One of my most popular blogs was entitled “Do The Work.”  In the blog I introduced a good friend of mine I called “Roger.”   He was someone who had read my books, Nice Guys and Players, and Sexual Chemistry, back when they first came out.   In the blog I mentioned how he was texting about the several women he had encountered during one very hectic weekend.   “Roger” is very a long time student of sacred sexuality in general and Tantra in particular.   So when he has sex with a woman he calls it the “Lord’s Work.”   As busy as different women keep him I must say that he is a very devout brotha.  

            Now it would be easy to say that “Roger” was a made-up character I was using to sell my books.  Naw.  “Roger” is very real.   That’s his picture at the top of this blog.   His real name is Shophar.  With his permission I’m revealing his true identity because after “doing the work” for thirteen years Shophar is ready to help men and women transform their lives as he has done his.   He has just launched a website, http://foshoenergywork.com/.    I highly recommend his services.  I honestly feel like a master who has watched his student grow into his own mastery.  The student has become the teacher.   I mean that literally.  If I write some wack shit on my blog rest assured I get several texts right away.   If it’s really wack I get a phone call.   Thing is I trust his counsel and insights even when I don’t agree with them initially.   The work he has done has earned him this right.

            I remember when I first encountered Shophar.  My book was recommended to him by one of my mentors, Master Yao Nyamekye Morris.   Master Yao gave the brotha my number and when he called me he told me his story.   Shophar was a legitimate Nice Guy.   He wasn’t getting any panties.  It was interesting listening to him because for a young man who described himself as painfully thin he had a deep ass voice.   I thought I was talking to a Barry White clone.   I would have been done if he said, “Sho you right.”   I finally met him a few months later and saw a shy and skinny young man who didn’t have any game for getting the ladies.   That was actually a good thing.  Let me explain why.

            I had a weird thing going on with my book, Nice Guys and Players.   The men who enjoyed the book and got the most out of it were the men who needed the book the least.  It was the players who agreed with everything I wrote because they knew the REAL game.   Many of them said it confirmed what they had experienced in their own lives.   Another group of men who got something out of the book were those who able to get women but maybe needed a little tweaking to get better women.   Outside of those two groups the book didn’t do as well.  

           I got negative reviews from men who THOUGHT they had game.   These were the types who got lucky every now and then with fat and ugly women.   These were the thirsty men who would chase women, tell lies, and generally pester the hell out of women.   Since they got lucky every few months they thought they had it going on.  What I wrote went against their belief systems so they simply dismissed the whole thing.   One man even said that I must not know how to get women.   Honestly the haters made me laugh more than anything else.   My biggest disappointment came from the Nice Guys.

           It was the Nice Guys who I wrote the book for to begin with who rejected my books the hardest.   I was doing one event where I was the featured author.  It was men and women at the event.  Some of the Nice Guys who were there who had read the book beforehand stood up and said my book was crap.   The irony of that event was that while the Nice Guys were jumping on my case the women agreed with what I was saying.   While the women were nodding their heads, the true players in the room, the Mr. Goodbars, were working the women.  Several came up to me after the event to talk with me.  A few would later on tell me their stories.  

             Getting back to Shophar, he was a definite Nice Guy but really he was a latent Goodbar.   What Shophar did different from other men was that he humbled himself to learn.   He would always say that he was hungry for knowledge.   I didn’t have to argue with him about anything in my books.   Not once did I have to convince him about anything.  He read what I said in my books.  He absorbed what I said in my books.  He APPLIED what I said in my books.   He DID THE WORK!!!

           The main work Shophar did was physical.   Many men search for the secret to getting women, particularly beautiful women.   All of my books focus on TURNING ON A WOMAN SEXUALLY.  The dating coaches, seduction gurus, and blog writers focus on the social aspect of dealing with women.  They focus primarily on approaching and talking to women. That thing called “game.”  Lip service is sometimes given to fitness.   The key to turning on women is not talking to them.  It’s not even having a handsome face.  The key to turning on a woman is the BODY.   Everything else is icing.  Indeed, if a woman is turned on by a man’s body he doesn’t need game.  All he needs is to do is pay attention.   My books tell a man how to work off the arousal caused by his body.   The key then is for a man to develop his optimal body.

            Now Shophar is still slim but he has added muscle over the years and many women are attracted to a slim but muscular build.   To be clear Shophar has studied under many masters and has done a lot of mental and spiritual work.  The base though has always been his physical work.  The nature of the man is to take action.  The man is expected to lead, to protect, to provide, and to make love.   A man cannot do these things if he has not developed his body.   A woman is not going to follow a weak man.  A man can’t protect a woman if he has no strength.  He can’t provide if he is so out of shape he can’t work a regular job.   He can’t make love if he doesn’t have the stamina to last more than a minute.   The body of a man represents more than aesthetics to a woman.   Subconsciously the woman is evaluating the man’s ability to lead, protect, provide, and make love.  A man’s body communicates these things to a woman.   To directly quote Shophar, “If you can't walk around with your shirt off and get some attention then you got some work to do.”

           Trust me there’s a lot I can say about Shophar.  One of the things I’m proud of is that he is now a business owner.  A man having his own business is a part of my books nobody seems to talk about.  A man having his own business works to give him confidence which in turn women find very sexy.   Shophar is the icon of what I write about in my books.   He lives in world where he controls his economic destiny and is filled with very beautiful women.  This is the dream of many men.   Check out his website, http://foshoenergywork.com/.  Support him as you have supported me.   It started with me.  Shophar has stepped up.   Others will join us.  Let’s rise and transform together.

           I’ll end this with a video Shophar did a few years ago.   To follow this path means to bring out all of your talents. 

 

            A few weeks ago I was driving to the mall with my sons and my cell phone started blowing up with texts.    Since I’m a responsible driver I didn’t look at the texts until I got to the mall and parked my car.   It was about 9 texts from a good friend I’ll call Roger (not his real name).   The texts were about some incidents that happened the day before.   To sum it up Roger had encounters with 6 or 7 women not including his actual girlfriend.   None of these incidents were platonic in nature.  I’ll let your imagination take over from there.    Now in the years I’ve known Roger he’s not the type to make things up.   He’s not one of those cats who will lie on his dick.   

            Now it makes sense that women find Roger attractive.    Men have jealously commented on his looks calling him a “Pretty Ricky.”  Plus he works out religiously.  On top of that he’s a poet/rapper with a pretty good video out.   He also has a strong sales background so he’s not shy about approaching people in general and women in particular.   This wasn’t always the case.

            As a teenager and young adult Roger was a very skinny and shy.   Women weren’t checking for him.   Roger was a frustrated young man.   Instead of going on the internet and complaining about “women wanting bad boys” and whining with other similar men, Roger decided to change his life.   He started first with his shyness.   Roger got involved in sales to specifically address his shyness.   As someone with a sales background myself I can tell you the sales profession cures anyone of shyness.   To succeed you not only have to be comfortable talking with different types of people but you have to become comfortable with rejection.   Even a master salesman will get rejected.   What the master salesman does, however, is not let the rejection bother him.  He learns from the rejection.  

            A few years after getting into sales Roger discovered my books, “Nice Guys and Players” and “Sexual Chemistry.”   My books put an emphasis on developing alpha male qualities.   Under my tutelage as well as Tantra masters Yao Nyamekye Morris and Shantam Nityama, Roger grew from a man who was too shy to talk to women to a man who has women routinely throwing the pussy at him.   I’m not exaggerating.   When women are sexually turned on by a man they become very aggressive.  Ask me how I know.

            The takeaway from this story is that Roger DID THE WORK!!!   The internet is full of websites, blogs, and videos of men who have trouble connecting with women on any level.   The one theme connecting all of this is that women don’t want nice guys, beta males, omega males, etc.   Now a man when faced with a problem can do one of two things.  He can complain with other similarly situated men.   What they are doing is sharing the problem and blaming everything and everyone instead of doing the one thing they need to do:  change the man in the mirror.

            Other men when confronted with the same issue will look in the mirror and make the changes.   A male becomes a man when he takes responsibility for his own life.   A real man will look at his circumstances and instead of blaming everybody else will say, “Things are going to be different.”  A man can only control one thing in his life: himself.   A man has to DO THE WORK!!!   Let me share a story from my past.

            I’m a person who can put on weight easily if I don’t consciously make an effort to work out. Back in the late eighties I was in one of my overweight periods.   I came to a defining moment in my life one evening.   There was a Prince concert.  I took as my date a hot Italian friend of mine I’ll call Maria.  Now me and Maria weren’t quite platonic as we had made out before and grinded at a party.   We had not had intercourse either.   For this concert Maria had on a full body cat suit and some heels.   Damn she was hot and sexy.   So we had a good time at the concert and I was thinking since we had kissed before she would want to have sex.   When I brought it up she told me straight up she didn’t want to because I was so big.   My response was, “okay.”   See most men would be pissed and entitled if they had paid for the date.  One thing about me is that I always learn from rejection and I would rather deal with an honest woman than one trying play me.   

            After that incident I started running to lose weight.   I vowed never to be that close to a woman that hot and sexy and lose out because of my weight which was something I could control.   Now I never did get with Maria sexually but after losing about 30 pounds three equally hot and sexy women sucked my dick within weeks of each other.  Two of these women had previously friendzoned me. The reason was that I DID THE WORK!!!

            Complaining about women and their dating choices doesn’t do any good.   I personally don’t see women changing their criteria because men are complaining on the blogs and videos.   In fact, women tell men what they want by their actions.  Women in general go for assertive men with nice bodies.   Even though women choose the men, men are still expected to approach.    When women choose they choose by being receptive to the man.  The man still has to have the balls to take the initiative.   If a man is shy he needs to do whatever it takes to get over that shyness.   Roger did so by getting into sales.   Another man may do so by speaking to random women throughout his day.   DO THE WORK!!!

            Most men are rejected by women because the women are not PHYSICALLY attracted to them.   Forget all that nonsense in the media about a woman not caring about looks.   A man’s looks includes his body build.   Women are turned on by a man’s body period.   I’ve known male exotic dancers who pull out wads of cash like they’re drug dealers.   There’s always discussions on the internet and in the real world about why women like “Bad Boys.”   People make the mistake of focusing on the personality traits of these men.   The personality traits are virtually irrelevant with the exception of being assertive.   I have had honest conversations with a few thousand women about their preferences in men.   Regardless of the personality traits they desired which was across the board, the women all expressed a preference for a body type.   Most women prefer men with athletic builds.  Not big and bulky like a professional body builder but not quite slim like a basketball player.   There are women, however, who prefer big and bulky, and those who prefer slim.    The bottom line is that women have a body preference.   When men wonder why a woman likes a particular bad boy, I would say ask the woman what she likes in a man physically.   A church going man with the same body type would at least get a look from the woman.   The physical piece is important because a woman has to be sexually attracted to a man.   Contrary to popular sentiment women are as visual as men.   A gym membership will at a minimum draw more attention from women.  The key is that the man has to DO THE WORK!!!

            Ultimately a man has to make a choice.  Does he continue to be lonely and sexually frustrated and blame the world?  Does he do the work to be surrounded by sexy women and have a fulfilling sex life?  

            The real man chooses the second option.  He will DO THE WORK!!!

The following is an excerpt from Amanmere - The Natural Blueprint For Relationships by Yao Nyamekye Morris. Reprinted with permission.

When it comes to scoring points with a woman, nice guys definitely finish last. Usually dead last. But Charles did not know this. He confuses the proper conduct for a human socially, with the proper conduct for a male sexually. (Rom’s emphasis) For today many men are led to believe certain things about the attitudes of the modern woman which are contrary to the natural reality. The magazines say the woman wants such and so, and that the man should act thus and so. But the magazines don’t tell the brothers that these things only apply to about 15% of the male population. These are the men from the ‘select’ group who can get away with just about anything and usually do. But if the typical male takes the advice in the articles, and changes to conform to the patterns of behavior dictated, he will sadly discover that nothing has changed in the neighborhood. In the jungle of sexuality Charles will not kill any game unless he acquires the instincts of a hunter. And this is to some extent what Charles is doing. In his interaction with Michelle he finds that he needs to be decisive, to have an agenda. When he is wishy-washy they tend to argue. When he takes charge and is aggressive in the bedroom it seems that Michelle enjoys it better. Charles matures as a result of his relationship with Michelle. And Michelle benefits also. After being together for three years, the relationship has peaked. Charles receives an offer of promotion at the telephone company, but it requires that he move to another city. Michelle decides to stay behind, but they agree to part as good friends.

Charles has gone a long way to shedding his “nice guy” persona. He has developed into a more balanced man. And being in a new environment gives a chance to shape peer perception of him from scratch. Charles no longer feels like the invisible man. Attractive, charismatic women have begun to notice him in the office. At work females flirt with him. They do not flirt with him because of his involvement in community work and church, but because he manifests a more complete masculine persona. It is now time for Charles to relate to a carnal woman, but his relocation causes the cycle to take a little longer than before. But soon Charles meets Wanda, and is reminded by her of a dream he had. He knows at once that she is the next one. Wanda is very attractive, and has the masochistic personality like Elaine. But she is not Elaine and he is not the old Charles. Charles has the same nervous reaction around Wanda that he had a teenager around Beverly. But he is more disciplined man now and it does not show on the outside. He plays it cool with Wanda and they hit it off. The relationship with Wanda however is short. It only lasts a few months. For Charles discovers that she is insecure and somewhat immature for her age. Charles does not realize it, but he is being used by nature to shape Wanda into a more balanced woman. The physical relationship between Wanda and Charles is hot and passionate. It is the most intense lovemaking Charles will ever experience. And this aspect alone keeps Charles in the relationship longer than he would have been otherwise. But that is one of the lessons he must learn, that physical sex is not everything. Soon he learns that lesson, and moves on. He counts the relationship as being unsuccessful but he has gained by it spirituality and carnally and so has Wanda. They part as friends.

Charles spends almost a year in no relationship, because the next female in the cycle would not relate to him. Then he transfers back to the main office, and moves back in to his old neighborhood. In the meantime Elaine has dated several men who treated her badly. After she caught one of them cheating on her with one of her girlfriends, she decided to give a different type of guy a try. So she joined a church. The same church that Charles used to be a member of. It has been several years since she has seen Charles. At church one Sunday she runs into her old friend Charles and they rekindle their friendship. She remembers vividly how kind, concerned and thoughtful he had been to her. Looking at the man before her now, Elaine sees a more confident poised person. The other men in her life had only been macho, but not truly masculine, and each had proved unworthy. Charles was a successful executive now. He owned his own home. And five years of working out and martial arts had created a hard chiseled body. Elaine asked him out for dinner, but Charles refused. He was still attracted to her, but no longer willing to be just a shoulder for her to cry on. He told Elaine how he felt. And although they exchanged telephone numbers, Charles never called Elaine. But the spirits would not let it end there. Charles and Elaine were a good potential match for each other. They were strongly archetype complimentary. The spirits made another effort to bring them together.

There was a former boyfriend of Elaine’s who has abused her. And as “fate” would have it, she ran into him as a club one night. He hounded her and her girlfriend all night. Finally they gave him the slip and left the club. But he followed her home. And he arrived just as her girlfriend was leaving. When she would not open the door for him he became angry. He went to a phone booth nearby and called Elaine and threatened her. In the meantime Elaine had called Charles who lived near her. And Charles arrived on the scene just as the man was kicking down her door. Although the man was bigger, Charles beat him severely. And in so doing he rescued Elaine from a sure beating. The police did not arrive for another fifteen minutes. After that crisis Elaine and Charles saw each other in another light. And each began to se that maybe mistakes could be forgiven, and old misconceptions erased. The next night Elaine came to visit Charles. And that might they both tried to make up for all of the love each other had been missing for the better part of their lives. For Charles and Elaine the alternating cycle of attraction was completed.

Amanmere pp. 219 –220

  Yao Nyamekye Morris is also author of the Urban Science Fiction Epic, The Oracle of Khemsa Nu. His website is http://www.oraclekhemsanu.com/

The following is an excerpt from Amanmere - The Natural Blueprint For Relationships by Yao Nyamekye Morris. Reprinted with permission.


“Nice” guys do not finish first. At least as far as their sexual life is concerned. Charles has found out that being a sensitive kind of guy does not always pay. Charles has discovered that being a nice guy has placed him into the second category of men, the “non-select” group. He has discovered that most often his kindness is seen as a sign of weakness. But this situation is his own fault. He can change it. The alternating cycle of attraction will help.

At the age of twenty-two we find Charles excelling on his job, popular in his church, and respected by his neighbors. Many of the mothers in his old neighborhood wish their daughters would bring home a man like Charles. But the daughters disagree. At this point Charles meets Elaine. For Charles, Elaine is one of the carnal women sent by his cycle. Elaine just wants to be friends with Charles. Elaine has the masochistic personality structure. She is also an intelligentsian. Charles tried to romance Elaine but it didn’t work. He took her out on dates and spent money on her, but she insisted the relationship remain platonic. Charles remembered her birthday and knew her favorite color. He calls Elaine beforehand if he will be late for a date. Charles is not cheap, dishonest, or crude, but none of this impressed Elaine. Elaine called Charles to ask him to help her assemble a new piece of exercise equipment. He helped her. She called Charles when she needed help to move into a new apartment. He helped her.

At the same time that Elaine was friends with Charles, she was intimate with Joe. Joe has the psychopathic personality structure. Charles did not know about Joe. Joe rarely took Elaine out for anything, and when they went out Elaine paid half. But she didn’t mind. Joe forgot Elaine’s birthday, and she spent that night alone in tears. Joe has broken two dates with Elaine and never gave her a good explanation. Elaine called Joe to help her assemble that equipment before she called Charles, but Joe said he was busy. He was just watching the game in reality, and just did not wish to be bothered. Two nights later Joe came over while Elaine was working out on her new machine. He made love to her right on the exercise machine Charles had helped put together. The irony never occurred to Elaine. In a few weeks Elaine caught Joe in a lie. She suspected he was seeing another woman, and he had lied about having a beeper. That and other things caused the temporary break up of the relationship between Elaine and Joe. After the break up, Elaine called Charles to cry on his shoulders.

Charles finally decided to give up on Elaine and move on. Female adults have a dual sexual character. That is, they have a spiritual sexual nature, and a carnal sexual nature. And so it follows that they have dual sexual needs, both a set of spiritual sexual needs and a set of carnal sexual needs. But in many females half of their sexual needs are not apparent, or poorly expressed. They are not necessarily fully aware of the needs themselves. For a man to be fully attractive, and fully able to satisfy the opposite sex, he must be aware of and able to fulfill both sets of needs. Charles is not. He is not able to, nor fully motivated to fulfill her carnal set of needs. And therein lies the problem. Charles had a good male friend from Haiti that he met in college. One evening he and his friend were talking about Elaine and women in general over a beer. His friend recommended that Charles pay a visit to a Yoruba priest that he knew. It took a few more beers to convince Charles, but finally he said “what the heck”, and they left to go to the shrine house. It turned out to be a defining event in Charles’ life. The shrine turned out to be a scary place to Charles at first. There were many strange looking objects about that gave the interior a weird vibration. He was expecting the priest to be a strange looking individual and he was. But once he opened his mouth Charles could tell that this was no ordinary man. Charles made his complaint to the shrine, and the priest proceeded to give him a reading. Charles was astonished that the shrine seemed to know a lot about his childhood and family. But the advice that the priest gave him did not seem to make much sense. He had expected that the shrine would give him some magic powder or roots. But what he was told to do had to do with his own personal nature, and his development in life, from his ancestors to that present moment. The deities at that shrine had performed their own sexual portfolio on Charles, better than any we can outline in a book. And they had determined the best steps for Charles to take now, all factors in his life considered. They told Charles what signs to look for in his next female companion.

And so Charles began a transformation. He began to work out at the company gym. He began to reduce his community and church activities and began to focus more energy on building up his masculine nature. He began to read about his inner nature. He took a class in Kung Fu. He followed the instructions of the shrine and went back for several follow-up visits. And soon, just as the shrine had said, Charles met a woman named Michelle, and he could recognize her by certain signs. Michelle had a spiritual persona when compared to Charles, but she was still very physically attractive. She and Charles slowly developed a good relationship. Through his interaction with Michelle, Charles, began to get into greater alignment with the carnal aspect of his masculine persona. He began to get in touch with his assertive, aggressive nature. His root chakra began to open. This was due to the work being done on his behalf at the shrine. And during this period feelings or suppressed anger were stirred up and brought to the surface. The opening of the psychic body created urges and emotions in Charles that he may at first find hard to control or justify. He did not like some of the things he felt himself becoming. For this man can be cruel as well as sensitive. This man does not take rejection well. And sometimes Michelle found him difficult to tolerate. But this phase passed.

To be continued…

Amanmere pp. 217 - 219

Yao Nyamekye Morris is also author of the Urban Science Fiction Epic, The Oracle of Khemsa Nu. His website is http://www.oraclekhemsanu.com/

The following is an excerpt from Amanmere - The Natural Blueprint For Relationships by Yao Nyamekye Morris. Reprinted with permission.

Charles, The Invisible Man

A few months after his fourteenth birthday, Charles began to have several very intense and vivid dreams. During these dreams Charles found himself in a sexually provocative situation with a female who was sexually exciting to him. There are symbols and hidden messages in the dream. Charles wakes up and finds that during the night he has had a real orgasm. The experiences is more vivid than most dreams, this is because it is not really a dream but a psychic experience. Charles was both excited and embarrassed about his “wet dream.” But because he has not participated in an authentic rites-of-passage program, Charles does not appreciate the spiritual significance of what was happening to him. He tells no one about his first wet dream. Charles does not recognize the girl in his first dream. This dream event was a marker from the spirit world signaling Charles that a change has occurred in his life.

After a few weeks, Charles begins a series of dreams about a girl in his class, Beverly. These dreams do not end in orgasm, but there is a heavy sexual content in them. Beverly is very attractive, outgoing, confident but arrogant. In the dreams, Charles sees Beverly in some circumstance that is extremely provocative. He wants desperately to approach her in the dream but there is some power which seems to hold him back. Beverly seems to suffer in some intangible way for the lack of Charles’ assertiveness. In real life, Charles has always felt some attraction to Beverly, but after the dreams he becomes almost obsessed with her. It is hard to be close to her and not have his heart beat fast. But in real life Charles sees Beverly react to boys in a very crude and demeaning way. He is afraid to approach her for fear that he will be made a fool of in front of the entire school.

At this point in his life, Charles has begun the alternating cycle of attraction, and the third period in the simple cycle of evolution. The wet dream is a signal from the spirit world to Charles. It is not some random biological event. It is done on purpose to alert Charles that the game of life for him has changed significantly. If Charles lived in a spiritual community, he would know that his dream dictated a visit by him to the local shaman, or village elder. The elder would sit down with Charles and his grandparents, and explain the meaning of the dream, and the natural laws the Charles needs to now acquaint himself with. He was supposed to overcome his fear of embarrassment and approach Beverly. Had he done so, he would have found Beverly more receptive than he imagined. The encounter would have been brief, and in a few weeks would have ended with Charles getting his feelings hurt. Nevertheless, the experience would have helped Charles tremendously in his life. As a result of his failure, nature will make the next encounter harder for Charles to avoid. In relation to Charles, Beverly is a Bohemian. In the cycle; she counts as one of the carnal women Charles will encounter in the cycle.

There are two general classes of personality that compose the two types of the cycle. The first type, the bohemians, constitutes the members of the opposite sex who stimulate us in a carnal way. However, they may have some shortcomings as far as the virtues are concerned. Beverly has an anal personality structure. While Charles is very attracted to Beverly, she probably will not be as attracted to him. There is a down side to any interaction between Beverly and Charles and that is a part of the lesson that Charles is supposed to learn from the encounter. But Charles avoided the encounter, which was a mistake. It is also important to note that Charles has an obligation to Beverly as well as himself to follow through on the cycle. For there is an important lesson for Beverly to learn from Charles. She may not hold much interest in Charles now, the potential lesson she can learn, would be of very great important to her later in life. Also remember, that while Charles may find Beverly very appealing, some other male may not.

After the first encounter is over, the spirits of nature begin to influence things so that the second female comes into Charles’ sphere of activity. Her name is Joan, and she is an intelligentsian. Joan has a psychopathic personality structure. Prior to meeting her, Charles has a dream to alert him to her coming. He dreams that he is given a job to do in a church. In the dream a woman comes to his assistance. He can not see her face in the dream, but gets a sense of her personality. Soon after the dream, Charles meets Joan after a church service. Her personality reminds him of the feeling her had in the dream. The cycle has reversed in its polarity. This is how it works. Now Charles is the bohemian compared to Joan. For Joan, Charles is a carnal man. She sees Charles in the same way that Charles saw Beverly. Joan is very attracted to Charles physically. Charles likes Joan, but is not really excited about her in a sexual way. Charles can appreciate other abilities that Joan has, but at such a young age he is more concerned about sexual appeal and peer acceptance. He is unaware of the importance of this encounter as far as his sexual future is concerned. More importantly, he is unaware, and not much concerned about the effect of this encounter on Joan.

Charles and Joan begin to see each other when the parents will allow. The relationship is not an intimate one although Joan would like for it to be. For a few months Joan’s life is a little brighter, but the encounter takes a turn for the worse. A new girl moves into the neighborhood and takes an interest in Charles. She is older and prettier than Joan and her parents allow her to date. The boys in Charles’ crew think that the new girl is “hot”. Charles likes the feeling of being around a girl that other boys want very much. Very soon Charles decides to put more distance between him and Joan. Joan is rejected and experience leaves her feeling sad and bitter. She feels inferior to the older girl. Her self esteem suffers. Her parents and friends try to consul her, but in her heart a rift begins to form. She feels more distant from Black men.

Charles’ second sexual encounter has ended. Although Charles has no knowledge of it, he is being evaluated by spiritual beings in another realm. He has failed again. He does not understand the game. He has no conception of the nature of the playing field, or the nature of the referee. While our spirit guides want for us to succeed, they can only assist us so much when we make poor judgements. Charles is judged as a failure in his second encounter because he did not stay in the relationship long enough to learn the lesson intended. And even more important, the manner in which he ended the relationship caused undue pain, and negated any positive experience that Joan might have had. In a relationship, Charles is just as much responsible for the evolution of Joan as he is for his own evolution. That is how the agents of heaven and earth see it. That is how we are evaluated.


 We skip ahead a few years to rejoin Charles as an adult. He has just finished college. Remember Charles from our discussion of the oral personality structure? Charles is five feet, nine inches tall, and weighs one hundred fifty-five pounds. Charles grew up in the suburbs with one parent at home, his mother. Charles has just started to work for the telephone company. Charles is comfortable in academic settings and in church. He believes strongly in community service and works to support several civic organizations. He is respected in the community. In youth Charles was not good at most sports. He ran track in high school but was never outstanding. He made good grades and the combination caused him to be branded. The first defining moment of Charles’s life relates to his intellect and not his romantic life. This was the day he graduated with honors from a very prestigious university on the East Coast.

Charles was born on February 15 to archetype seven. That gives him the imprint of the “pilot” upon his inner nature. Next is his psychic persona which is the oral personality structure. A quick examination of Charles’ sexual portfolio and general sexual behavior will reveal that Charles exhibits the characteristics of a reverent intelligentsia male. He is sexually repressed carnally, and has an imbalanced sexual persona. Over this is layered his final persona, his outer persona, which is determined from astrology, and he is an aquarius. On the scale most women would rate him a six in looks, and a five overall.

Charles has developed into a pretty good fellow. But he has a big problem. He has been branded by his female peers. He and his male peers have not been that successful in the dating game. Charles’ crew does not attract attention to themselves, although some would like to. There is a saying among them that, “If you want to get noticed as a Black man, you must sing, play ball or commit a crime.” Perhaps that is not totally true, but they do seem to have been neglected. Charles does not sing, play professional sports, sell drugs, or have pick-up lines. In fact he has done a lot of good in the community. Even so, he is an outcast. He has been stigmatized in a very negative way. Attractive women have branded him in the most debilitating manner that a man can be. He has been labeled a “nice” guy.

To Be Continued…

Amanmere pp. 214 - 217

Yao Nyamekye Morris is also author of the Urban Science Fiction Epic, The Oracle of Khemsa Nu. His website is http://www.oraclekhemsanu.com/.