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Victory Has Defeated Women

10/11/2015

  “Victory has defeated you.” - Bane to Batman in the movie, “The Dark Knight Rises.”

            Through a combination of Feminism and the sexual revolution women have come a long way.   Women are free to pursue their life aspirations and their sexual desires.   Women are climbing the corporate ladder, or in many cases creating the corporation.   They are buying big cars, houses, going on expensive vacations, and pursuing their passions.   Sexually they are not stuck dealing with some boring man for the rest of their lives.   Divorce is easy and in many cases a woman may not even marry.   Women don’t need men for support like they may have only fifty years ago.   Women have succeeded in their revolutions for more autonomy.   Victory in many instances has been declared though some women may disagree. I’m not going to get into all that though. Bottom line is that women are freer than they have ever been in the modern era. Too bad that victory has actually defeated women.

            Even though my blogs, books, and videos have for the most part directed to self-improvement for men a reality is that a significant amount of my material has been purchased by women.   Even in terms of one on one coaching I’ve had more women clients than men.   There have been even more women that I have engaged in regular conversations about relationships.   The scenario is almost always the same. The women complaining the most about their relationship experiences have been educated, high achieving women who owned houses, condos, and if renting had top of the line townhouses and apartments.   These women had money. On a personal level the women were very intelligent with physical features that were slightly above the norm.   These weren’t supermodels but a man would hold their hand in public.   That’s if they could get a man. These women despite what they had going for them always had trouble getting into functional relationships.   The few that had a man were usually sharing that man with several other women or they were relegated to evenings of "Netflix and chill."   Most though, after working hard all day in a corporate environment where they hated their co-workers, would come home to big sterile houses.   The number of lonely women is quite high.

            When any movement seeks to change the social order the focus is always on the perceived injustice currently in front of them.   Very seldom does anyone think that a change in the social order will produce a worse social order.   If one studies the many revolutions in history it will be found that when the revolution succeeded in overthrowing the current government or social climate it would become necessary for the revolutionaries to become as oppressive as the previous regime.   The reason is that problems that may not have existed before the revolution start to pop up.   Then a vicious cycle starts when someone decides to overthrow the revolutionary regime.

            Now before someone thinks this blog will be about anti-Feminism and anti-sexual freedom that is not the case. As will become evident I personally benefit from the way things are.   A Feminist would have to be created from reverse engineered alien technology from a crashed UFO to impact my life in any meaningful way. I’m definitely for sexual freedom. I was just moved to point out something that is extremely ironic.   Feminism and sexual freedom have actually made more women single and lonely which in turn makes them perfect prey for Players. Ask me how I know.

            Back in the day men had to behave a certain way and treat women in a different manner than what we have today. Even the men who had multiple women had to be a certain way.   Back in the day men had mistresses and in some cases another family.   The man was still expected to protect and provide for his mistress and any children they produced.   Things have certainly changed.   The only way many men provide now is if the paternity test says they are the father and the courts grant a child support order. Some men get out of that by not having a job.

            The thing is that a real man wants to protect and provide for a woman. Some men have such a strong urge to do so that they may knowingly protect and provide for a woman who has another man’s children. This isn’t some simp shit as some men may think.    Just like a normal woman has a nurturing instinct, normal men have a natural instinct to take care of a family.

            Many women will read this and say many men don’t want to protect and provide for women anymore.   That’s because the protect and provide instinct has been subverted by the current social programing.   Many women are yelling that they are, “independent and don’t need a man.”   Single mothers with boy children are showing these boys that they don’t need men. So why be surprised that men take women at their word?

            Stop and think about it.

            This is what many women have fought for. The irony is that many women talk about how independent they are but then get mad if a man doesn’t want to pay for a date.   These same independent women want an old school traditional gentleman. Many have articulated this to me. It ain’t happening though. Viva la revolucion!

            The money and independence is one thing.   These independent women are really getting screwed sexually (pun intended).   Used to be a man had to come correct to get sex from a woman.   All he needs now is a cute smile and visible print.   Women don’t have to deal with that short, homely, pudgy dude who may still have good intentions towards her. Women don’t have to deal with that stable but boring dude who will faithfully keep a roof over her head and food in her stomach.   Women because they have their own money and can feed and house themselves can go for those big dick muscle men and pretty boys.   They can also go for that handsome man with a six figure salary who lives in a nice condo and drives an E-Class.   This is where it gets good.

            Women have the freedom to go for these men but most women rarely leave these relationships with their self-esteem intact.   When a man gets to a point where several women are chasing him he doesn’t have to treat any of them right.   A Select Man doesn’t have to provide for a woman. If she doesn’t like that he doesn’t spend money on her, he can tell her to lose his number and unfriend him on social media.   What she gonna do about it?   He has four more thirsty ass independent women who will be happy if he comes over to spend time with them in their big cold houses.   Some men may even make the women spend money on them. The gigolo game is getting bigger in the social landscape.

            It used to be that men had to at least pretend to be monogamous.   There is a steadily growing group of men who are openly polyamorous. They are telling the women straight up they have other women and don’t care if the women have a problem with the situation.   The perceived shortage of “good men” which really means “handsome men with a little bit of money" has made certain men very bold.   They know they are a hot commodity and they will deal with women only on their terms. I have a very attractive lady friend who was commenting on the men in her city. She’s fine and sexy and yet single.   I asked her why and she said the men in her city were either gay or polyamorous.   Women wanted the sexual freedom to chase Mr. Goodbar. They got it and the shit ain’t really working out for them.

            Another factor with so many women being sexually free the Select Men can afford to be very picky. If a man has ten women to choose from he will only deal with the most sexually attractive women.   Too many women have had their heads gassed by thirsty men.   Many women will pass over the thirsty men because they have the freedom to do so.   They get upset when Select Men exercise the freedom to pass them over.   There has been a lot of talk about the body positivity movement.   An unspoken purpose of that movement is to get Select Men to find overweight women attractive.   I find it interesting that it takes effort to find instances of where body positivity is applied to overweight men.

            I'm just saying.

            Sexual freedom gives a woman the right to sleep with who she chooses but also gives men a right to find her unattractive.

            Like I said earlier I didn’t write this to be anti-Feminist or anti-sexual freedom.   A random survey of my books, videos, and blogs will show I don’t write for or against Feminism and definitely not against sexual freedom.   What I am concerned about is the hundreds of decent women I have got to know over the years.   These women are good people, they really are.   Most of them would make a good wife for some man even the ones who claim they are so independent.   Women change their tune when the right man comes into their lives.   The problem is because the women are talking about how independent they are the right man may take them at their word and relegate them to booty call status.   A marriage minded man isn’t looking for an independent woman.   He’s looking for a woman who wants to be in a UNION.

            The very things that women think is empowering them is causing them great pain.

            Think on this.

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Goodbar Land

5/17/2015

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            I had an interesting day yesterday.   I was out and about doing what I do. I had several conversations with men about what men usually talk about if it is not sports, women.   One young man was telling me how tired he was feeling because his girl wore him out the night before. He was also telling me how jealous she gets because other women check him out and that she always checks his phone.   He also had a lot of insight into the true nature of women.   Now this is a young Black male who society would label as a thug because of his braided hair and rough appearance.   I had a conversation an hour or so later with a muscular white man who had a lot of insight into women.   This dude was a self-described Poon Hound.   Watching his head swivel every time a woman walked past us was entertaining.   As he said, “I like women. All women.”   This the type of cat who would fuck anything female that moves.   He walk by an aquarium the fish would stop swimming. He walk outside the wind stops blowing.   Outside these two, I got texts throughout the day from men who get more women than they know what to do with. It was a Goodbar type of day.   It very refreshing.

            As I’ve written several times I have talked with literally thousands of women. What I don’t say is that I’ve talked with literally thousands of men. Now when men get together the two main topics of conversation will be sports and women.   Indeed a man can go anywhere on the planet and connect with locals talking about sports or women, especially women. I’m convinced a phat ass can bring world peace.   Now most of the conversations are men complaining about their lack of success with women.   I spend a significant amount of time listening to every negative thing possible being said about women.   Even online the majority of men’s social media pages, blogs, videos, and websites are talking negative. This is the case even with sites dedicated to men improving with women.   I referenced a few of these sites in my blog, Different Worlds of Men.    There was one, however, I didn’t reference.   That world was Goodbar Land.

            I have yet to find a website that caters to Mr. Goodbar.   I’ve found some that are arguably close.   In my Different Worlds blog I mention Better Man World and Poly World.   These aren’t Goodbars though. These are Masked Man types.   These are men who had to do a lot of work to become select.   There was another underground site I didn’t mention in that article that I was privy to that catered to real Pimps.   You had to know somebody to get the link for that site. It still wasn’t a Goodbar site.   Contrary to popular belief the Pimps really don’t have as much insight into the female mind as a Goodbar. Pimps are skilled at finding and managing women who are willing to sell their body. Pimps are lousy at dealing with regular or what they call square women.   The image of the pimp is more in public consciousness. Goodbar is something else entirely.

            I have a vivid memory of a seminar I did back in 2001 based on my book, Nice Guys and Players.   It was with a group of young Black professionals.   It was standing room only and a lot of energy.   A fun part of the seminar was people acting out in skits the different character types I had in my books. It was all improv with a man and woman in each skit. They were given a brief description of each character and they went to work.   The Nice Guy and Masked Man skits were good. The Gamesman skit had me on the floor laughing.   Dude had legitimate good game which quite frankly is rare.   He later told me he had seven sisters who taught him a lot. Anyway when they got to the Goodbar skit the man came on to the woman very aggressively and I stopped laughing.   It was all wrong.   I explained the problems of the interpretation and people looked at me as if I had an antenna growing out of my head.

            Let me explain something about Mr. Goodbar.   He is the top of food chain as far as sexual desirability.   He is an Apex predator.   People think Pimps or Macks are the top dogs, the Alpha Males, but it’s really Mr. Goodbar.   The key piece with Goodbar is not that he chases women but rather they chase him.   Women actively try to seduce Mr. Goodbar.   This is an alien concept to most men who are not Goodbars. Women already know even though they don’t talk about it publically and especially not in mixed company.   Goodbars don’t street harass or spend money trying to impress women. Women will street harass and spend money trying to impress Goodbar.   Gigolos and Male Strippers are Goodbars who have gone pro.   I remember this one dude who telling me he had “arrived.”   He felt that since he was starting to get sex with decent women that he was the man.   He found out the hard way that he wasn’t.   He was getting women based on his salary, his home, and his cars.   He had arrived as a Masked Man, the mask being the resources but he wasn’t Goodbar.   A man knows he is Goodbar when women show up to his place with a trench coat on and nothing else.   A man knows he’s Goodbar when he get late night texts talking about, “What you doing?”   If a man has to open his wallet he’s not Goodbar.   Only a small percentage of men have it like that.

            Now many people think that Goodbar is probably a really handsome man that looks like a male model.   Not really.   First of all handsome is a subjective thing. What’s handsome to one woman is ugly to another.   When it comes to dating advice, there is too much emphasis on facial features even when it is said, “Looks don’t matter.”   For people who believe looks matter they feel that as long as a man has a handsome face he will get attention.   I would say I’ve seen this to be the case when a man has an EXTREMELY handsome face.   Otherwise there are standard handsome men who have a lot of trouble with women.   The issue is not their faces.   The key to turning on a woman sexually is not the face.   There are millions of handsome men who are also seen as Nice Guys.   Facially many may be better looking to women than a Goodbar.   These men are also skinny or overweight.   The key ingredient for a Goodbar is not the face but his body.   What separates Mr. Goodbar from other men is his body.   More on that later.

            See a failing with many men in relating to women is that they are too much in their heads.   They are approaching women using logical thinking.   Logical thinking by its very nature is microcosmic. It is left-brained. It sees a small part of the overall picture.   It is thinking based on information. It is limited if the information on a particular subject is limited.   For example, many men base their actions in relating to women on studies and statistics.   One example is the idea that fifty percent of Black women have herpes.   This is according to a Center for Disease Control study.   This study is based on actual test results.   Many men will base their logical thinking on this study when dealing with Black women.   The problem with this type of thinking is obvious to someone using common sense.   In order for the statement that fifty percent of Black women have herpes every single Black woman in the country would have to be tested.   A more accurate statement would be to say that fifty percent of the Black women TESTED for herpes had the disease.   A woman would only get tested for herpes or anything else for the matter only if they showed symptoms.   An analogy would be that a woman wouldn’t get tested for pregnancy unless she showed symptoms.

            My point is that logical thinking is limited as far as relationships are concerned.   It’s good for professions which have well established rules, regulations, and standards.   Dealing with women is another thing entirely.   A man who is too much in his head will see a Goodbar at a bar say something to a women and see her immediately get sexual with him.   So the man in his head thinks, “If I say the same thing I will get the same result.”   Most “game” advice focuses on saying the right things to women.   So the man says the same things as the Goodbar and fails miserably.   Depending on where he is he may get kicked out of the club or even arrested.   What the man using logic didn’t see was that the Goodbar turned on the woman sexually before he even said a word to her.   The woman was turned on by the man’s body.   All the Goodbar had to do was pick up on the woman’s interest which leads to another difference between Goodbar and the rest of the male population.   Mr. Goodbar doesn’t think the same way as other men.

            There are actually four modes of thinking.   Logical thinking is one mode which is linear, left-brained, and microcosmic.   There is also analytical thinking which is abstract, left-brained and microcosmic.   It uses analogy to compare one thing to another in order to come to a conclusion.   There is a mode called synthesis which is holistic, right-brained, and macrocosmic.   Synthesis looks at the big picture and how different parts of the picture fit together.   People who have a lot of common sense are using synthesis. Finally there is integration which is intuitive, right-brained, and macrocosmic.   People who use integration are the type that do things based on “gut feelings.”   They are drawing from their subconscious mind.   They can read a person or situation accurately without any outside information.   Most human innovations came from integration.

            As far as the four categories of men, Nice Guys, Gamesmen, and Masked Men tend to use logical and analytical thinking.   Good for working in many professions and keeping a car running but not so good for dealing with women. Relationships are a right-brain thing.   Men and even women who approach relationships using their left-brain are doomed to failure and at best a passionless coupling based on pragmatic concerns.    Goodbars tend to use synthesis and integration.   One way that I know when a man is a Goodbar or at least has the potential is that he can read women real well.   This isn’t the type of reads that are taught in PUA boot camps which treat all the women the same. A Goodbar reads each woman as an individual and adjusts his actions accordingly. Goodbar is using intuition and also a lot of common sense.   Goodbars know that women are into sex as much, even more than men.   Strangely, many men think women don’t want sex as much as men and are scandalized when women show how sexual they can really get.   Goodbar intuits a woman’s sexual interest.   Using common sense Goodbar realizes that just like men are attracted to a woman’s body, women are attracted to a man’s body.

            Many dating advice professionals will advise men to join a gym and get fit.   The problem is that the men will still approach women while still in their heads.   They still think some magic words or behaviors will turn on a woman sexually.   Here’s a reality. The men who get the most panties thrown at them are not the brightest as group.   I thought so at one time because of a personal bias but if I’m being honest the men who get the most women are not that bright at least not in a left-brain logical way.   There are exceptions like in everything else.   The women are responding to the man’s body.   Just like a man wants to suck those breasts and grab that ass, a woman wants to lick that chest and grab that ass too. Ask me how I know. Women as a group are DRAWN to a certain body type, which tends to be mesomorphic or very close to it. The affect is literally magnetic to women. Men who are not close to that ideal need to be extremely handsome AND tall. For any man not at those ideals women will be a struggle and are doing well to simply get a cooperative girlfriend.   One thing Goodbar doesn’t do is overthink situations with women.   Women really aren’t that deep.

            There is so much I can say.   For anyone trying to get into Goodbar Land hit the gym.   If you’re skinny add some bulk.   If you’re overweight lose some weight.   Even after you do all that learn to think differently.   I know many men want to take workshops and read books on women.   Many men will listen to other clueless men.   Ultimately every man needs to cultivate his intuition and common sense.   Follow those gut feelings.   There has been many beautiful woman I passed over because my gut feeling screamed, “Oh hell no!”   I have no regrets.   I always found out something negative about the woman later on.   Use some common sense.   Dealing with women in a cookie cutter manner is stupid. Each woman no matter how similar she is to other women is still an individual.   You gotta read that woman.   You can’t follow a script.   If you are having trouble with women it’s not the women. It’s you. You need to change your thinking because apparently it’s not working.

            One final thing.   The man who just read this needs to ask himself some basic questions.   Does he want to live in a world where he has to remember lines, spend money, and chase women who may end up friend zoning him?   Does he want to live in a world where women show up to his door wearing nothing but a trench coat and heels?

            Think on this.

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August 10th, 2014

8/10/2014

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The Male Freak

7/6/2014

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            I’m about to get into a subject that no one really talks about. People familiar with my work know that I put men into several categories in terms of how women perceive them for sex and relationships.   I use the categories so men can know where they truly stand with women and make necessary adjustments.   Women read about the categories to get insight as to why they continue to date the same knuckleheads.   The thing with these categories is that they are just general descriptions.   There are several subcategories within each group and there are several small groups of men who are outliers. In other words these men don’t quite fit into any one group.   One group of outliers are the Male Freaks.

            When the term “freak” is used it is usually in reference to a sexually loose woman who is down for whatever. The thing is that the term can be applied to men as well.   A Male Freak is simply a man with a high sex drive and low inhibitions about what he will do sexually. The Male Freak is someone who is very good at sex. These men are down for whatever with the women they are with whether in a monogamous relationship and in multiple concurrent relationships.   Whatever their relationship status these men are the true rulers of the sexual underworld even more so than Mr. Goodbar.   Now someone may ask a couple of questions about this. They thought Mr. Goodbar ran things.   Not totally.

            The Mr. Goodbars look good and draw the most public attention. Indeed many freaks are Mr. Goodbars but not all Mr. Goodbars are freaks. Mr. Goodbar isn’t necessarily better in bed than the average Nice Guy.   What Mr. Goodbar does is just turn the woman on more to begin with.   A woman gets hot more from seeing Mr. Goodbar and imagining what sex would be like with him.   Actual sex with him may be mediocre.   Many women are left high and dry (pun intended) after having sex with a man they initially thought was sexy.   At the same time I’ve had women tell me they hooked up with a man they thought to be a Nice Guy and got turned out.   That’s one reason you may see a drop dead gorgeous woman with an ugly man.   Sometimes it’s money or status. Sometimes the ugly man had a 10-inch dick and thick tongue.

            See the thing with many Male Freaks is that on the surface they don't look like players or successful men.   He’s not the tall one with the square jaw, broad shoulders, and swagged out like crazy.   He’s the one who’s average height and a little pudgy.   He don’t make too much money.   He goes against virtually every principle in the mainstream about what turns a woman on and the dating coaches and seduction gurus never talk about him. He doesn’t look like the popular image of an Alpha Male. Women know about him even though they don’t talk about it in mixed company unless they are around somebody like me.   When women see a Male Freak or at least someone they think is a Male Freak they will say something to the effect of “He look like he can fuck.”

            The thing is that even a nerdy Nice Guy can be a freak.   I knew a cat one time I’ll call Trevor. Trevor was an interesting dude. The women in the social circle we were in pretty much friend zoned Trevor but he would try anyway. A couple of women called him ugly, he wasn’t athletic, and he stuttered terribly.   I remember I was talking with him one time when he told me about a woman he hooked up with that was outside the circle.   As he was telling me in graphic detail about his episode with woman I was thinking the women in our circle didn’t know what they were missing out on. Let’s just say that Trevor was very creative sexually.

            I know a few men like this.   If you see them in public they look like church going family men.   I know a cat I’ll Matt.   This man is extremely intellectual and can do lectures on religious matters and making a computer run better.   He’s also straight up freak who, though he’s in his forties, routinely has passion marks on his neck from young girls.   Another man I’ll call Kevin is a successful businessman in his fifties who looks corny when he’s not in a suit. He routinely bangs strippers and has a few women sponsor him by giving him money and buying clothes for him.   Kevin will look at women and say things like, “she’ll be good in bed,” or “she doesn’t have good pussy.”   This brings me to my next point.

            Many dating coaches and seduction gurus are in the business of teaching men how to get sex.   No matter how they frame it that’s what they are doing. Now many claim to have watched actual players, and lately pimps to gain their knowledge.   There’s a problem with this which will explain why so many men feel scammed after sitting in expensive seminars.   See many men, and some women, will consider a man a player if they see him talking to or dating a lot of women.   A man who talks to or even dates many women isn’t necessarily getting a lot of sex.   The reality is that some men have a lot of women who will speak to them and many women will go on a date with a man but not sleep with him. A game many women run is going on a nice date with a man, even giving him a good night kiss.   The man goes home thinking he’ll get sex after more dates.   When the women goes in the house she texts a Male Freak and he comes over later to pin her legs by her ears.

            The issue with following pimps is that the pimp’s knowledge is really confined to getting a woman to have sex with other men and then bring the money back to him.   Prostitutes have a very DIFFERENT mentality than the average square woman on the street.   A pimp’s knowledge will help a man POSSIBLY get a hoe.   It’s useless for getting the average woman.   See the pimp is good at spotting a hoe. Even when a pimp turns out a woman he is only bringing her true nature to the surface.   No pimp could turn out a square woman.   Indeed a true pimp wouldn’t make the effort.   To me personally it’s silly to apply pimp tactics to regular relationships.   Men who try anyway come off as clowns.   Plus as I said in a previous blog the books by and about pimps are only the tip of the iceberg.

            The Male Freak, knows not only how to sexually satisfy women but how to truly sexually seduce women.   They see what other people don’t see. I’ve known some drug users in my day.   One in particular said something I will always remember. He said that he can go anywhere in the country and find the drugs.   He explained that he knows what to look for and where to look.   He said there were certain signals a person gives off when they are drug users.   The Male Freak is the same way.   They can see signs in a woman which gives indications of her sexual nature. They can see her sexual face.   Once they see her face they can exploit it for their own purposes. This brings me to yet another point. Male Freaks aren’t as picky as the average man.

            Most men, especially men who sit in dating seminars are concerned with getting the most physically attractive women.   Men aren’t paying several thousand dollars to get the average woman.   Men want the Nine and the Tens.   The thing though is that the overwhelming majority of women are not Nines and Tens. Indeed most Nines and Tens drop to Sixes and Sevens without the makeup, pushup bras, and tight clothing.    Many average women out there are horny. So at the club while the majority of the men are scheming to get at the most attractive women, the Male Freak is dancing with the slightly pudgy Plain Jane.   Most of the men will leave the club with nothing, the Male Freak will leave with several numbers including one from the same attractive woman all the other man wanted.

            Very attractive women want good sex and will look at a man and think, “I bet he can fuck.”

            The Male Freak is open for women period.   He will have sex with the slim petite woman on Monday and the BBW on Wednesday. Now many men will not want the BBW and that’s cool. The very nature of the Male Freak is that he is turned on easily by most women.    A reality is that the overwhelming majority of men are sexually repressed.   The Male Freak is simply not repressed.   When a man is turned on like that he starts to develop ways to fulfill that sexual need. He figures out which women are likely to have sex with him and what he needs to do to make that happen.   He takes an effort to satisfy women so he can keep his needs fulfilled.

            Now someone may ask why I write about Male Freaks.   I find them fascinating.   If you think about it billions of dollars are spent by men globally for the express purpose of getting sex.   This is through dating, seminars on how to get sex, or simply paying for prostitutes.   Yet there is a small population of men who get sex easily without spending a dime.   Many even get paid as Gigolos and male Strippers are basically Male Freaks.   Now let me give you a powerful secret which I never shared. I have said that my books represent the viewpoint of a Mr. Goodbar.   They do but a certain type of Goodbar. I learned much of the sex game from women, mainly freaks and hoes. The useful stuff I learned from men came from Male Freaks.

            Oh and once again I gave a major technique for getting sex from a woman.   Hit up my contact form here if you think you know what it is.   I never said I didn’t know game I just said I wouldn’t teach it but sometimes I can’t help but share some things while getting a point out.

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Victory Has Defeated Women

Goodbar Land

August 10th, 2014

The Male Freak

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