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Why I Don't Teach Game, The Conclusion: The Real Deal

6/18/2014

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            So the question must now be if Rom doesn’t teach game, how can I get women?  I’ll say this.  Game does work.  There is no disputing that.   A man using game can definitely get women.  Even at the rudimentary level that is being taught by dating coaches and seduction gurus.   The real issue is what type of women are receptive to game.   The women most receptive to a man running game on them are not the top quality women men pay hundreds of dollars for books and seminars to meet.   The women most receptive to game tend to be either plain Janes or simply ugly, overweight, low self-esteem females who lack street smarts.   Even the physically attractive women who seem to be receptive to game have some things going on.  The attractive women tend to be promiscuous anyway and quite frankly will have sex with a man whether he used game or not.    If I wanted to teach game I would simply teach men how to tell if a woman is promiscuous or easy regardless of her mask.   My point in all this is that men using game are not getting the best they can get.   They are getting grocery store hamburgers instead of steakhouse Filet Mignons.  So what should a man do?

            First thing a man needs to understand is that women WANT to have sex.   Many men have the false belief that women are not as interested in sex as men.   As a result many men approach women thinking they have to convince the woman to have sex.   She’ll have sex just maybe not with him.   The first mistake is that men tend to approach women who are not trying to seduce them.  Women are really as sexually aggressive as men.  They just express their aggression in a different way.   Instead of approaching a man, a normal woman will dress, and behave in such a way as to draw a man to her.  Women by nature are seductive.  They want to draw your attention to them.  That’s how they hunt.   A young girl on my day job had a short sexy dress.  I complimented her and said, “You’re hunting aren’t you?” She answered, “Yeah I’m looking for a new man.”   A man doesn’t really need game to get a woman.  He simply needs to pay attention.   If he pays attention he will notice that at least one woman has been trying to seduce him.   The key for a man is to develop himself into the type of man a woman will want to seduce.

            The first thing a man has to do is develop his physical sex appeal.  Women are turned on by a man’s body period.   A woman has to be able to look at a man and want to PHYSICALLY have sex with him.   Forget all that mess about WORDS turning a woman on.   A man’s body turns a woman on, period.   Now let me explain why it seems like a man’s words turn a woman on.   Women are moved primarily by emotion.  They are built that way.   Men need to stop expecting women to be rational.  They can be but they are primarily moved by emotion.  A woman’s emotions are moved by her hormones.  That’s why a woman’s moods changes by the week, even day to day.   Now what women do is rationalize their emotions.   Let me get Dexter Goodbar in here to illustrate my point.   A married woman, Gwen, meets Dexter at a store he owns.   She immediately lusts him.   Dexter picks up on it and immediately hits her with his sexually enticing conversation.   Gwen wants him bad because her lust is affecting her emotions.   She starts thinking that her husband isn’t attentive or that good in bed.   What she is doing is rationalizing her desire to sleep with Dexter.   She sleeps with Dexter and tells her friends.   Instead of saying that she was simply turned on by Dexter’s body she says that he said all the right things.   The truth is that Dexter was trying to get a sale and his best sales technique with women is to flirt with them.   Gwen had decided she was going to sleep with Dexter when she first laid eyes on him.   She just had to rationalize her choice.

            Men need to understand the reality of a woman’s sexual aggression.   If there is a man thinking he still thinking he needs game let me share this.   There are plenty of stories in the media about female teachers having sex with underaged male students.   Those are just teachers.   There are many older women who seduce and sleep with teenaged boys.  Something I’ve NEVER shared before but I will do so now.   When I was seventeen I had a brief relationship with an older woman.  I don’t want give away the details.  I didn’t see it as abuse or a bad thing.  It’s just something that happened.   The thing about it though is that I didn’t use any type of game.  I just allowed myself to be seduced.   She was pretty and besides the physical aspect we were both science fiction fans.   My point is that I was able to get her without using any type of game.  She wanted me and I allowed it.

            So a man needs to understand a woman’s true sexual nature as well the need to work on his body.  Just a note about that.  A man does not have to be super-muscular or drop dead handsome to attract a woman.  It doesn’t hurt but if someone isn’t blessed with great genetics he call still turn on a woman physically.   Women like different types of bodies.  Some women like tall and beefy, some like short and slim.   A man needs to work on developing the best body that he can.  He then needs to pay attention to see which women are turned on by his particular body.   All men really don’t need to have movie star looks to get women.   Most women don’t want to be with a man who looks better than they do.  All a man has to be is decent looking with a body that appeals to a particular women.   The only women that tend to want a man that looks better than them are buttaface women.   The reason is that it makes them look good by being able to seduce a good-looking man.   Most men classified as Mr. Goodbar have average to slightly above average faces.   Men who are extremely handsome tend to have issues with women for numerous reasons I’ll get into in a future blog.

            Other than his physical presentation a man needs to work on his overall character.   A man doesn’t need to and shouldn’t change his basic personality to get a woman.  If he is naturally cool and calm he shouldn’t become gregarious because he thinks it will attract women.  Many women are attracted to cool and calm men.   A gregarious man shouldn’t try to be laid back because he thinks it will attract women.   Many women are attracted to gregarious men.   See what many dating coaches and seduction coaches teach men is how to wear a mask.   That’s why so many men fail.   Men have to be themselves.   They have to develop their character.   Too many want to become a clone of someone else.  For example, many men try to emulate pimps because they see how pimps control women.   First of all pimps do is manage women, they don’t control them.   Most women who get with a pimp are naturally promiscuous anyway.   All most pimps do is take advantage of the prostitute’s basic nature.   There are plenty of women out there who sell their bodies for money and they don’t have a pimp.   I first learned of that hustle during my childhood.   I also know some former sugar babies.   People really don’t know how deep the sexual underworld goes.   Yet another future blog.  My point about pimps is that men try to emulate that which they don’t know about.  The books on the market about pimps, even those by pimps, are just the tip of the iceberg.   Ask me how I know.

            When I talk about character that deals more with how some men interact with other people.   The reason most men fail with women is not because they are ugly, or broke, or don’t have game.   Some men are just not likeable.   I was at a wedding reception one time.   I was sitting at the table with a lame ass dude.  We’re at a joyous occasion and all this lame dude was doing was complaining about how women don’t like him.   I guess not.   He really wasn’t likeable as a human being.   He wasn’t the type of person I would invite out with a group for some beers.   Many so-called Nice Guys are whiny and obnoxious.   A woman could be turned on physically by a man and still get turned off when he opens his mouth.   Words won’t seduce a woman but they will sure as hell turn her off.   A man needs to work having a positive character.   Nobody wants to be around a negative individual.  A man who wants to attract women needs to work on being likeable by women.  This doesn’t mean agreeing with everything a woman says.   It means being cool to be around.  A man has to get to the point where a woman wants to be around him because it feels good to her.  A negative man isn’t going to make a woman feel good.

            I use the character of Dexter Goodbar as an example of a man who gets women based on his physical appearance.  A few blogs ago I introduced the character of Jimmy Cool.  Jimmy is Dexter’s cousin.  Jimmy isn’t fine like Dexter but women love him because he is cool to be around.  Let me share another thing about myself.  I attracted many women because they liked how I looked physically.   There were other women I got with who looked at me and said, “He aw’ight.”  There were a few women who didn’t like me all at when I first met them.    I won these women without trying because they were able to get to know me and considered me to be really cool.  For the most part I'm a positive person to be around.   I’m not the type who complains a lot.   If I complain publically about something I usually try to come up with a solution.   See I was a person women liked being around even if I wasn’t having sex with them or spending money on them.  I’ve always had a lot of female friends.  Ironically I’ve only heard the term “I only see you as a friend” a few times.   Those women who friendzoned me were women I either eventually had sex with or they expressed a desire to do so.  All because I stayed cool and kept a positive character.

            This doesn’t need to be too complicated.   Instead of taking the shortcut of game and getting subpar women a man needs to develop his body and his character.  The more his body and character is developed the better the quality of women who will try to seduce him.   At the end of the day that’s what it’s all about: a  man being the best version of himself and getting the best out of life.

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Why I Don't Teach Game Part 2: Demon Lovers

6/16/2014

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            Most people who want to learn that thing called “game” are motivated by desires for sex and love.   They realize that they are not the most physically attractive person so they want to learn any method they can to improve their sexual value.  I get that.  Whole industries have developed to help them with that.   For men an example is the seduction industry with books, videos, and seminars.   Quite as its kept women have their own things as well.  Most women’s magazines have articles on methods to deal with men.  Also you have the cosmetics industry to make a woman look more beautiful than she actually is as well as intimate apparel to make their bodies look tighter.   Also high heel shoes serve no real functional purpose yet women wear them to make their legs and butt look more sexually appealing.   Now that’s game.   Most of the men who attend seminars and the women who shop at lingerie stores are essentially good people who really want love.   In general they don’t have negative intentions towards the opposite sex.    That’s not the case with Demon Lovers.

            There are men and women in our society who are…different from everyone else.  Their thinking and outlooks on life are different.   These…people are predators plain and simple.   They are like serial killers in a way.  Instead of killing people they kill a person’s spirit.  They do so through sexual relationships.   They are the Demon Lovers.   The vampire myths probably arose from people dealing with these entities in ancient cultures.    In his book, The Natural Blueprint for Relationships (Natural Blueprint) Yao Nyamekye Morris devotes a whole chapter to Demon Lovers.  He refers to them as “fiends of the sexual underworld.”   He had this to say:

             The fiends of the sexual underworld do not necessarily look like the demons we see in comic books.  It is just the opposite.  Most often, they are men and women who are above average in the looks department.  Many of them look trustworthy and innocent on the surface.  They have one thing in common.  He or she is skilled at saying the things you want to hear.  They may not have a degree in psychology but they are very perceptive in sizing someone up.  They have trouble relating to the opposite sex in normal ways, so they compensate by exploiting weaknesses and unfulfilled desires.  The men know that most men are not as romantic and sensitive as the typical woman would like.  So they learn how to be better at that than the average male.  They listen for clues and act on them.  These men are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please a woman because they have nothing to lose.  They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship.  They don’t care about you or what you think about them.  But they make you think they care very much.

             The female demon lovers know that most black men do not feel appreciated and respected by the black woman.  And the first thing they do is show him how much they respect and appreciate what he is about.  They normally dress in a provocative manner and make it clear that fulfilling the man’s sexual desires is a high priority for them.  They listen for clues about what the man likes and then are quick to act on them.  Those women are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please her man.  They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship.  They don’t care about you or what you think about them.  But they make you think they care very much.

              The Natural Blueprint for Relationships P. 251.

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               Even though Natural Blueprint was written for an African American audience, the part about Demon Lovers can be applied to any race or culture.   I’ve met a few white Demon Lovers.  

               So what does this have to do with game and why I don’t teach it?  For one thing Demon Lovers are the top of the pyramid as far as “game.”  You’re talking the ultimate manipulators.  Even Pimps have nothing on Demon Lovers. What dating coaches and seduction gurus teach is a pathetic joke next to what a Demon Lover can do.   You’re talking about people that will consciously destroy a person’s life for no other reason than their own amusement.   There are the men playing mind games with women for no other reason than to pass the time.   You have women are stealing another woman’s loving husband for no other reason than that she can.   Those are the “nicer” Demon Lovers.   Some Demon Lovers are literally weapons of mass destruction.  I’m not exaggerating.  

               Every now and then there is a story in the media about a person intentionally infecting a large number of people with a sexually transmitted disease such as HIV.   Think about it, a single man or woman has unprotected sex with several hundred people and infects them with HIV.   Those men and women go out and get into relationships or have sexual encounters, thus spreading HIV to several thousand more people.   Many will die or at the very least get very sick and may get financially ruined paying medical expenses.   That’s a weapon of war right there.   A single Demon Lover can literally destroy whole communities.

              Stop and think about it.

              Now what is my connection to Demon Lovers?  Remember in part 1 of this blog series I said I spent a part of my childhood in a dysfunctional environment.  It wasn’t just my home but pretty much a mile radius around my house.  There were folks around there who made the characters on The Wire look like the law-abiding citizens.   My mother’s “friends” were one thing.  My own were another.   So I’m hanging around other kids my age and to say they were “interesting” is an understatement.  There was one friend I’ll call Zeke.  Zeke had the pretty boy thing going as well as being a true thug.   The little girls loved him enough to engage in an eight year-old’s approximation of sex.   Zeke kept me on my toes because he would manipulate anyone around him without remorse.   He was fairly sociopathic.  Last I heard about Zeke he was serving time for premeditated murder.  Another kid I’ll call Bo used to suck older boy’s dicks but chased little girls as well.  Bo had a big crush on my sister.   He probably grew up to be a DL brotha.   Another kid I’ll call Dan was just nasty.  Every conversation with him involved sex.   He probably grew up to be pimp or a porn actor.   As far as myself, I’ll put it like this, my street name was “Romeo.”   At my house, some of my mother’s WOMAN friends did things like walk around in their underwear and at least one always wanted to “hug” me.  That’s all I care to say about that.   My point is that looking back I was exposed to Demon Lovers at a very young age.   

          I also took on many of their traits.

          When people used to ask me to teach them how to be a dog they didn’t do so because I was some smooth player who brought a smile to woman’s faces and could be a fun date.   I was a straight up dog.   Love them and leave them wasn’t a tactic for me.  It was just how I rolled.   It didn’t bother my conscience at all because MOST of these women had boyfriends or at least good guys who were interested in them.   I wasn’t going to get emotionally invested in a woman cheating on a man who obviously loved her.   If the woman got her heart broken because I didn’t return her phone call so be it.  She had a man, cry on his shoulders.   Quite frankly I roll my eyes when women complain about men cheating.   Women do it more and are way better at it.  See a woman will cheat within the rhythm of her daily activities.   There’s a certain period of time when her man thinks she’s doing one thing when she may be with someone in a hotel room.    A woman can send her man off to work, invite her 16 year-old neighbor over to the house, suck the young boy’s dick, and then have her husband’s dinner on the table when he gets home.  She may even have sex with her husband that night.   The man is oblivious to his wife’s cheating because she’s submissive, she cooks, and gives him regular sex.   He thinks he’s running things.   Yeah right.

           As far as myself I was like Blade.  I had all the Demon Lover powers but none of their weaknesses.  I wasn’t the villain of the story.  More like the morally ambiguous anti-hero of the story.   Another unique aspect of my childhood was that I used to read the Bible a lot.  Could have been a child preacher. My mother before her nervous breakdown used to open our home to some of the local kids to teach them the Bible.  That’s how I made some of my first friends.   My mother’s spiritual nature was  unique in itself.  She read the Bible but she also read New Thought material such as Norman Vincent Peale and Rev. Ike.   Many things people are talking about now she was talking about then.   She even got money for praying for people.   My home environment was sexualized and spiritual at the same time.   Plus if someone actually reads the Bible there were some players up in there.   King David set up his boy to get killed just to get at his wife.  King Solomon (whom my mother compared me to) had 700 wives.  Shoot, getting with multiple women was sanctioned by God as far as I was concerned.  I say all that to say I had some type of moral compass to keep from going totally to the dark side.   Don’t get it twisted though there were times that had nothing to do with women where I did cross the line.   Y’all might not hear those stories.

          Now the average Demon Lover grew up in an environment where there wasn’t any type of moral compass.   See, religion is more than just a way to worship a person’s vision of God.   In this culture religion is a behavior control system.   Specifically most religions serve to control a person’s sexual nature.   If you pay attention to very religious people, particularly women in Protestant churches, you will notice that they typically dress in a way which deflects attention away from their bodies.  When a man looks at them his first thought isn’t going to be, “I want to bang her.”   Her clothing and body language will not arouse him even if she is otherwise beautiful with a voluptuous body.   If the same woman was wearing a short dress and heels he would likely get a massive hard-on.   Now you raise a child in a non-religious environment with few other restrictions, they will not do anything to limit their natural sex appeal.  Indeed they will dress in a way to magnify their body.  Girls from dysfunctional homes typically dress in sexually provocative clothing even in instances where more conservative clothing would be appropriate.

          So you have a child in a dysfunctional environment who isn’t taught to suppress their sexual nature.   Let’s add some more ingredients to this mix.   You have a kid who has very good physical genetics.   The boys will grow up to have a tall muscular body while the girls will grow up to have a shapely body with optimal contrasts between the breasts, waist, and hips.   Add to this above average facial features.   On these factors alone the kids will grow to attract multiple mates.   There’s still more to add to the mix.   A Demon Lover has above average, even genius level social intelligence.  Most IQ tests only test a person’s linguistic and mathematic ability.   It’s hard to test a person’s social genius or street smarts.   Indeed if there were such a test the Demon Lover would purposely underperform on it.  Demon Lovers really aren’t normal.  Yet they will make an effort to appear normal.   Looking normal is how Demon Lovers get over.

        When people think of players, there’s an image of men in flashy clothes, with tattoos and loud talking being the center of attention.  With women it’s the image of someone wearing sexually provocative clothing.  Demon Lovers are smart enough to look clean cut and innocent.   A male Demon Lover is likely to look like he is a church going nerd if it works for him.  A female Demon Lover may look like a “goody goody girl” if it works for her.   I had an acquaintance who was bragging about his new girlfriend.   She was just perfect for him in his eyes.  I met her and I knew something was up.  She was very beautiful and very innocent looking.  I caught something in her eyes though for a brief second.   I started to take the acquaintance to the side but he was so enamored with her he wouldn’t have received what I said.  A few months I saw him again and found she stole money and personal items from him.  Nothing is safe with a Demon Lover.  Many a bank account has been emptied behind one.

         One thing sometimes people will see a Demon Lover in action and not know what they’re seeing.  Men will see a bunch of women hovering around a Demon Lover and foolishly try to emulate what they see.   They think they can be a jerk and insult a woman and she will sleep with him.   Really it’s not the behavior itself that’s turning on a woman.   The woman is tolerating the behavior because the man is fulfilling some other need the woman has.  One major need is sex.  Women want to sleep with a sexy man period.   Also the Demon Lover picked up on the psychological need which he at least pretends to fill.   Notice I said pretends.   The Demon Lover exploits the needs for his own ends, which could be money or simply a place to stay.  He might just want some ass and nothing else.   He might want the challenge of turning out a church girl.   A female Demon Lover may want to change her living situation.   A sexy woman can change her social class and financial situation by simply pussy whipping a rich man.   Many men can make money but lack common sense.   A female Demon Lover will stroke his dick and his ego and all of sudden she has a nice home and money.

          This is serious stuff.  Many men out here want to learn game because they think with game they can go from a man who doesn’t get the time of day to becoming a player.  Seriously if a man isn’t getting attention from women he has bigger problems he needs to deal with.  Learning some dubious techniques won’t help him.  The knowledge I have is dangerous.   Say hypothetically I give the knowledge to a bitter man.   That man isn’t going to go out and get into a functional relationship.   He’s not going to be loving towards women.   He’s going out for revenge.  He’s going to take out all those years of frustration on some women who did nothing to him.   Many women now are catching hell now from men who didn’t get sex regularly when they were young.   Let me share something with you.  All Demon Lovers don’t come from dysfunctional backgrounds.   There are a few men and women who develop the traits later in life.  Let me use an example.

            You have a man named Fred.   Fred grew up in a home with both parents in a middle class neighborhood.  Now Fred is slim and nerdy.  He was never the type who went to parties or played sports.  The girls in high school and college weren’t checking for him.   He gets a good career out of college and gradually makes enough money to get a house and late model car.   He has everything except the girl.  So he starts checking out seduction material.   He improves a little bit because he is given rudimentary game.  He’s instructed to approach several women a day and he has brief sexual encounters with a few women who are quite frankly unattractive and easy.   Fred is still frustrated until he runs into Dexter Goodbar and his cousins, Jimmy Cool and Damon Lover.  He sees them in action at a club and offers them money to teach him.  Dexter and Jimmy decline.  Damon though agrees to teach him.   Damon blows Fred’s mind.  Damon tells him some things that he can’t hear in a seduction seminar or find on the internet.  Over the period of a year Fred is transformed but not in a good way.   Fred is able to get better women but because he learned from a Demon Lover he starts dogging them.  See the thing that Fred didn’t deal with was his bitterness.   Fred made it his mission in life to dog as many women as possible because of numerous past rejections.  Fred the Nice Guy closed his eyes, Fred the Demon Lover opened them.

          There’s too many Fred’s out there.   Too many men who allowed their spirits to be consumed by bitterness.  When many men asked me to teach them how to be dogs they didn’t have good intentions.   These men would have been dangerous to women and I couldn’t be responsible for any damage caused.  Now this is not to say that I won’t give insights.  I mentioned “Roger” in the “Do The Work” blog.   I tell him whatever he wants to know.  Why?  He has a genuine love for women.   A love he likes to share with several women at the same time but still a love.   I’ll never put what I know in a book.   The knowledge I give in my books will increase the number of women a man can attract.   It requires work though in such a way that will enable a man to deal with his bitterness and other issues preventing him from attracting women.   Until a man deals with his personal demons he can’t be allowed access to the deeper knowledge.

          I’m going to do a part 3 to this series.   I’m going to talk about how man can attract women without using game.

 

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Goodbar Speaks

6/1/2014

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I have a guest blogger this week.  The infamous Dexter Goodbar.   Just to let you know there is explicit language.  Don't say I didn't warn you.  - Rom Wills

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            Yeah,

            So my big homie Rom asked me to write a guest blog for him this week.   I see he’s been telling people about me so he guessed y’all need me to lace you with game from the man himself.   I had to think about what I wanted to write about.  Since Rom telling y’all about all these women throwing themselves at me I thought I would talk about that.  He tried to get that playa Roger to do it.  Roger though didn’t have a break in the rotation of his women.  Roger said God put him on Earth to make women holler.   He couldn’t write the blog because he’s too busy doing the Lord’s work.  Praise him! And back that thing up!

            I’m getting older, I do the Lord’s work too but I rest on Sundays so here I am.

            You know what, bamas out here too damn pressed for women.   You got these men out here chasing women, simping and whatnot.   They got this dumbass idea that they have to convince a woman to have sex.   They actually believe women aren’t as interested in sex as men.  You know that’s some bullshit.   Naw, women just don’t want have sex with certain men.   They just like us.   Men want women with those big round breasts, small waists, phat booty, and shapely legs that can crush a man’s back.   They act like women don’t care about a man’s body as well.   Women looking for that big chest and smile.   Quiet as it kept they check out legs too especially that third one.   Bamas be trying to use logic to get a woman into bed or buy her with some money.  Naw just get that bench press up and stop eating that shit that’s making your stomach poke out.  

            Bamas know in general that women choose the men.   I don’t think they get it though and what it really means.   Women when they want a man will try to seduce him.   If a woman ain’t trying to seduce you she don’t want you.   Some men think that means she is going to approach him and initiate things.  Naw.  A woman seduces by drawing you to them.   That’s their game.  When women throw on those sexy clothes they going fishing with a net.   They catch ten men in that net and throw back seven cause they bamas.   Of the three she keeps she throws one back later cause though he cute, he dumb and broke.   Another one is cute and got some ends but he can’t fuck.  She get with him and after 3 minutes dude gets his rocks off and is now snoring.   Third one a little better but they don’t really click so she’s back to fishing.  Women though don’t go without good dick unless they really want to.  That’s when my cellphone starts blowing up.  Texts be looking like this:

            Woman:  What you doing now?

            Me:  Reading a comic book.

            Woman: I betcha you can’t read a comic book while I’m sucking your dick.

            Me:  Yeah I can.   We’ll find out in the future.

            Woman:  We can find out now.  I’m outside your door with a trench coat, heels, and nothing else.

            Me: Oh snap.

            I wasn’t doing anything else at the time anyway.  I did check her for coming over without calling first.  She had skills so I let her off with a warning.

            I learned early in life that women will give a man the punanny without him doing anything other than being himself.  When I was about nine I was playing tag with some kids around the way.   There was this seven year old named Susie who liked me.   Now we playing tag and I was it.   I counted to ten and start chasing them.  I’m chasing them and Susie told the group, “Y’all run ahead now I got this.”  She slowed down and then fell to the ground.  I ain’t gonna say what happened next cause people wanna go around with their heads in the sand and act like kids ain’t getting down.  Let’s just say we didn’t finish the game but started a different one.  

            Years later at fourteen, a 30ish single woman showed me some things.   Every neighborhood got that one woman who don’t like men her own age and like them some young boys.   That’s where that whole cougar thing started.   Feminists and their mangina enablers act like men are the only ones doing some foul shit with underage children.   Mothers with some street smarts know when they see their sons start to fill out that older women are going to be checking for their baby boys.  Many a dude got initiated by either an older neighbor, teacher, or babysitter.   Those same dudes are the ones that turn out to be playas and dogs.  Oh yeah, oh yeah, I can get gully with it and talk about the game that so-called relationship experts, dating coaches, and red pill bloggers don’t know about.   That’s some deep shit though.  I’ll let Rom take care of that.

            Now I know some bamas reading this don’t care about any deep shit.  They want to know how Dexter Goodbar is getting his.   Well one I’m fine, at least that’s what women tell me when they ask me to put my number into their smartphones.   Women are visual.   A woman can cum just by looking at a man.   Thing is most men are physically unattractive to women.   Too many men let themselves get out of shape.  They thinking that as long as they got money and some game they can get over.   Naw, money and game is just something women settle for when they can’t otherwise find a fine man.  

            Now a man can send a woman to heaven but he gonna need to be able to conversate with her afterwards.   I got the gift of gab.  I can talk to a woman about anything.   I got a bunch of sisters and female cousins so learned how to talk with women early.   See too many men don’t know how to talk to women without trying to get sex.   A man gotta be able to just vibe with a woman without trying to get in her panties.   It ain’t always about the sex.   Women bring a lot to the table.  Many men gotta stop tripping.   A man has to sometimes walk away from the punanny.  

            There’s was this one time when I went over to this fine sista’s house.   She was so fine my dick drove me over.   She opened the door butt naked, holding a freshly baked cherry pie.  She said, “Dexter you have a choice to make.  You can only get me or this cherry pie.  One or the other, not both.  Choose wisely.”

            Man that was the best cherry pie I ever had.

            Besides being fine and able to talk to the ladies, I turn them on because I run shit.   I own some clothing stores.   People think I’m just a pretty boy.  I’ve been hustling since I was little plus I got a degree.   Women talk all that independent stuff.  Most of the time that’s because they don’t have a sexy man to provide for them.   Here’s a little known game women run.   A man will meet an “independent” woman and think she’s bringing finances to the table.   As they date and some cases get married he finds out she doesn’t want to be a career woman.   She always wanted to be a happy housewife.   She was only “independent” because she didn’t have a choice.   She still had to eat.  As Rom would say, “Ask me how I know.”

            There’s so much I can say.   I got things to do so let me leave you with this.   You got a lot of men out there who bore women sexually.   Mainly it’s bamas who want to get a little too romantic.   I know many cats who want to make love to soft music, candles and shit.  They be reciting some erotic poetry and talking about doing some Tantra so they can “heal” the woman.   They got the silk sheets. And the room is bright and clean and whatnot.  You know all that is good but sometimes you gotta switch that joint up.

            Every now and then you gotta bring the mattress into the living room and sit there buck naked waiting for your woman to get home.   When she walks through the door you gotta rip her clothes off, throw her on the mattress, and tap that ass like you just got out of prison.   Every now and then women need that raw uncivilized primal masculine energy.   Studs know what I’m talking about.  Women will start talking trash when they want that energy.  They grab your ass and be yelling, “Take this muthafucking pussy! You know want it!  Take it! Take the pussy!” 

            All right I done talked enough smack.   I just got a text.  I have to go do the Lord’s work.




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