I didn’t return her phone call so be it. She had a man, cry on his shoulders. Quite frankly I roll my eyes when women complain about men cheating. Women do it more and are way better at it. See a woman will cheat within the rhythm of her daily activities. There’s a certain period of time when her man thinks she’s doing one thing when she may be with someone in a hotel room. A woman can send her man off to work, invite her 16 year-old neighbor over to the house, suck the young boy’s dick, and then have her husband’s dinner on the table when he gets home. She may even have sex with her husband that night. The man is oblivious to his wife’s cheating because she’s submissive, she cooks, and gives him regular sex. He thinks he’s running things. Yeah right.
As far as myself I was like Blade. I had all the Demon Lover powers but none of their weaknesses. I wasn’t the villain of the story. More like the morally ambiguous anti-hero of the story. Another unique aspect of my childhood was that I used to read the Bible a lot. Could have been a child preacher. My mother before her nervous breakdown used to open our home to some of the local kids to teach them the Bible. That’s how I made some of my first friends. My mother’s spiritual nature was unique in itself. She read the Bible but she also read New Thought material such as Norman Vincent Peale and Rev. Ike. Many things people are talking about now she was talking about then. She even got money for praying for people. My home environment was sexualized and spiritual at the same time. Plus if someone actually reads the Bible there were some players up in there. King David set up his boy to get killed just to get at his wife. King Solomon (whom my mother compared me to) had 700 wives. Shoot, getting with multiple women was sanctioned by God as far as I was concerned. I say all that to say I had some type of moral compass to keep from going totally to the dark side. Don’t get it twisted though there were times that had nothing to do with women where I did cross the line. Y’all might not hear those stories.
Now the average Demon Lover grew up in an environment where there wasn’t any type of moral compass. See, religion is more than just a way to worship a person’s vision of God. In this culture religion is a behavior control system. Specifically most religions serve to control a person’s sexual nature. If you pay attention to very religious people, particularly women in Protestant churches, you will notice that they typically dress in a way which deflects attention away from their bodies. When a man looks at them his first thought isn’t going to be, “I want to bang her.” Her clothing and body language will not arouse him even if she is otherwise beautiful with a voluptuous body. If the same woman was wearing a short dress and heels he would likely get a massive hard-on. Now you raise a child in a non-religious environment with few other restrictions, they will not do anything to limit their natural sex appeal. Indeed they will dress in a way to magnify their body. Girls from dysfunctional homes typically dress in sexually provocative clothing even in instances where more conservative clothing would be appropriate.
So you have a child in a dysfunctional environment who isn’t taught to suppress their sexual nature. Let’s add some more ingredients to this mix. You have a kid who has very good physical genetics. The boys will grow up to have a tall muscular body while the girls will grow up to have a shapely body with optimal contrasts between the breasts, waist, and hips. Add to this above average facial features. On these factors alone the kids will grow to attract multiple mates. There’s still more to add to the mix. A Demon Lover has above average, even genius level social intelligence. Most IQ tests only test a person’s linguistic and mathematic ability. It’s hard to test a person’s social genius or street smarts. Indeed if there were such a test the Demon Lover would purposely underperform on it. Demon Lovers really aren’t normal. Yet they will make an effort to appear normal. Looking normal is how Demon Lovers get over.
When people think of players, there’s an image of men in flashy clothes, with tattoos and loud talking being the center of attention. With women it’s the image of someone wearing sexually provocative clothing. Demon Lovers are smart enough to look clean cut and innocent. A male Demon Lover is likely to look like he is a church going nerd if it works for him. A female Demon Lover may look like a “goody goody girl” if it works for her. I had an acquaintance who was bragging about his new girlfriend. She was just perfect for him in his eyes. I met her and I knew something was up. She was very beautiful and very innocent looking. I caught something in her eyes though for a brief second. I started to take the acquaintance to the side but he was so enamored with her he wouldn’t have received what I said. A few months I saw him again and found she stole money and personal items from him. Nothing is safe with a Demon Lover. Many a bank account has been emptied behind one.
One thing sometimes people will see a Demon Lover in action and not know what they’re seeing. Men will see a bunch of women hovering around a Demon Lover and foolishly try to emulate what they see. They think they can be a jerk and insult a woman and she will sleep with him. Really it’s not the behavior itself that’s turning on a woman. The woman is tolerating the behavior because the man is fulfilling some other need the woman has. One major need is sex. Women want to sleep with a sexy man period. Also the Demon Lover picked up on the psychological need which he at least pretends to fill. Notice I said pretends. The Demon Lover exploits the needs for his own ends, which could be money or simply a place to stay. He might just want some ass and nothing else. He might want the challenge of turning out a church girl. A female Demon Lover may want to change her living situation. A sexy woman can change her social class and financial situation by simply pussy whipping a rich man. Many men can make money but lack common sense. A female Demon Lover will stroke his dick and his ego and all of sudden she has a nice home and money.
This is serious stuff. Many men out here want to learn game because they think with game they can go from a man who doesn’t get the time of day to becoming a player. Seriously if a man isn’t getting attention from women he has bigger problems he needs to deal with. Learning some dubious techniques won’t help him. The knowledge I have is dangerous. Say hypothetically I give the knowledge to a bitter man. That man isn’t going to go out and get into a functional relationship. He’s not going to be loving towards women. He’s going out for revenge. He’s going to take out all those years of frustration on some women who did nothing to him. Many women now are catching hell now from men who didn’t get sex regularly when they were young. Let me share something with you. All Demon Lovers don’t come from dysfunctional backgrounds. There are a few men and women who develop the traits later in life. Let me use an example.
You have a man named Fred. Fred grew up in a home with both parents in a middle class neighborhood. Now Fred is slim and nerdy. He was never the type who went to parties or played sports. The girls in high school and college weren’t checking for him. He gets a good career out of college and gradually makes enough money to get a house and late model car. He has everything except the girl. So he starts checking out seduction material. He improves a little bit because he is given rudimentary game. He’s instructed to approach several women a day and he has brief sexual encounters with a few women who are quite frankly unattractive and easy. Fred is still frustrated until he runs into Dexter Goodbar and his cousins, Jimmy Cool and Damon Lover. He sees them in action at a club and offers them money to teach him. Dexter and Jimmy decline. Damon though agrees to teach him. Damon blows Fred’s mind. Damon tells him some things that he can’t hear in a seduction seminar or find on the internet. Over the period of a year Fred is transformed but not in a good way. Fred is able to get better women but because he learned from a Demon Lover he starts dogging them. See the thing that Fred didn’t deal with was his bitterness. Fred made it his mission in life to dog as many women as possible because of numerous past rejections. Fred the Nice Guy closed his eyes, Fred the Demon Lover opened them.
There’s too many Fred’s out there. Too many men who allowed their spirits to be consumed by bitterness. When many men asked me to teach them how to be dogs they didn’t have good intentions. These men would have been dangerous to women and I couldn’t be responsible for any damage caused. Now this is not to say that I won’t give insights. I mentioned “Roger” in the “Do The Work” blog. I tell him whatever he wants to know. Why? He has a genuine love for women. A love he likes to share with several women at the same time but still a love. I’ll never put what I know in a book. The knowledge I give in my books will increase the number of women a man can attract. It requires work though in such a way that will enable a man to deal with his bitterness and other issues preventing him from attracting women. Until a man deals with his personal demons he can’t be allowed access to the deeper knowledge.
I’m going to do a part 3 to this series. I’m going to talk about how man can attract women without using game.