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2014 Blog of the Year: Do The Work!!!

12/28/2014

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                So we've come to the end of 2014.  It's been a powerful year.  I want to thank all the people who have supported me on this journey.   In 2015 we will continue to rise and transform.   The following blog was originally posted on April 6, 2014.    It really sets the tone of the Nice Guys and Players Philosophy.   Enjoy and have a happy new year.

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            A few weeks ago I was driving to the mall with my sons and my cell phone started blowing up with texts.    Since I’m a responsible driver I didn’t look at the texts until I got to the mall and parked my car.   It was about 9 texts from a good friend I’ll call Roger (not his real name).   The texts were about some incidents that happened the day before.   To sum it up Roger had encounters with 6 or 7 women not including his actual girlfriend.   None of these incidents were platonic in nature.  I’ll let your imagination take over from there.    Now in the years I’ve known Roger he’s not the type to make things up.   He’s not one of those cats who will lie on his dick.   

            Now it makes sense that women find Roger attractive.    Men have jealously commented on his looks calling him a “Pretty Ricky.”  Plus he works out religiously.  On top of that he’s a poet/rapper with a pretty good video out.   He also has a strong sales background so he’s not shy about approaching people in general and women in particular.   This wasn’t always the case.

            As a teenager and young adult Roger was a very skinny and shy.   Women weren’t checking for him.   Roger was a frustrated young man.   Instead of going on the internet and complaining about “women wanting bad boys” and whining with other similar men, Roger decided to change his life.   He started first with his shyness.   Roger got involved in sales to specifically address his shyness.   As someone with a sales background myself I can tell you the sales profession cures anyone of shyness.   To succeed you not only have to be comfortable talking with different types of people but you have to become comfortable with rejection.   Even a master salesman will get rejected.   What the master salesman does, however, is not let the rejection bother him.  He learns from the rejection.  

            A few years after getting into sales Roger discovered my books, “Nice Guys and Players," and "Sexual Chemistry.”   My books put an emphasis on developing alpha male qualities.   Under my tutelage as well as Tantra masters Yao Nyamekye Morris and  Shantam Nityama,  Roger grew from a man who was too shy to talk to women to a man who has women routinely throwing the pussy at him.   I’m not exaggerating.   When women are sexually turned on by a man they become very aggressive.  Ask me how I know.

            The takeaway from this story is that Roger DID THE WORK!!!   The internet is full of websites, blogs, and videos of men who have trouble connecting with women on any level.   The one theme connecting all of this is that women don’t want nice guys, beta males, omega males, etc.   Now a man when faced with a problem can do one of two things.  He can complain with other similarly situated men.   What they are doing is sharing the problem and blaming everything and everyone instead of doing the one thing they need to do:  change the man in the mirror.

            Other men when confronted with the same issue will look in the mirror and make the changes.   A male becomes a man when he takes responsibility for his own life.   A real man will look at his circumstances and instead of blaming everybody else will say, “Things are going to be different.”  A man can only control one thing in his life: himself.   A man has to DO THE WORK!!!   Let me share a story from my past.

            I’m a person who can put on weight easily if I don’t consciously make an effort to work out. Back in the late eighties I was in one of my overweight periods.   I came to a defining moment in my life one evening.   There was a Prince concert.  I took as my date a hot Italian friend of mine I’ll call Maria.  Now me and Maria weren’t quite platonic as we had made out before and grinded at a party.   We had not had intercourse either.   For this concert Maria had on a full body cat suit and some heels.   Damn she was hot and sexy.   So we had a good time at the concert and I was thinking since we had kissed before she would want to have sex.   When I brought it up she told me straight up she didn’t want to because I was so big.   My response was, “okay.”   See most men would be pissed and entitled if they had paid for the date.  One thing about me is that I always learn from rejection and I would rather deal with an honest woman than one trying play me.   

            After that incident I started running to lose weight.   I vowed never to be that close to a woman that hot and sexy and lose out because of my weight which was something I could control.   Now I never did get with Maria sexually but after losing about 30 pounds three equally hot and sexy women sucked my dick within weeks of each other.  Two of these women had previously friendzoned me. The reason was that I DID THE WORK!!!

            Complaining about women and their dating choices doesn’t do any good.   I personally don’t see women changing their criteria because men are complaining on the blogs and videos.   In fact, women tell men what they want by their actions.  Women in general go for assertive men with nice bodies.   Even though women choose the men, men are still expected to approach.    When women choose they choose by being receptive to the man.  The man still has to have the balls to take the initiative.   If a man is shy he needs to do whatever it takes to get over that shyness.   Roger did so by getting into sales.   Another man may do so by speaking to random women throughout his day.   DO THE WORK!!!

            Most men are rejected by women because the women are not PHYSICALLY attracted to them.   Forget all that nonsense in the media about a woman not caring about looks.   A man’s looks includes his body build.   Women are turned on by a man’s body period.   I’ve known male exotic dancers who pull out wads of cash like they’re drug dealers.   There’s always discussions on the internet and in the real world about why women like “Bad Boys.”   People make the mistake of focusing on the personality traits of these men.   The personality traits are virtually irrelevant with the exception of being assertive.   I have had honest conversations with a few thousand women about their preferences in men.   Regardless of the personality traits they desired which was across the board, the women all expressed a preference for a body type.   Most women prefer men with athletic builds.  Not big and bulky like a professional body builder but not quite slim like a basketball player.   There are women, however, who prefer big and bulky, and those who prefer slim.    The bottom line is that women have a body preference.   When men wonder why a woman likes a particular bad boy, I would say ask the woman what she likes in a man physically.   A church going man with the same body type would at least get a look from the woman.   The physical piece is important because a woman has to be sexually attracted to a man.   Contrary to popular sentiment women are as visual as men.   A gym membership will at a minimum draw more attention from women.  The key is that the man has to DO THE WORK!!!

            Ultimately a man has to make a choice.  Does he continue to be lonely and sexually frustrated and blame the world?  Does he do the work to be surrounded by sexy women and have a fulfilling sex life?  

            The real man chooses the second option.  He will DO THE WORK!!!

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