Category: Demon Lovers

#wastehistime2016 will be a Nightmare

1/10/2016

  The latest thing trending on social media is “#wastehistime2016.”   In a nutshell women are tweeting about things to do to a man they are dating to “waste his time.”   Basically these women are advocating doing to men what men have done to women for years.   Being the player instead being played. Yeah okay.   Now I’ve read where this is supposed to be satire. Maybe.   Many people are taking this seriously judging by the coverage this hashtag is receiving.   I want to add my $59.99 to the conversation.   Women especially need to really think on what I’m about to say.

            First of all, nothing advocated by #wastehistime2016 is new.   Women have been playing these types of games with men for generations.   I’ve been conscious of these games since I was a little kid in the seventies.   I used to watch older women play these games.   In my latest book, “A Player’s Eyes” I write that I learned that thing called “game” from women.   I’ve talked with elders who told me about women’s games going back at least to 1930's which means women have been playing the game even longer.   There’s nothing new under the sun.   I repeat #wastehistime2016 isn’t particularly revolutionary.   Young folks need to stop thinking they are reinventing the wheel.   They would know this if they would have real conversations with their elders.

            Let’s be straight up about something.   Many women are embracing this hashtag to turn the tables on the men who have hurt them, primarily Players and Bad Boys.   Let’s be raw.   Women are NOT going to doing anything to waste a Player or Bad Boy’s time.   The true Player, especially if he is a sexually appealing Mr. Goodbar type, only deals with women on his terms.   When Mr. Goodbar tires of a woman he dismisses her like the maid.   A woman gets one shot at him.   If she does some dumb shit he has five other women to take her place.   Women know this.   Plus to be real, a woman is not going to play games with Mr. Goodbar anyway because she wants that good dick from him.

            As far as Bad Boys let’s be raw again.   Some of those men are crazy.   I’m not talking about the men who call themselves Bad Boys because on the surface they go against the grain.   I’m talking about crazy men who will beat a woman’s ass for being five minutes late from the store. Domestic violence is a serious matter.   Many women think they got that girl power thing and they can do or say anything to a man and he won’t put his hands on them.   These women are STUPID!   If a man has it in him to put his hands on a woman he will not give a fuck about the police, your male family members, or your woman’s empowerment group.   The type of man who will beat a woman will put a bullet in another man’s ass.    All it takes with some men is just the PERCEPTION that a woman is trying to play him.   #wastehistime2016 may get a woman killed.   For the women reading this you never truly know who you’re dealing with.   Don’t get hurt over a silly game.

            The biggest single problem with #wastehistime2016 is not the Players or Bad Boys and their reaction.   The biggest problem is that women will do these things to genuinely good men.   For reasons I have never been able to fathom women like playing games with men who have good intentions towards them.   A woman will meet a man who finds her attractive and interesting.   On the other hand she might not be feeling him because he doesn’t make her vagina tingle like Mr. Goodbar.   Instead of just letting him down easy she lets him spend money on her and pretend like he’s winning her heart.   That’s a best case scenario.   Often she will play those games advocated by #wastehistime2016 as revenge for what some other man did.   The women who do this get a level of satisfaction but ultimately they’ve created some bad karma.

            There’s a type of man I never really talk about.   Even when I talk about Mr. Goodbar I don’t really say anything negative about him.    Mr. Goodbar doesn’t have negative intent towards women.   He simply desires multiple women.   He is giving women something of value, pleasure, to the woman.   The type of man I never really talk about it the DOG.   This is the man who will INTENTIONALLY hurt women.   He will go out of way to emotionally damage a woman. Another term is DEMON LOVER.   These men in most cases weren’t born evil.   I’ve found something interesting in talking with these men over the years and even observing a few I’ve watched transform.   These men all started off as genuine good guys with good hearts.   Then they ran into game playing women who broke their hearts.   The most common case is an emotionally abusive mother.   The second most common case is not just being rejected but demeaned by an attractive girl or woman.   Let’s get deeper into that last one.

            If a woman just rejects a man that’s one thing.   All men, including Mr. Goodbar, have been rejected. It’s another thing if a woman strings a man along. Wastes his time.   Many women do that. They know they have no interest in a particular man.   Yet they will let a man take them out on dates and buy nice things.   The whole time she will be a little mean to him. After a month or so they will tell the man they just want to be “friends.”   The woman already knew she wasn’t interested but she USED the man. Some will even laugh about the man with their girlfriends. Many men can do nothing but complain on social media and in general withdraw socially.   Then you have the Dog.

            The men who become Dogs are typically men who are what I call “Dormant Goodbars.”   These are those men who will either be a little underweight, or have a little baby fat.   They will have generally handsome features but they may not have the best look as far as their haircuts and facial hair.   They won’t have a good style and may not have a lot of social skills.   What they have is good hearts and good intentions towards women. At least until several women have intentionally “wasted his time.”   There comes a time in a Dog’s life when that good heart he had closes.   Once that happens a Demon Lover is born.   There’s a saying that says “Once the student is ready, the teacher appears.”   That Dog will run into someone who will teach him two things: how to attract women to him and how to push a woman’s sexual buttons.    The Good Guy has become the Dog and thus a vicious cycle is continued.

            Many women might think that #wastehistime2016 is empowering but the reality they are creating a scenario where instead meeting a dream man they will encounter a nightmare.

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The Masked Man

8/31/2014

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            All right I’ve talked about Mr. Goodbar to death.    People get it that there are a small percentage of men who have the raw ability to sexually arouse many women.   Thing is that Mr. Goodbar does indeed represent a SMALL percentage of the male population. We’re talking at most ten percent.   Obviously they are not the only ones getting the attention of multiple women. Just below Goodbar on the sexual hierarchy are the Masked Men.   This group of men represents maybe 25 percent of the male population.   They are not desired because of their raw sex appeal like Goodbar but they have enough looks to arouse women to some extent.   To qualify as Masked Men they have to have some money and status as well.

          See the mask is not about a man putting on a façade so much. It’s more about what the WOMAN sees when she looks at the man.   The woman doesn’t see pretty eyes, a flat stomach and a big package when she looks at a Masked Man. Even if the Masked Man has these things, which many do, women don’t see raw sex appeal when they look at this class of men.   Women will look at the Masked Man and see that he has a nice suit on which means he may be a professional. They see that he is driving a late model car which means he has some money. They see that he speaks and carries himself a certain way which means he may have some status. Masked Men are what women look for when they get tired of dealing with Mr. Goodbar.

             Most women see Mr. Goodbar as good for sex and nothing more.   Women chase Mr. Goodbar from their teenaged years to maybe their early thirties.   A few women never really stop chasing Mr. Goodbar like these women in their fifties who blatantly flirt with young boys thinking they’re still sexy.   As an aside these older women aren’t sexy to these young boys, just easy.   I may do a future blog on that subject but I digress.

              Women with a little bit of sense eventually outgrow Goodbars.   Six pack abs don’t mean anything when the bills become due.    Multiple orgasms are one thing but when the car breaks down and the repairs cost over a thousand dollars that good dick isn’t helpful to the average woman.   After they come down from that orgasmic high the car still needs to be repaired.   Goodbar may not be able to help even if he wants to.   Many Goodbars don’t have much going for them outside of sex appeal.   Many are living with their mamas or being sponsored by some older woman.   Many can’t keep steady jobs because they are going in and out of so many women that their work experience doesn’t go beyond minimum wage jobs.   The more thuggish Goodbars may have money from illegal hustles but despite what many people think most street hustlers don’t make that much money.   The reality is that someone working at a burger joint makes more money than the average street cat.   My point in all this is to say that Mr. Goodbar is more a romantic dream but then that alarm clock goes off and the woman has to deal with real life.   That’s when the Masked Man becomes more attractive.

            So women start looking for that educated professional or in the case of lower social classes that blue collar cat that looks like he is making money.    Women in general after they go through their Goodbar phase start looking for a successful man with money.   Some women will say they are looking for someone “with benefits.”   In the Black community in particular someone may say they are looking for a “BMW,” – a “Black Man Working.” I’m not sure about an equivalent term in other communities though the Masked Man thing is prevalent wherever western culture is practiced.   Indeed in the white community the line between Goodbar and the Masked Man is EXTREMELY blurred. Now that’s a topic I would have to get into some deep metaphysical knowledge to fully explain.   A few African and Native American Shamans know the great secrets though. I won’t share it here. Y’all not ready.

            Back on topic, the Masked Man becomes most desirable to women when they want a more stable and grown up relationship.    They want a stable home life and someone who can provide the resources for that home life.   The women have that biological clock ticking and will want a responsible successful man to be the father.   Some women may already have children and want a responsible, successful man to be the stepfather.    A game some women will run is to get pregnant by Goodbar and then try to act like the Masked Man is the father.   In my opinion that’s why paternity testing should be mandatory.   For this reason many very successful men will get vasectomies.

            So you get the idea that women go for Masked Men for their money and status.   Funny thing is that women in private, in the media, and in public forums, will loudly proclaim they want these men.   Indeed on social media there will be memes designed to shame Masked Men into wanting a woman regardless of her physical appearance and emotional baggage.   In many ways and situations a woman will get angrier with a Masked Man for rejecting her than Mr. Goodbar.   The average woman doesn’t have any expectations from Goodbar beyond good sex.   They are looking at the Masked Man, however, as that good catch. He’s the good man they are speaking of when they say there is a shortage.   The Masked Man is marriage material. A woman’s biggest problem with the Masked Man is that he is not cooperating with her expectations.   In my observation a woman is more likely to get dogged by a Masked Man than by Mr. Goodbar.   Let’s get into why I have this observation.   I’ll need some help with this one, so I’ll turn to Eric Money. I introduced the character of Eric Money in some previous blogs as a successful man.   I didn’t really get into his backstory though.

            Eric Money as a teenager was skinny and awkward.   He wasn’t the most popular boy in the neighborhood or in school.   When girls texted each other about cute boys his name didn’t come up.   In the locker room after gym class he didn’t have any stories or good lies about the girls he had been with like the jocks and thugs told.   Eric was just someone who was very good academically.   The teachers and older women in the community saw his value but the girls were more interested in the popular boys.   Eric went through his four years in high school without getting so much as a kiss.

            Things got a little bit better for Eric in college.   He managed to have sex with a couple of Plain Janes but those were flings that didn’t materialize into relationships as the Plain Janes were more interested in Frat Boys and Jocks.   They made it very clear to Eric not to get his expectations up. They both said that he’s a “Nice Guy but…”    Eventually Eric graduated college and got a well-paying job as a financial advisor.   The women were still not feeling him even with the extra money.   Many went on dates with him and pretended to like him so he would spend money on them.   The straw that broke the camel’s back was when he took a woman on a date and then after the date took her to a house different from where he picked her up.   She gave him a kiss on the cheek and went to the house where a buffed man answered the door wearing nothing but shorts.   It was a defining moment for Eric.   His view of women changed.   Eric was at a crossroads and decided to change his life.

            So Eric started reading books and blogs about being successful with women.   After reading all the information Eric went into a period of transformation.   He started hitting the gym to put muscles on his skinny frame.   He developed a better understanding of a woman’s inner nature.   The most important thing he did though was stay focused on his career and stopped letting basic women interfere with his self-esteem and life goals.    Within a period of a few years Eric was able to put on forty pounds of muscle. He upgraded his wardrobe and personal grooming.   Eric started to hang out in more affluent circles as he moved into a house in an upper class neighborhood and only drove late model luxury cars.   The main thing he did was to begin to hold the women he dealt with to higher standards. Before his transformation Eric had genuine interest in women who rated at best as sixes on the 1 -10 scale.   After his transformation he would give barely give women who rated below an eight the time of day. He wouldn’t even look their direction while out and about.    Of course as a result of that dynamic more women became interested in him.

            Incidentally I just gave away some game.

            Eric transformed into a fully realized Masked Man.   No he’s not drop dead handsome.   Even with the extra muscles he doesn’t have a great body which would cause a woman to want to take off her panties thinking as the meme says, “I won’t be needing these.” What women see is a man whose demeanor and self-confidence communicates the message that “yes I can succeed and provide resources. Yes I would make a stable husband.”   The panties will come off for a different reason. Now here’s where it gets interesting with Masked Men. Women are choosing them but the Masked Men are not choosing them back.

            Here’s a reality that women need to grasp.   Truth be told women tend to get mad when this reality is pointed out to them.   Many don’t want to hear it. Too bad. Women need to get their heads out of the sand because what I’m about to share is a very real dynamic.   Many women will reject a man for many reasons.   Admittedly some reasons are very good but many are frivolous. The rejection itself might not be that bad. It’s part of life.   I personally say that a man can learn a lot from a rejection. Rejection helps a man to grow. The problem though is that many women can’t just graciously reject a man in way that leaves his self-esteem intact. Many women will reject a man in a mean-spirited way.   Many women will purposely try to hurt a man’s feelings.   For what? All he did was find them attractive and work up the courage to approach them.   A woman doesn’t have to want a particular man but don’t make him feel bad that he isn’t tall with a six-pack and pretty eyes.   Yet many women have no problem rejecting a man harshly. Too bad many women don’t understand a simple universal principle: What goes around comes around.

            When men are rejected they may get out of a particular woman’s face but they don’t really go away.   Some men learn how to game women and become straight up dogs.   They learn to treat women in a poor way.   A woman may reject a particular man and that man turns around and dogs another woman.   Some degenerate men may dog that woman’s teenaged daughter even though he’s forty.   In the case of the Masked Men he never forgets what made him into what he is.

            Here’s a very common scenario that virtually every Masked Man has shared with me.   Even a few Goodbars have talked about this as well.   Here’s the scenario. When a woman is young, pretty and sexy she will reject a particular man who wanted her badly.   The man is typically put in the friend zone so it’s not a case of a man randomly approaching a sexy woman on the street.   The young sexy woman knows the man very well.   She even likes the man to some extent but for a number of reasons does not want a relationship with him.   Even Goodbars will experience this with at least one woman.   Rejections like this hurt the man more than a rejection by a random woman on the street.   At some point the man moves on to more receptive women.   The sexy woman and the man typically fall out of contact with one another.

            Now a few years later that woman runs into the man she once friend zoned.   The man is now more muscular and confident.   He’s a successful Masked Man, well dressed and moving through the world with authority.   The woman on the other hand has put on some pounds and has taken some emotional hits from dealing with a few Goodbars and maybe a Demon Lover. She also has a child from one of the Goodbars who refuses to acknowledge the child.   She’s struggling in life and she sees this man who always adored her and waited for a long time for her to return his feelings.   At that point she finds this man she had friend zoned as VERY attractive. She starts flirting and the nicer Masked Man may let her down easy.

            The meaner ones will say, “Get the fuck outta here with that bullshit.”

            Once a man gets to a point where he is suddenly desirable after many years of being seen as undesirable he doesn’t all of sudden want the women who rejected him when he was younger.   That may work in a romantic comedy and a novel.   In real life it doesn’t fly.   Now a few Masked Men may have sex with the women who once rejected them in order to dog them out but most will simply not want to be bothered.

            There’s more to be said about the Masked Man. We’re talking about complex individuals.   I mean women find them attractive for their material possessions and their status but what about the man underneath the mask.   Also a reality is that beyond sex a Masked Man really doesn’t have a need for women. I’ll get into all that my next blog.

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Goodbar Clans

7/20/2014

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            So the star of the show in my books, blogs, and coaching is Mr. Goodbar. Well I write what I know.   It’s who I am. Actually women in the past have called me cocky, arrogant, player, bad boy, jerk, and those were the nicer comments.   They called me sexy too so for some odd reason the other names didn’t prove to be a hindrance to getting sex.   That might have to be the “Being Mr. Goodbar” book I need to get around to publishing.    Anyway Mr. Goodbar is in my blood as the men in my family had zero problems getting women. My great-grandfather was a minister that had the women in his congregation swooning.   My paternal grandfather was a “whoremonger” as my grandmother called him. He knew a woman’s body better than a doctor. My maternal grandfather was a smooth numbers runner who was a straight Mack.   My maternal uncle as a cop looked like Billy Dee Williams with a personality like Alonzo Harris from Training Day.   My father is a blue collar man who has women young enough to be my daughter chasing HIM. I have a couple of cousins who got paid by women for sex.

            My point though is not to provide my family background. My real point is Mr. Goodbar isn’t one single character type.   The men in my family represent different types of Goodbars.   My great grandfather was Black upper class while his daughter, my grandmother, married into a numbers running family. She in turn had a son who became a cop.   My father’s people were blue collar. My cousins were on that line between working class and Black Elite. All these men came from different places but represented different types of masculine sex appeal.   In the manner of role playing games and young adult novels I have identified eight types of Goodbars or as I’ll call them, Goodbar Clans.   What follows is a description of each group and their appeal to women.   One thing I will point out is that in earlier blogs I talked about Lovermen, Demon Lovers, and Male Freaks.   These titles don’t constitute separate groups because they are traits that can be found in men in any of the clans.

            One thing to note is that these clans are categorized according to how women are sexually turned on by them.   For example a woman will be turned on by men in two of the clans but unmoved by men in the other five clans.   There is no hierarchy in how these clans are presented.   Think of them as different styles of sexual seduction.

LOOKERS

            The Lookers are the pretty boys of the Goodbar Clans.   These men are extremely handsome. They have been blessed with great facial bone structure, and in many cases pretty eyes.   Lookers tend to have average bodies and be of average height.   Women really don’t care about a Looker’s body. A few rare Lookers may be a few pounds overweight.   Women are too busy staring at the face of a Looker to care about the rest of him.    Lookers tend to take care of their face and will always have a fly haircut.

BODYMEN

            Many women don’t want to be around a man that looks better than they do. These women get turned on by a man with an average face and muscular body.   The Bodymen are those cats with the killer physiques. They will have the big chest, broad shoulders, tall, muscular legs, and tight butts. Women say “dat ass” too. Women will want kiss the Lookers but will want to lick the chest and back of the Bodymen.   Ask me how I know.

SWAG CATS

            This clan is made up of men who are stylish dressers.   These men will have fly glasses or shades. Maybe a nice gold chain. Cotton shirts or polos.   Their pants will be pressed and creased. Rest assured their shoes will be shined to the point where you can see your reflection.   Even when dressed casually these men will have on crisp jeans or athletic suits. Many women are turned on by a man who knows how to dress.

BAD BOYS

            The Bad Boys are the Clan that catches the most hell.   Many non-Goodbars think this group gets the most attention. Not really but they get enough.   The Bad Boys tend to be decent looking with decent bodies. A big part of their appeal is their non-conformity.   From a physical point of view they don’t look like the mainstream population.   Their hair will be longer. They will have more tattoos than the average person.   They tend to make money in sometimes illegal ways or if legal outside the normal nine to five. Many may be artists.

COOL DUDES

            The Cool Dudes are the charismatic Clan.   They don’t have the looks and the body.   They are average dressers and they tend to be more mainstream.   They are the men who can click with damn near everybody.   Women are rarely turned on by the Cool Dudes at first. A woman may meet a Cool Dude and immediately put him in the friend zone. Then she talks to him for an hour and is ready to take him to a motel.   The Cool Dudes know how to connect to a woman emotionally.

BANGERS

            The Bangers are not necessarily handsome or have the best looking bodies. They tend to be built solid but not with muscular definition.   Many may have a bit of a gut. They are not stylish dressers and are surprisingly conformist.   They are very down to earth.   The thing about them is that they look like they would fuck the shit out of a woman.   The Bangers tend to be the men women go to when they just need to some good dick.   Many people think women go to the Bad Boys or Bodymen for straight sex.   Naw they go to the Bangers.   See the other groups tend to be picky and will limit their sex partners to women who rate as an eight or above.   The Bangers will fuck anything female. And they will do it WELL.   These men aren’t making love with candles and rose petals.   Some women just want straight pounding and the Bangers happily oblige them.

THOROUGHS

            The Thoroughs don’t necessarily turn on women from raw sex appeal in terms of face and body. The Thoroughs turn on women because of how they handle themselves in life.   The Thoroughs turn on women because they are confident and aggressive in how they approach life. These men are natural leaders.   Most women and men for the matter were built to follow.   The Thorough is the man who will always take the lead. He will take charge of a situation without thinking about it. Women will unconsciously submit to a Thorough.   Many women are turned on sexually if they submit to a man.

TANTRA BROTHAS

            The eighth clan is a recent creation starting in 2007.   There is a tiny but slowly growing subculture of primarily Black men who are learning how to bring a woman to orgasm without touching them.   They are doing this through energy projection. Check out this video starting at the 4:00 mark. For the most part these men look like Nice Guys.   These men don’t have game.   As a result of learning energy techniques as well as going through some other regimens women are being sexually aroused by these men by simply being in the same room.   I estimate the number of men doing this to be less than 100 right now. In another ten years the numbers may be in the thousands.

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            So there you have it. If you look at the clans any man can become a Mr. Goodbar.   Many men will say that they’re ugly, or short, or broke and thus will not attract women.    Other than the Lookers, the Goodbars aren’t the most handsome.   Only the Bodymen have killer physiques.   The other clans are made up of average looking men.   The only thing they all have in common is sex appeal.   A man can be ugly, short, and broke and still get sex as long as he is a Cool Dude or Thorough.   He can still dress well like a Swag Cat. The Tantra Brothas are mostly nerdy in behavior and physical appearance. Yet many of them have multiple women.

            It’s all about self-improvement. Many of the men in the Mr. Goodbar category didn’t start off that way. One Looker showed me pictures of him that were very nerdy. When I met him he was modeling.   Every Bodyman had to pick up that first weight. Every Swag Cat had to take years to develop their personal style.   Every Bad Boy had to make a decision to be a non-conformist. Every Cool Dude had to talk to that first girl. The Bangers had to have that first sexual experience. Every Thorough had to develop his confidence. The Tantra Brothas had to learn their techniques.

            If a man wants to become a member of one of the clans he has to be willing to do the work.

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Why I Don't Teach Game Part 2: Demon Lovers

6/16/2014

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            Most people who want to learn that thing called “game” are motivated by desires for sex and love.   They realize that they are not the most physically attractive person so they want to learn any method they can to improve their sexual value. I get that. Whole industries have developed to help them with that.   For men an example is the seduction industry with books, videos, and seminars.   Quite as its kept women have their own things as well. Most women’s magazines have articles on methods to deal with men. Also you have the cosmetics industry to make a woman look more beautiful than she actually is as well as intimate apparel to make their bodies look tighter.   Also high heel shoes serve no real functional purpose yet women wear them to make their legs and butt look more sexually appealing.   Now that’s game.   Most of the men who attend seminars and the women who shop at lingerie stores are essentially good people who really want love.   In general they don’t have negative intentions towards the opposite sex.    That’s not the case with Demon Lovers.

            There are men and women in our society who are…different from everyone else. Their thinking and outlooks on life are different.   These…people are predators plain and simple.   They are like serial killers in a way. Instead of killing people they kill a person’s spirit. They do so through sexual relationships.   They are the Demon Lovers.   The vampire myths probably arose from people dealing with these entities in ancient cultures.    In his book, The Natural Blueprint for Relationships (Natural Blueprint) Yao Nyamekye Morris devotes a whole chapter to Demon Lovers. He refers to them as “fiends of the sexual underworld.”   He had this to say:

             The fiends of the sexual underworld do not necessarily look like the demons we see in comic books. It is just the opposite. Most often, they are men and women who are above average in the looks department. Many of them look trustworthy and innocent on the surface. They have one thing in common. He or she is skilled at saying the things you want to hear. They may not have a degree in psychology but they are very perceptive in sizing someone up. They have trouble relating to the opposite sex in normal ways, so they compensate by exploiting weaknesses and unfulfilled desires. The men know that most men are not as romantic and sensitive as the typical woman would like. So they learn how to be better at that than the average male. They listen for clues and act on them. These men are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please a woman because they have nothing to lose. They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship. They don’t care about you or what you think about them. But they make you think they care very much.

             The female demon lovers know that most black men do not feel appreciated and respected by the black woman. And the first thing they do is show him how much they respect and appreciate what he is about. They normally dress in a provocative manner and make it clear that fulfilling the man’s sexual desires is a high priority for them. They listen for clues about what the man likes and then are quick to act on them. Those women are very willing to take risks and do what is socially unacceptable if it will please her man. They are not emotionally invested in the outcome of the relationship. They don’t care about you or what you think about them. But they make you think they care very much.

              The Natural Blueprint for Relationships P. 251.

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               Even though Natural Blueprint was written for an African American audience, the part about Demon Lovers can be applied to any race or culture.   I’ve met a few white Demon Lovers.

               So what does this have to do with game and why I don’t teach it? For one thing Demon Lovers are the top of the pyramid as far as “game.” You’re talking the ultimate manipulators. Even Pimps have nothing on Demon Lovers. What dating coaches and seduction gurus teach is a pathetic joke next to what a Demon Lover can do.   You’re talking about people that will consciously destroy a person’s life for no other reason than their own amusement.   There are the men playing mind games with women for no other reason than to pass the time.   You have women are stealing another woman’s loving husband for no other reason than that she can.   Those are the “nicer” Demon Lovers.   Some Demon Lovers are literally weapons of mass destruction. I’m not exaggerating.

               Every now and then there is a story in the media about a person intentionally infecting a large number of people with a sexually transmitted disease such as HIV.   Think about it, a single man or woman has unprotected sex with several hundred people and infects them with HIV.   Those men and women go out and get into relationships or have sexual encounters, thus spreading HIV to several thousand more people.   Many will die or at the very least get very sick and may get financially ruined paying medical expenses.   That’s a weapon of war right there.   A single Demon Lover can literally destroy whole communities.

              Stop and think about it.

              Now what is my connection to Demon Lovers? Remember in part 1 of this blog series I said I spent a part of my childhood in a dysfunctional environment. It wasn’t just my home but pretty much a mile radius around my house. There were folks around there who made the characters on The Wire look like the law-abiding citizens.   My mother’s “friends” were one thing. My own were another.   So I’m hanging around other kids my age and to say they were “interesting” is an understatement. There was one friend I’ll call Zeke. Zeke had the pretty boy thing going as well as being a true thug.   The little girls loved him enough to engage in an eight year-old’s approximation of sex.   Zeke kept me on my toes because he would manipulate anyone around him without remorse.   He was fairly sociopathic. Last I heard about Zeke he was serving time for premeditated murder. Another kid I’ll call Bo used to suck older boy’s dicks but chased little girls as well. Bo had a big crush on my sister.   He probably grew up to be a DL brotha.   Another kid I’ll call Dan was just nasty. Every conversation with him involved sex.   He probably grew up to be pimp or a porn actor.   As far as myself, I’ll put it like this, my street name was “Romeo.”   At my house, some of my mother’s WOMAN friends did things like walk around in their underwear and at least one always wanted to “hug” me. That’s all I care to say about that.   My point is that looking back I was exposed to Demon Lovers at a very young age.

          I also took on many of their traits.

          When people used to ask me to teach them how to be a dog they didn’t do so because I was some smooth player who brought a smile to woman’s faces and could be a fun date.   I was a straight up dog.   Love them and leave them wasn’t a tactic for me. It was just how I rolled.   It didn’t bother my conscience at all because MOST of these women had boyfriends or at least good guys who were interested in them.   I wasn’t going to get emotionally invested in a woman cheating on a man who obviously loved her.   If the woman got her heart broken because I didn’t return her phone call so be it. She had a man, cry on his shoulders.   Quite frankly I roll my eyes when women complain about men cheating.   Women do it more and are way better at it. See a woman will cheat within the rhythm of her daily activities.   There’s a certain period of time when her man thinks she’s doing one thing when she may be with someone in a hotel room.    A woman can send her man off to work, invite her 16 year-old neighbor over to the house, suck the young boy’s dick, and then have her husband’s dinner on the table when he gets home. She may even have sex with her husband that night.   The man is oblivious to his wife’s cheating because she’s submissive, she cooks, and gives him regular sex.   He thinks he’s running things.   Yeah right.

           As far as myself I was like Blade. I had all the Demon Lover powers but none of their weaknesses. I wasn’t the villain of the story. More like the morally ambiguous anti-hero of the story.   Another unique aspect of my childhood was that I used to read the Bible a lot. Could have been a child preacher. My mother before her nervous breakdown used to open our home to some of the local kids to teach them the Bible. That’s how I made some of my first friends.   My mother’s spiritual nature was unique in itself. She read the Bible but she also read New Thought material such as Norman Vincent Peale and Rev. Ike.   Many things people are talking about now she was talking about then.   She even got money for praying for people.   My home environment was sexualized and spiritual at the same time.   Plus if someone actually reads the Bible there were some players up in there.   King David set up his boy to get killed just to get at his wife. King Solomon (whom my mother compared me to) had 700 wives. Shoot, getting with multiple women was sanctioned by God as far as I was concerned. I say all that to say I had some type of moral compass to keep from going totally to the dark side.   Don’t get it twisted though there were times that had nothing to do with women where I did cross the line.   Y’all might not hear those stories.

          Now the average Demon Lover grew up in an environment where there wasn’t any type of moral compass.   See, religion is more than just a way to worship a person’s vision of God.   In this culture religion is a behavior control system.   Specifically most religions serve to control a person’s sexual nature.   If you pay attention to very religious people, particularly women in Protestant churches, you will notice that they typically dress in a way which deflects attention away from their bodies. When a man looks at them his first thought isn’t going to be, “I want to bang her.”   Her clothing and body language will not arouse him even if she is otherwise beautiful with a voluptuous body.   If the same woman was wearing a short dress and heels he would likely get a massive hard-on.   Now you raise a child in a non-religious environment with few other restrictions, they will not do anything to limit their natural sex appeal. Indeed they will dress in a way to magnify their body. Girls from dysfunctional homes typically dress in sexually provocative clothing even in instances where more conservative clothing would be appropriate.

          So you have a child in a dysfunctional environment who isn’t taught to suppress their sexual nature.   Let’s add some more ingredients to this mix.   You have a kid who has very good physical genetics.   The boys will grow up to have a tall muscular body while the girls will grow up to have a shapely body with optimal contrasts between the breasts, waist, and hips.   Add to this above average facial features.   On these factors alone the kids will grow to attract multiple mates.   There’s still more to add to the mix.   A Demon Lover has above average, even genius level social intelligence. Most IQ tests only test a person’s linguistic and mathematic ability.   It’s hard to test a person’s social genius or street smarts.   Indeed if there were such a test the Demon Lover would purposely underperform on it. Demon Lovers really aren’t normal. Yet they will make an effort to appear normal.   Looking normal is how Demon Lovers get over.

        When people think of players, there’s an image of men in flashy clothes, with tattoos and loud talking being the center of attention. With women it’s the image of someone wearing sexually provocative clothing. Demon Lovers are smart enough to look clean cut and innocent.   A male Demon Lover is likely to look like he is a church going nerd if it works for him. A female Demon Lover may look like a “goody goody girl” if it works for her.   I had an acquaintance who was bragging about his new girlfriend.   She was just perfect for him in his eyes. I met her and I knew something was up. She was very beautiful and very innocent looking. I caught something in her eyes though for a brief second.   I started to take the acquaintance to the side but he was so enamored with her he wouldn’t have received what I said. A few months I saw him again and found she stole money and personal items from him. Nothing is safe with a Demon Lover. Many a bank account has been emptied behind one.

         One thing sometimes people will see a Demon Lover in action and not know what they’re seeing. Men will see a bunch of women hovering around a Demon Lover and foolishly try to emulate what they see.   They think they can be a jerk and insult a woman and she will sleep with him.   Really it’s not the behavior itself that’s turning on a woman.   The woman is tolerating the behavior because the man is fulfilling some other need the woman has. One major need is sex. Women want to sleep with a sexy man period.   Also the Demon Lover picked up on the psychological need which he at least pretends to fill.   Notice I said pretends.   The Demon Lover exploits the needs for his own ends, which could be money or simply a place to stay. He might just want some ass and nothing else.   He might want the challenge of turning out a church girl.   A female Demon Lover may want to change her living situation.   A sexy woman can change her social class and financial situation by simply pussy whipping a rich man.   Many men can make money but lack common sense.   A female Demon Lover will stroke his dick and his ego and all of sudden she has a nice home and money.

          This is serious stuff. Many men out here want to learn game because they think with game they can go from a man who doesn’t get the time of day to becoming a player. Seriously if a man isn’t getting attention from women he has bigger problems he needs to deal with. Learning some dubious techniques won’t help him. The knowledge I have is dangerous.   Say hypothetically I give the knowledge to a bitter man.   That man isn’t going to go out and get into a functional relationship.   He’s not going to be loving towards women.   He’s going out for revenge. He’s going to take out all those years of frustration on some women who did nothing to him.   Many women now are catching hell now from men who didn’t get sex regularly when they were young.   Let me share something with you. All Demon Lovers don’t come from dysfunctional backgrounds.   There are a few men and women who develop the traits later in life. Let me use an example.

            You have a man named Fred.   Fred grew up in a home with both parents in a middle class neighborhood. Now Fred is slim and nerdy. He was never the type who went to parties or played sports. The girls in high school and college weren’t checking for him.   He gets a good career out of college and gradually makes enough money to get a house and late model car.   He has everything except the girl. So he starts checking out seduction material.   He improves a little bit because he is given rudimentary game. He’s instructed to approach several women a day and he has brief sexual encounters with a few women who are quite frankly unattractive and easy.   Fred is still frustrated until he runs into Dexter Goodbar and his cousins, Jimmy Cool and Damon Lover. He sees them in action at a club and offers them money to teach him. Dexter and Jimmy decline. Damon though agrees to teach him.   Damon blows Fred’s mind. Damon tells him some things that he can’t hear in a seduction seminar or find on the internet. Over the period of a year Fred is transformed but not in a good way.   Fred is able to get better women but because he learned from a Demon Lover he starts dogging them. See the thing that Fred didn’t deal with was his bitterness.   Fred made it his mission in life to dog as many women as possible because of numerous past rejections. Fred the Nice Guy closed his eyes, Fred the Demon Lover opened them.

          There’s too many Fred’s out there.   Too many men who allowed their spirits to be consumed by bitterness. When many men asked me to teach them how to be dogs they didn’t have good intentions.   These men would have been dangerous to women and I couldn’t be responsible for any damage caused. Now this is not to say that I won’t give insights. I mentioned “Roger” in the “Do The Work” blog.   I tell him whatever he wants to know. Why? He has a genuine love for women.   A love he likes to share with several women at the same time but still a love.   I’ll never put what I know in a book.   The knowledge I give in my books will increase the number of women a man can attract.   It requires work though in such a way that will enable a man to deal with his bitterness and other issues preventing him from attracting women.   Until a man deals with his personal demons he can’t be allowed access to the deeper knowledge.

          I’m going to do a part 3 to this series.   I’m going to talk about how man can attract women without using game.

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