The following excerpt is from my upcoming book, "A Player's Eyes." In this excerpt I explain the real reason women, particularly smart and educated women, fall prey to Players and Bad Boys.
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The reason women get played is not because they lack common sense, love thugs, or have a sign on their foreheads that says, “Victim.” The reason women get played is because of their egos. The women who get played the most are the ones who think they are the bomb. Even though all women can and do get played there is one type that gets played the most. I will call that woman the Smart Woman. The Smart Woman is usually educated. If she isn’t educated she may have had enough intelligence to work her way up to a high paying job. The Smart Woman has money. She has a home and material goods. As far as physical appearance she will be somewhere between decent looking to slightly above average. She’s definitely not ugly but no one will mistake her for a Dime. From most men’s point of view the Smart Woman will be considered girlfriend or wife material. Now here’s where it gets interesting. I said “most men’s point of view.” The men who will indeed have a high regard for the Smart Woman will be the same men that most women see as non-select.
As I said Smart Women think they are the bomb. Non-Select men agree with them. The Good Guys who are realistic see these women as perfect compliments. No these women aren’t Dimes but to the Good Guys who like them, they are. They want a good moral woman to come home to and that’s what the Smart Woman looks like. Many Good Guys want to build with these women. The problem is that the Good Guys aren’t good enough for the Smart Woman. Smart Women don’t see good men they can build a family with. Smart Women see men who are too short, too slim, too fat, and not handsome enough. They don’t see a man who has worked hard to get where he is. They see a man who is not making enough money, who may not have finished college, who is blue collar, and who lives in a modest apartment instead of a big townhouse. The Good Guys don’t have what the Smart Women want.
The Smart Women want Mr. Goodbar and the Masked Man. They want the man who can make them scream. It’s more than that though. They want the top men period. Women are very competitive with each other. They want the man that other women want. They want to be able to say they got THE ONE! This is a key aspect of a woman’s game. Some women are realistic enough to be happy for what they can actually get. Dude may be short and pudgy but he loves them and will always do right by them. That ain’t good enough for the Smart Woman. She wants that tall, handsome, built man with degrees and money. Some will even reject Goodbar if he isn’t classically handsome or broke. Here’s the funny thing. In my opinion there’s nothing wrong with a woman going for the top man. Go for it girl! Get yo man! The problem that pops up is that the top men don’t see the Smart Women in the same light.
There was a Masked Man I knew years ago. He said something that summed up what I heard other Masked Men say over the years in one way or the other. He mocked Smart Women by saying, “I’m educated. I have a house and car. I keep my hair fixed and wear nice clothes. I’m 250 lbs. I can’t figure out why men don’t want me.” Men in general don’t care about woman’s accomplishments and material possessions. The few that do usually do so because they may be in a social circle where being with a person who projects a certain image is important. Usually in upper middle class social groups. In general that shit don’t matter or is at least not the first thing men notice. When men talk with other men about a woman they just met they don’t talk about her degree, her profession, or her big house. They say she pretty with a phat ass. To Select Men most Smart Women are average at best. When a man doesn’t see a woman as a Dime he will not give her his best. This is especially the case if he has numerous women to choose from. Each sub-category of the Select will respond to Smart Women in interesting ways.
Mr. Goodbar sees most women as sex partners. For the most part the Goodbars are the ones stroking the Dimes. Smart Women usually don’t appear on a Goodbar’s radar. When they do the Smart Woman is usually nothing more than physical gratification. Even then she probably had to work hard and spend money to get Goodbar’s attention. At some point the Smart Woman’s emotions become involved and she falls in love with Goodbar. Goodbar on the other hand just likes her doggy style. At some point the Smart Woman becomes a burden and Goodbar moves on. He usually has other women anyway. Now of course the Smart Woman feels that Goodbar took advantage of her. She forgets that she chased him and not the other way around. She really played herself.
Now the Masked Man is a completely different story. A Goodbar may not set out to intentionally dog a woman. The Masked Man may make it his life mission to do so. Now this isn’t all Masked Men yet there a sizable number who will intentionally hurt a woman emotionally. The Masked Man didn’t start out as Select. He had to work to get there. Physically he had to hit the gym hard. He had to build his body, he had to work on his grooming, his dental work, and his clothing style. That’s just the physical piece. He also had to go through college and maybe graduate school. For the few blue collar Masked Men they had to put in long hours to learn and master their craft. The Masked Man had to pay some dues. The issue is that while they were paying their dues they had very little female companionship. When these men were Non-Select they got rejected for numerous reasons. I knew this dude who eventually became a high paid attorney. He said while he was in school women rejected him because he didn’t have money to spend on them. Never mind he was in school to become an attorney. I’ve heard plenty of stories like that. The irony is that once many of these men started making money the same women that rejected them would get real friendly saying something like, “I knew you were going places. I always thought you were fine.” Really? What happens is the Masked Man has had years to build up some resentment. There’s another dynamic with this.
When the Masked Man was just a Good Guy he wanted the Smart Woman. She just didn’t want him back. Once he crosses the boundary into the Select World that Smart Woman doesn’t look as good to him anymore. This is even in situations where her physical appearance hasn’t faded. The Masked Man got his money right, his house and car are big, his body is muscular and he can wear expensive tailor made suits. Dude wants a Dime to complete the picture. He’ll be cool as long as he dealing with a Dime. When he deals with a Smart Woman he will treat her in an inferior way. All this pain and frustration he has carried for years will be taken out on a Smart Woman even though she may genuinely be attracted to him.
Years ago I did a radio show where I talked specifically about men who dog women. I told the beautiful host that the biggest and most dangerous dogs are not trying to talk to women in the streets. The biggest dogs aren’t some men with their pants hanging off their ass. The most doggish men, the ones who make it their life mission to hurt women, are often the ones who are professionals with corporate jobs. It’s all part of a vicious cycle. Smart Women think they should get the top men and reject men who aren’t there. When those men get to the top they reject those same women that rejected them.
I had to speak on this. I’ve heard so many women complain about not finding a good man but it’s always their egos that get in the way. A woman can have five Good Guys chasing her but because she thinks she’s the woman she wants Mr. Goodbar or the Masked Man. Then she will have the nerve to complain that there is a “shortage of good man.” She get out her ego and humble herself she will see that there are several men for her to choose from. Her ego though makes her chase that man who may dog her. Many men are told to stay in their lanes when looking for mates. That good piece of advice works both ways.
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The reason women get played is not because they lack common sense, love thugs, or have a sign on their foreheads that says, “Victim.” The reason women get played is because of their egos. The women who get played the most are the ones who think they are the bomb. Even though all women can and do get played there is one type that gets played the most. I will call that woman the Smart Woman. The Smart Woman is usually educated. If she isn’t educated she may have had enough intelligence to work her way up to a high paying job. The Smart Woman has money. She has a home and material goods. As far as physical appearance she will be somewhere between decent looking to slightly above average. She’s definitely not ugly but no one will mistake her for a Dime. From most men’s point of view the Smart Woman will be considered girlfriend or wife material. Now here’s where it gets interesting. I said “most men’s point of view.” The men who will indeed have a high regard for the Smart Woman will be the same men that most women see as non-select.
As I said Smart Women think they are the bomb. Non-Select men agree with them. The Good Guys who are realistic see these women as perfect compliments. No these women aren’t Dimes but to the Good Guys who like them, they are. They want a good moral woman to come home to and that’s what the Smart Woman looks like. Many Good Guys want to build with these women. The problem is that the Good Guys aren’t good enough for the Smart Woman. Smart Women don’t see good men they can build a family with. Smart Women see men who are too short, too slim, too fat, and not handsome enough. They don’t see a man who has worked hard to get where he is. They see a man who is not making enough money, who may not have finished college, who is blue collar, and who lives in a modest apartment instead of a big townhouse. The Good Guys don’t have what the Smart Women want.
The Smart Women want Mr. Goodbar and the Masked Man. They want the man who can make them scream. It’s more than that though. They want the top men period. Women are very competitive with each other. They want the man that other women want. They want to be able to say they got THE ONE! This is a key aspect of a woman’s game. Some women are realistic enough to be happy for what they can actually get. Dude may be short and pudgy but he loves them and will always do right by them. That ain’t good enough for the Smart Woman. She wants that tall, handsome, built man with degrees and money. Some will even reject Goodbar if he isn’t classically handsome or broke. Here’s the funny thing. In my opinion there’s nothing wrong with a woman going for the top man. Go for it girl! Get yo man! The problem that pops up is that the top men don’t see the Smart Women in the same light.
There was a Masked Man I knew years ago. He said something that summed up what I heard other Masked Men say over the years in one way or the other. He mocked Smart Women by saying, “I’m educated. I have a house and car. I keep my hair fixed and wear nice clothes. I’m 250 lbs. I can’t figure out why men don’t want me.” Men in general don’t care about woman’s accomplishments and material possessions. The few that do usually do so because they may be in a social circle where being with a person who projects a certain image is important. Usually in upper middle class social groups. In general that shit don’t matter or is at least not the first thing men notice. When men talk with other men about a woman they just met they don’t talk about her degree, her profession, or her big house. They say she pretty with a phat ass. To Select Men most Smart Women are average at best. When a man doesn’t see a woman as a Dime he will not give her his best. This is especially the case if he has numerous women to choose from. Each sub-category of the Select will respond to Smart Women in interesting ways.
Mr. Goodbar sees most women as sex partners. For the most part the Goodbars are the ones stroking the Dimes. Smart Women usually don’t appear on a Goodbar’s radar. When they do the Smart Woman is usually nothing more than physical gratification. Even then she probably had to work hard and spend money to get Goodbar’s attention. At some point the Smart Woman’s emotions become involved and she falls in love with Goodbar. Goodbar on the other hand just likes her doggy style. At some point the Smart Woman becomes a burden and Goodbar moves on. He usually has other women anyway. Now of course the Smart Woman feels that Goodbar took advantage of her. She forgets that she chased him and not the other way around. She really played herself.
Now the Masked Man is a completely different story. A Goodbar may not set out to intentionally dog a woman. The Masked Man may make it his life mission to do so. Now this isn’t all Masked Men yet there a sizable number who will intentionally hurt a woman emotionally. The Masked Man didn’t start out as Select. He had to work to get there. Physically he had to hit the gym hard. He had to build his body, he had to work on his grooming, his dental work, and his clothing style. That’s just the physical piece. He also had to go through college and maybe graduate school. For the few blue collar Masked Men they had to put in long hours to learn and master their craft. The Masked Man had to pay some dues. The issue is that while they were paying their dues they had very little female companionship. When these men were Non-Select they got rejected for numerous reasons. I knew this dude who eventually became a high paid attorney. He said while he was in school women rejected him because he didn’t have money to spend on them. Never mind he was in school to become an attorney. I’ve heard plenty of stories like that. The irony is that once many of these men started making money the same women that rejected them would get real friendly saying something like, “I knew you were going places. I always thought you were fine.” Really? What happens is the Masked Man has had years to build up some resentment. There’s another dynamic with this.
When the Masked Man was just a Good Guy he wanted the Smart Woman. She just didn’t want him back. Once he crosses the boundary into the Select World that Smart Woman doesn’t look as good to him anymore. This is even in situations where her physical appearance hasn’t faded. The Masked Man got his money right, his house and car are big, his body is muscular and he can wear expensive tailor made suits. Dude wants a Dime to complete the picture. He’ll be cool as long as he dealing with a Dime. When he deals with a Smart Woman he will treat her in an inferior way. All this pain and frustration he has carried for years will be taken out on a Smart Woman even though she may genuinely be attracted to him.
Years ago I did a radio show where I talked specifically about men who dog women. I told the beautiful host that the biggest and most dangerous dogs are not trying to talk to women in the streets. The biggest dogs aren’t some men with their pants hanging off their ass. The most doggish men, the ones who make it their life mission to hurt women, are often the ones who are professionals with corporate jobs. It’s all part of a vicious cycle. Smart Women think they should get the top men and reject men who aren’t there. When those men get to the top they reject those same women that rejected them.
I had to speak on this. I’ve heard so many women complain about not finding a good man but it’s always their egos that get in the way. A woman can have five Good Guys chasing her but because she thinks she’s the woman she wants Mr. Goodbar or the Masked Man. Then she will have the nerve to complain that there is a “shortage of good man.” She get out her ego and humble herself she will see that there are several men for her to choose from. Her ego though makes her chase that man who may dog her. Many men are told to stay in their lanes when looking for mates. That good piece of advice works both ways.
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