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Victory Has Defeated Women

10/11/2015

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​            “Victory has defeated you.” - Bane to Batman in the movie, “The Dark Knight Rises.”
 
            Through a combination of Feminism and the sexual revolution women have come a long way.   Women are free to pursue their life aspirations and their sexual desires.   Women are climbing the corporate ladder, or in many cases creating the corporation.   They are buying big cars, houses, going on expensive vacations, and pursuing their passions.   Sexually they are not stuck dealing with some boring man for the rest of their lives.   Divorce is easy and in many cases a woman may not even marry.   Women don’t need men for support like they may have only fifty years ago.   Women have succeeded in their revolutions for more autonomy.   Victory in many instances has been declared though some women may disagree.  I’m not going to get into all that though.  Bottom line is that women are freer than they have ever been in the modern era.  Too bad that victory has actually defeated women.

            Even though my blogs, books, and videos have for the most part directed to self-improvement for men a reality is that a significant amount of my material has been purchased by women.   Even in terms of one on one coaching I’ve had more women clients than men.   There have been even more women that I have engaged in regular conversations about relationships.   The scenario is almost always the same.  The women complaining the most about their relationship experiences have been educated, high achieving women who owned houses, condos, and if renting had top of the line townhouses and apartments.   These women had money.  On a personal level the women were very intelligent with physical features that were slightly above the norm.   These weren’t supermodels but a man would hold their hand in public.   That’s if they could get a man.  These women despite what they had going for them always had trouble getting into functional relationships.   The few that had a man were usually sharing that man with several other women or they were relegated to evenings of "Netflix and chill."   Most though, after working hard all day in a corporate environment where they hated their co-workers, would come home to big sterile houses.   The number of lonely women is quite high.

            When any movement seeks to change the social order the focus is always on the perceived injustice currently in front of them.   Very seldom does anyone think that a change in the social order will produce a worse social order.   If one studies the many revolutions in history it will be found that when the revolution succeeded in overthrowing the current government or social climate it would become necessary for the revolutionaries to become as oppressive as the previous regime.   The reason is that problems that may not have existed before the revolution start to pop up.   Then a vicious cycle starts when someone decides to overthrow the revolutionary regime.

            Now before someone thinks this blog will be about anti-Feminism and anti-sexual freedom that is not the case.  As will become evident I personally benefit from the way things are.   A Feminist would have to be created from reverse engineered alien technology from a crashed UFO to impact my life in any meaningful way.  I’m definitely for sexual freedom.  I was just moved to point out something that is extremely ironic.   Feminism and sexual freedom have actually made more women single and lonely which in turn makes them perfect prey for Players.  Ask me how I know.

            Back in the day men had to behave a certain way and treat women in a different manner than what we have today.  Even the men who had multiple women had to be a certain way.   Back in the day men had mistresses and in some cases another family.   The man was still expected to protect and provide for his mistress and any children they produced.   Things have certainly changed.   The only way many men provide now is if the paternity test says they are the father and the courts grant a child support order.  Some men get out of that by not having a job.

            The thing is that a real man wants to protect and provide for a woman.  Some men have such a strong urge to do so that they may knowingly protect and provide for a woman who has another man’s children.  This isn’t some simp shit as some men may think.    Just like a normal woman has a nurturing instinct, normal men have a natural instinct to take care of a family.  

            Many women will read this and say many men don’t want to protect and provide for women anymore.   That’s because the protect and provide instinct has been subverted by the current social programing.   Many women are yelling that they are, “independent and don’t need a man.”   Single mothers with boy children are showing these boys that they don’t need men.  So why be surprised that men take women at their word?

            Stop and think about it.

            This is what many women have fought for.  The irony is that many women talk about how independent they are but then get mad if a man doesn’t want to pay for a date.   These same independent women want an old school traditional gentleman.  Many have articulated this to me.  It ain’t happening though.  Viva la revolucion!

            The money and independence is one thing.   These independent women are really getting screwed sexually (pun intended).   Used to be a man had to come correct to get sex from a woman.   All he needs now is a cute smile and visible print.   Women don’t have to deal with that short, homely, pudgy dude who may still have good intentions towards her.  Women don’t have to deal with that stable but boring dude who will faithfully keep a roof over her head and food in her stomach.   Women because they have their own money and can feed and house themselves can go for those big dick muscle men and pretty boys.   They can also go for that handsome man with a six figure salary who lives in a nice condo and drives an E-Class.   This is where it gets good.

            Women have the freedom to go for these men but most women rarely leave these relationships with their self-esteem intact.   When a man gets to a point where several women are chasing him he doesn’t have to treat any of them right.   A Select Man doesn’t have to provide for a woman.  If she doesn’t like that he doesn’t spend money on her, he can tell her to lose his number and unfriend him on social media.   What she gonna do about it?   He has four more thirsty ass independent women who will be happy if he comes over to spend time with them in their big cold houses.   Some men may even make the women spend money on them.  The gigolo game is getting bigger in the social landscape.

            It used to be that men had to at least pretend to be monogamous.   There is a steadily growing group of men who are openly polyamorous.  They are telling the women straight up they have other women and don’t care if the women have a problem with the situation.   The perceived shortage of “good men” which really means “handsome men with a little bit of money" has made certain men very bold.   They know they are a hot commodity and they will deal with women only on their terms.  I have a very attractive lady friend who was commenting on the men in her city.  She’s fine and sexy and yet single.   I asked her why and she said the men in her city were either gay or polyamorous.   Women wanted the sexual freedom to chase Mr. Goodbar.  They got it and the shit ain’t really working out for them.

            Another factor with so many women being sexually free the Select Men can afford to be very picky.  If a man has ten women to choose from he will only deal with the most sexually attractive women.   Too many women have had their heads gassed by thirsty men.   Many women will pass over the thirsty men because they have the freedom to do so.   They get upset when Select Men exercise the freedom to pass them over.   There has been a lot of talk about the body positivity movement.   An unspoken purpose of that movement is to get Select Men to find overweight women attractive.   I find it interesting that it takes effort to find instances of where body positivity is applied to overweight men.  

            I'm just saying.

            Sexual freedom gives a woman the right to sleep with who she chooses but also gives men a right to find her unattractive.  

            Like I said earlier I didn’t write this to be anti-Feminist or anti-sexual freedom.   A random survey of my books, videos, and blogs will show I don’t write for or against Feminism and definitely not against sexual freedom.   What I am concerned about is the hundreds of decent women I have got to know over the years.   These women are good people, they really are.   Most of them would make a good wife for some man even the ones who claim they are so independent.   Women change their tune when the right man comes into their lives.   The problem is because the women are talking about how independent they are the right man may take them at their word and relegate them to booty call status.   A marriage minded man isn’t looking for an independent woman.   He’s looking for a woman who wants to be in a UNION.      

            The very things that women think is empowering them is causing them great pain.

            Think on this.
 

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A Player's Eyes Excerpt: Why Smart Women Get Played

10/4/2015

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            The following excerpt is from my upcoming book, "A Player's Eyes."   In this excerpt I explain the real reason women, particularly smart and educated women, fall prey to Players and Bad Boys.

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         ​The reason women get played is not because they lack common sense, love thugs, or have a sign on their foreheads that says, “Victim.”  The reason women get played is because of their egos.   The women who get played the most are the ones who think they are the bomb.  Even though all women can and do get played there is one type that gets played the most.   I will call that woman the Smart Woman.   The Smart Woman is usually educated.  If she isn’t educated she may have had enough intelligence to work her way up to a high paying job.   The Smart Woman has money.  She has a home and material goods.   As far as physical appearance she will be somewhere between decent looking to slightly above average.   She’s definitely not ugly but no one will mistake her for a Dime.   From most men’s point of view the Smart Woman will be considered girlfriend or wife material.   Now here’s where it gets interesting.   I said “most men’s point of view.”   The men who will indeed have a high regard for the Smart Woman will be the same men that most women see as non-select.  

            As I said Smart Women think they are the bomb.   Non-Select men agree with them.   The Good Guys who are realistic see these women as perfect compliments.   No these women aren’t Dimes but to the Good Guys who like them, they are.   They want a good moral woman to come home to and that’s what the Smart Woman looks like.  Many Good Guys want to build with these women.   The problem is that the Good Guys aren’t good enough for the Smart Woman.   Smart Women don’t see good men they can build a family with.   Smart Women see men who are too short, too slim, too fat, and not handsome enough.   They don’t see a man who has worked hard to get where he is.   They see a man who is not making enough money, who may not have finished college, who is blue collar, and who lives in a modest apartment instead of a big townhouse.  The Good Guys don’t have what the Smart Women want.  

            The Smart Women want Mr. Goodbar and the Masked Man.  They want the man who can make them scream.  It’s more than that though.   They want the top men period.   Women are very competitive with each other.   They want the man that other women want.   They want to be able to say they got THE ONE!   This is a key aspect of a woman’s game.   Some women are realistic enough to be happy for what they can actually get.   Dude may be short and pudgy but he loves them and will always do right by them.  That ain’t good enough for the Smart Woman.   She wants that tall, handsome, built man with degrees and money.   Some will even reject Goodbar if he isn’t classically handsome or broke.    Here’s the funny thing.   In my opinion there’s nothing wrong with a woman going for the top man.   Go for it girl!  Get yo man!   The problem that pops up is that the top men don’t see the Smart Women in the same light.

            There was a Masked Man I knew years ago.   He said something that summed up what I heard other Masked Men say over the years in one way or the other.   He mocked Smart Women by saying, “I’m educated.  I have a house and car.  I keep my hair fixed and wear nice clothes.  I’m 250 lbs.  I can’t figure out why men don’t want me.”   Men in general don’t care about woman’s accomplishments and material possessions.   The few that do usually do so because they may be in a social circle where being with a person who projects a certain image is important.  Usually in upper middle class social groups.  In general that shit don’t matter or is at least not the first thing men notice.   When men talk with other men about a woman they just met they don’t talk about her degree, her profession, or her big house.   They say she pretty with a phat ass.  To Select Men most Smart Women are average at best.   When a man doesn’t see a woman as a Dime he will not give her his best.  This is especially the case if he has numerous women to choose from.   Each sub-category of the Select will respond to Smart Women in interesting ways.

            Mr. Goodbar sees most women as sex partners.   For the most part the Goodbars are the ones stroking the Dimes.   Smart Women usually don’t appear on a Goodbar’s radar.  When they do the Smart Woman is usually nothing more than physical gratification.   Even then she probably had to work hard and spend money to get Goodbar’s attention.  At some point the Smart Woman’s emotions become involved and she falls in love with Goodbar.   Goodbar on the other hand just likes her doggy style.   At some point the Smart Woman becomes a burden and Goodbar moves on.   He usually has other women anyway.   Now of course the Smart Woman feels that Goodbar took advantage of her.  She forgets that she chased him and not the other way around.   She really played herself.

            Now the Masked Man is a completely different story.   A Goodbar may not set out to intentionally dog a woman.  The Masked Man may make it his life mission to do so.   Now this isn’t all Masked Men yet there a sizable number who will intentionally hurt a woman emotionally.  The Masked Man didn’t start out as Select.   He had to work to get there.  Physically he had to hit the gym hard.   He had to build his body, he had to work on his grooming, his dental work, and his clothing style.   That’s just the physical piece.   He also had to go through college and maybe graduate school.   For the few blue collar Masked Men they had to put in long hours to learn and master their craft.   The Masked Man had to pay some dues.   The issue is that while they were paying their dues they had very little female companionship.   When these men were Non-Select they got rejected for numerous reasons.   I knew this dude who eventually became a high paid attorney.   He said while he was in school women rejected him because he didn’t have money to spend on them.   Never mind he was in school to become an attorney.   I’ve heard plenty of stories like that.  The irony is that once many of these men started making money the same women that rejected them would get real friendly saying something like, “I knew you were going places.  I always thought you were fine.”   Really?  What happens is the Masked Man has had years to build up some resentment.   There’s another dynamic with this.

            When the Masked Man was just a Good Guy he wanted the Smart Woman.   She just didn’t want him back.   Once he crosses the boundary into the Select World that Smart Woman doesn’t look as good to him anymore.   This is even in situations where her physical appearance hasn’t faded.   The Masked Man got his money right, his house and car are big, his body is muscular and he can wear expensive tailor made suits.   Dude wants a Dime to complete the picture.   He’ll be cool as long as he dealing with a Dime.   When he deals with a Smart Woman he will treat her in an inferior way.   All this pain and frustration he has carried for years will be taken out on a Smart Woman even though she may genuinely be attracted to him.  

            Years ago I did a radio show where I talked specifically about men who dog women.  I told the beautiful host that the biggest and most dangerous dogs are not trying to talk to women in the streets.   The biggest dogs aren’t some men with their pants hanging off their ass.   The most doggish men, the ones who make it their life mission to hurt women, are often the ones who are professionals with corporate jobs.   It’s all part of a vicious cycle.   Smart Women think they should get the top men and reject men who aren’t there.  When those men get to the top they reject those same women that rejected them.  

            I had to speak on this.   I’ve heard so many women complain about not finding a good man but it’s always their egos that get in the way.   A woman can have five Good Guys chasing her but because she thinks she’s the woman she wants Mr. Goodbar or the Masked Man.  Then she will have the nerve to complain that there is a “shortage of good man.”   She get out her ego and humble herself she will see that there are several men for her to choose from.   Her ego though makes her chase that man who may dog her.   Many men are told to stay in their lanes when looking for mates.   That good piece of advice works both ways.
 

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Raw Game: The Choice

2/22/2015

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            You know, I’m still in a good mood from last week.   I’m going to get my tax refund back so I can get an 80 inch HD TV and some new rims for my Chevy.   For real though the reason why the government gives away money through the Earned Income Credit (EIC) is to prime the economy during the non-holiday shopping season.  I won’t get into that though but every now and then my background in writing political commentary pops up and I just have to say something.  I digress.   Anyway my raw game blog from last week was a hit judging from the traffic and shares on social media, so since I’ll be able to go to a decent seafood restaurant once the refund check hits my back account I decided to share some more raw game.   I don’t have the money yet because I have a savings and a checking account and the way they are set up…

            Anyway I’m going to get into the most important thing a man needs to know about interactions between men and women.   Here’s a passage from my book Nice Guys and Players:

             One day, a friend of mine I’ll call Jim decided to tell me the secret of his success with women.  Jim attracted women like manure attracts flies.  Women would quite literally camp out on his front lawn to see him and it wasn’t even his house.  He lived with his mother until he got married.  Jim wasn’t rich.  He didn’t have his own car.  Jim would have women chase after him.  The irony was you could never call him a player.  I have known him since we were ten and I have never heard him use a pickup line with a woman.  Not once.  My success with women when I was young was never anywhere near his.  So one day, after I got him sufficiently drunk, Jim decided to tell me the secret of his success with women.  After he told me I asked, “That’s it?”  Jim replied, “Yeah, that’s it.  Gimme another beer.”  Just like that I knew the answer.  Of course it took me a couple of years to master the concept, but hopefully it will take you a couple of weeks.

            What’s the secret?  The secret is simple.  Women choose the men.   Sounds simple doesn’t it?  Well it is simple.  Remembering those four words will get you more dating choices than you can handle.  Mastering the concept behind those words will save you time, money, and heartbreak.  The only time you will be without companionship is when you don’t feel like being bothered.  Women, in most cases, know exactly what they want in a man.  They don’t always end up with the men they want, but they still know.  Women know who can turn them on and who cannot.  Many women have told me they can take one look at a man and know whether or not they will date him.  If a woman doesn’t choose a man there is nothing he can do to win her heart.  All the money, looks, prestige, charm, or power will not change her mind.

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            Now I know some cats will read this passage and say “Duh.  This is basic stuff.   Where is the advanced game where a beautiful woman will fall for me if I give her a few lines?”  Actually it’s not basic because the overwhelming majority of men have not mastered the concept behind the statement, “women choose the men.”   They think they have but they haven’t.   Let me explain why I have come to this conclusion.

            Most men will say that women are the ultimate choosers.   They will say that women will make the FINAL decision.  What most men do is engage in actions to convince a woman to choose them.   So, many men chase women, they pursue them on the streets, in the clubs, and like all their photos on social media.  Every now and then they will catch the object of their desires.    So of course the men think that their “game” got the women.   Not really.  In most cases the woman had chosen them anyway and allowed the other things to play out.  Most women know they will have sex within an hour of meeting a man if he makes their vagina tingle.   At the same time most women will not share this information with the men and will sit back and enjoy the perks of dating such as gifts and dinners at seafood restaurants.   Another scenario is that many women will allow a man to spend money on her until a man she actually wants comes into the picture.

            Now the reality is that most men will do everything in their power to impress a particular woman and still fail miserably.   Some men will try to use their money and status.  Some men will hit on everything female in their environment.  Some men will play the “Good Man” game which is trying to show a woman that they are decent and responsible.   More than a few men will play the “Captain Sav’em” game where they rescue a woman financially.   Even handsome men will approach women thinking their looks will win the day.   All of these men fail miserably and what typically happens they grow increasingly bitter.  

            I lurk on a lot of forums, blogs, and message boards where men will complain about their lack of success with women.   The popular image of men who don’t do well with women are physically ugly men with weird habits who live in their parent’s basements.    The reality is that the overwhelming majority of perpetually single men are not basement dwelling, video game playing losers.   The majority of men who are constantly single and going through periods of involuntary celibacy are men with their own homes or at least apartments.  They have well-paying jobs and they may not rank as a Nine or Ten in the eyes of women but many will still rank as Sixes or Seven.   A few such men will rate as Eights.    Many such men have better than average body builds.   So what’s the problem?   They really don’t understand what it means when it is said that “women choose the men.”

            Most men have a tendency to chase after and indeed even obsess over women, WHO DO NOT WANT THEM.     Men will chase after a woman and when she isn’t interested they will think the woman has a problem or that “she only likes thugs.”  No she just isn’t feeling you bruh.   It’s nothing wrong.   Most men need to let go of that sense of entitlement.   A man can be 6’2” with a handsome face, buffed body, and a six figure salary and there are going to be some women who don’t want him.   That’s not the game.  That’s just life.   

            See in this culture many men see themselves as the superior sex.   As such, many men do not see women as terms of a complimentary partner but rather as a prize to be won.   This is where the concept of trophy wives come in.   So many men on a subconscious level see getting women as an acquisition that they must pursue.   Indeed the men who have withdrawn from chasing women only do so because in their minds they weren’t good at the game.   So on a deep level men believe that they can do something to MAKE a woman choose them.   Nature doesn’t work like that.  

            Here’s the Raw Game.

            The statement, “women choose the men” means that women make the INITIAL choice of a man.   A woman will see a man.  She will size him up in the first few minutes and place him in either the Select or Non-Select categories.   If she deems him Select he can potentially get the panties.  If she deems him Non-Select the best he can get is the friend zone.   Let’s be clear, being deemed Select doesn’t mean the man automatically means he gets sex.   He is only allowed the CHANCE to get sex.   For a numerous reasons the woman may decide she doesn’t want to sleep with the man.   Selectmen get friendzoned too.  A little known reality is that many women will limit their male friends to only those in Select category.   They will have zero dealings with Non-Select Men.

            So women make that initial choice.   Most women are not going to approach a man.  What women will do is put themselves in a position where the man will approach them.   The woman’s game is to draw a man’s attention to her.  She will look at him, she will smile at him, and she will wear sexy clothing, whatever it takes to attract the man she has chosen.   She will play the game of letting him think he’s the one who took the initiative.   Naw she’s the fisherman.   She may use a net or several fishing lines.   If she’s sexy she will catch a lot of men but she will throw back the ones she doesn’t want because they can’t fulfill her needs.

            See the true feminine nature is passive.   It wants to stay still.   The feminine nature is the earth, the ground.    It is the block of ice.   It’s just there.   The feminine nature wants to attract the masculine nature to do for it.   It is the earth that wants to be tilled.   It is the block of ice that wants to be melted.   The feminine needs the masculine to act on it.  Women are magnetic and men are electric.   A woman is the immovable object that wants to draw the irresistible force of a man.   Just not ANY man though.   A woman wants to draw a man who can meet HER specific needs.   She wants the man who take action on HER behalf.

            This is why a man can have everything going for him and still get rejected.   Contrary to popular belief all women don’t want a tall man.   Some women want a short man, some want a pudgy man.   All women have a preference.   Quiet as it kept many don’t want a big dick up in them.   Many women complain about a big dick hurting their pelvis bones because of the constant pounding.   Then again some women need a big dick man.   All women don’t want a man with money and status because such men are usually not very attentive to a woman’s needs.   Many women would rather deal with a modest income cat who can give them attention.   Many women don’t want a good looking man because they don’t to be around a man who looks better than them.  

            WOMEN CHOOSE MEN ACCORDING TO THEIR NEEDS.

            A man does not and cannot know a PARTICULAR woman’s needs.   So a man will come at a woman and present what he can do and it’s things she doesn’t need.   Of course the man becomes frustrated and feels like the woman has a problem.   You can’t force a woman to like or especially need you.   The real source of men’s frustration is that despite everything they do women are not choosing them.   So we get social media pages bashing women and calling them “thots.”   We get men who are withdrawing from the game.   We get men who are handsome with money who are still involuntarily celibate.    Now let’s look at the other side of the picture.   Let’s talk about the men who women routinely choose.

            I talk a lot about Mr. Goodbar.   I describe him generally as a man with a handsome face, nice body, and cool personality.   Many Mr. Goodbars are also known as Bad Boys.   The real key to their appeal to women is not their looks or even their personalities whether they are cool people or jerks.   The key to Mr. Goodbar is the internalization that “women choose the men.”   As a result of that internalization of those four words Mr. Goodbar does not CHASE women.   Many men are called Bad Boys not because they are criminals, or engaged in anti-social behavior.   One reason they are called Bad Boys is they don’t give a fuck.   Think real hard about what I’m about to say.

            The men who get the most attention from women, the ones who get the most sex, the ones who have actual harems, DO NOT CHASE women.   These men either get approached by women or in most cases women make it extremely easy for Mr. Goodbar to approach them.   If you look at a situation with a third eye opened you will see that the women seduced the men and not the other way around.   I’m strongly emphasize the next statements.

            IF A WOMAN CHOOSES A MAN SHE WILL ACTIVELY TRY TO SEDUCE HIM!!!  

            IF A WOMAN IS NOT TRYING TO SEDUCE YOU SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU!!!

            A MAN DOES NOT NEED TO CHASE RANDOM WOMEN!!!

            A MAN ONLY NEEDS TO RECOGNIZE THE WOMEN WHO ARE TRYING TO SEDUCE HIM!!!

            A problem is that a lot of men do not want to hear that.   They want to go after who they want regardless of whether or not the woman wants him back.   So a man will approach 100 women in a month and fail miserably.   He then becomes bitter and gets on message boards and social media to complain about women going for thugs or that they are thots.  Meanwhile a man may recognize that in a year 30 women have chosen him and out of that 30, 10 of them are worth getting to know and out of that 5 become a part of his harem.  

            A man who truly understands that “women choose the men” has power.   He can CHOOSE who he wants to deal with.   A man chasing random women is putting the power in their hands.   Most men get played because they are chasing women who do not want them.  I cannot say that enough.

            Another thing is that once a man realizes the truth of a woman’s choice he can be FREE.   Most men react to women.   Most men get money and status to get women.   Most men work on their appearance to get women.   Most men behave as “Good Men,” “White Knights,” and “Captain Sav’ems” to get women.  Most men withdraw from the game because they failed at getting women.   Once a man internalizes that “women choose the men” he stops trying to impress women.   He is able to be authentic and true to himself.  He doesn’t have to wear a mask.  He doesn’t have to learn game.  He can truly be himself.   His message is “take me as I am or don’t take me.”   Now this doesn’t mean he can’t make money and improve his appearance and his social skills.   It just means he’s doing it for his OWN personal evolution and experience of life.   Here’s the thing.   Women more than anything are attracted to authentic men.   The masks may draw their attention but the man’s true spirit is what hooks the female heart.   A man who is authentic finds that the women who will consistently choose him will be the ones who can support him in HIS life mission.   Let me leave you with something to think about.  

            A WOMAN WILL CHOOSE A MAN ACCORDING TO HER NEEDS BUT ONE OF HER NEEDS  IS TO SUPPORT THE MAN OF HER CHOOSING.

*Drops Mic*

           

 

 

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The Real Game

2/1/2015

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            Too many men out here got things twisted.   Many men think that they got “game.”  They got all these techniques, plans, strategies, and whatever in order to get women.   They got a certain approach down to a science and think they are actually seducing some young woman with their “game.”  Yeah.   Most men don’t do very well with their game.   It’s too many horny women out there complaining that men can’t even say “hello” in a sensible way.   The problem is that many men think the “game” is chasing women.   Naw, chasing women is something they’re doing.  Every now and then they may get lucky with a woman of low enough self-esteem and a total absence of common sense.    They don’t understand the REAL GAME.

            The Real Game has never been men chasing or seducing women.   The Real Game is women attracting and seducing the men they desire.  The women are really the predators and men are the prey.   In particular it is about getting the Select Men who typically have looks, money, and status.    Now here’s the thing and I CHALLENGE someone to prove me wrong.   How often do you see good-looking men with money approach women?   Think about it now.    It’s very rare a Select Man approaches a woman.   Usually if they do the woman is on the higher scale of physical attractiveness.   The women who complain about street harassment are really complaining because they are not being approached by Select Men.   Let me get a little deep with you for a second.

            Think about the terms I use in my work, Select and Non-Select.   It’s not an issue of women choosing between men who approach and men who don’t approach.   Women make the INITIAL choice.   Women want who they want.  What women do is let men know that they have been chosen in a non-verbal way.   Women typically don’t approach men though this isn’t unprecedented.   What women do is put themselves in the position to be approached by particular men.    Let me provide a great example.

            Years ago a friend of mine I’ll call Maryann told me the story of how she met her boyfriend.   She was attending a university in Washington, DC.   She lived in an apartment near the school.   She started noticing a tall, handsome man who walked by her building the same time every day.   She was good at reading people and she could tell he was her type not so much by his looks but because of how he dressed and groomed himself.  She was only attracted to upper middle class men and dude walking by building fit the bill.   After clocking him for a few weeks she put herself in his path.   He said hi to her and she was receptive.   They would go on a date later that week.   Now dude may think he took the initiative by approaching her.   No, she had chosen him weeks before he knew she existed.  All she had to do was let him know that he had been chosen.   

            Quick tidbit about me.   Most of what I know about getting women came from women.   I’ve only received useful information about getting women from maybe three men.    That’s why so many men are sexually frustrated because many don’t want to listen to women and the ones who do usually only get the politically correct information.   The greatest skill a man can develop is being able to listen to a woman without judging her.  

            Just gave away some powerful game.

            Anyway if one really pays attention what women say in different forums and in the media the whole game is to get the Select men.   In my blogs I focus a lot on Mr. Goodbar.   Mr. Goodbar doesn’t approach a lot of women.   Indeed I know a man is seen as Mr. Goodbar when he complains about women texting him all the time or having women say hi to him on the street when he is not trying to be bothered.   The typical Mr. Goodbar is lousy at approaching women because it’s not a skill he had to work on.  Here’s another example which I might have used before but it illustrates my point.

            I was at a natural hair care expo selling books.   The way it was set up I had some women standing a few yards behind me.   A definite Mr. Goodbar who had bought my book was walking by my table again.   One of the women behind me saw the man and yelled out to him, “Hey I want to take you home.”   The brotha walked over to the woman, took out his smart phone, and handed it to her and said, “Put your number in here.”   She put her number in his phone, he took back the phone, sent her a text and just walked off.   Very little was said, everything was understood.   This wasn’t an ugly woman either.   She was slightly above average looking with a brickhouse body.   

            In the media there are all sorts of advice to men about what they can do get women.   Many men do exactly what is recommended and still find themselves in a state of involuntary celibacy.    What’s not being said is that the advice given to men is intended for only 25 percent of the male population.   Women want certain things from the Select Men.    They could care less about Non-Select Men.   The information isn’t for them.   Let me share another example.

            We’ve all seen memes such as “A Real Man Will Love All of a Woman” or “Real Men Love Curves.”   The idea is to get men to feel attraction for a woman regardless of how overweight she is.   I’ve seen many of these memes with a muscular man in a sexual embrace with an overweight, and in many cases, obese woman.   The key thing is that it is ALWAYS a muscular man.   I have NEVER seen one of these memes with a fat woman hugged up with a short man, a skinny man, a stocky man, or a fat man.   The reason is that these memes are not directed at regular men.   These memes are directed at pretty boys, musclemen, and handsome rich men.  

            That should show you the real game right there.

            Many fat women are trying to shame Select Men into wanting them and yet these fat women reject the Non-Select Men who do want them.   Plenty of men are sincerely attracted to overweight women.  These men will love a woman regardless of her muffin top and cellulite.   It’s not even a case of them settling.   They will love all of a woman and yet I’ve personally witnessed obese women put the men who want them the most into the dreaded friend-zone.   I’ve seen outright cruel rejections.   The game of the fat woman is to use shame to get Mr. Goodbar.   Others use money but that’s another blog.

            A man instead of chasing women who have not chosen him is better served by working on his body and his finances.   A man does this and he becomes the prize.   Then the man has to recognize when he has been chosen.   That’s the real game.

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