Rom Wills, Author
  • Home
  • All about Rom
  • Podcasts
  • Game Kings Documentary
  • I'm Not Playing
  • Signed Book
  • Rom's Booklist
  • Nice Guys and Players University
  • A Player's Eyes
  • Nice Guys and Players
  • Sexual Chemistry
  • Meeting Attractive Women
  • Those Eyes
  • Something For The Ladies
  • Starting From Zero
  • The Sankofans
  • Videos
  • Nice Guys and Players Network
  • Favorite Links
  • Contact Rom
  • Donate

A Player's Eyes Excerpt: Why Smart Women Get Played

10/4/2015

2 Comments

 
            The following excerpt is from my upcoming book, "A Player's Eyes."   In this excerpt I explain the real reason women, particularly smart and educated women, fall prey to Players and Bad Boys.

***************************

         ​The reason women get played is not because they lack common sense, love thugs, or have a sign on their foreheads that says, “Victim.”  The reason women get played is because of their egos.   The women who get played the most are the ones who think they are the bomb.  Even though all women can and do get played there is one type that gets played the most.   I will call that woman the Smart Woman.   The Smart Woman is usually educated.  If she isn’t educated she may have had enough intelligence to work her way up to a high paying job.   The Smart Woman has money.  She has a home and material goods.   As far as physical appearance she will be somewhere between decent looking to slightly above average.   She’s definitely not ugly but no one will mistake her for a Dime.   From most men’s point of view the Smart Woman will be considered girlfriend or wife material.   Now here’s where it gets interesting.   I said “most men’s point of view.”   The men who will indeed have a high regard for the Smart Woman will be the same men that most women see as non-select.  

            As I said Smart Women think they are the bomb.   Non-Select men agree with them.   The Good Guys who are realistic see these women as perfect compliments.   No these women aren’t Dimes but to the Good Guys who like them, they are.   They want a good moral woman to come home to and that’s what the Smart Woman looks like.  Many Good Guys want to build with these women.   The problem is that the Good Guys aren’t good enough for the Smart Woman.   Smart Women don’t see good men they can build a family with.   Smart Women see men who are too short, too slim, too fat, and not handsome enough.   They don’t see a man who has worked hard to get where he is.   They see a man who is not making enough money, who may not have finished college, who is blue collar, and who lives in a modest apartment instead of a big townhouse.  The Good Guys don’t have what the Smart Women want.  

            The Smart Women want Mr. Goodbar and the Masked Man.  They want the man who can make them scream.  It’s more than that though.   They want the top men period.   Women are very competitive with each other.   They want the man that other women want.   They want to be able to say they got THE ONE!   This is a key aspect of a woman’s game.   Some women are realistic enough to be happy for what they can actually get.   Dude may be short and pudgy but he loves them and will always do right by them.  That ain’t good enough for the Smart Woman.   She wants that tall, handsome, built man with degrees and money.   Some will even reject Goodbar if he isn’t classically handsome or broke.    Here’s the funny thing.   In my opinion there’s nothing wrong with a woman going for the top man.   Go for it girl!  Get yo man!   The problem that pops up is that the top men don’t see the Smart Women in the same light.

            There was a Masked Man I knew years ago.   He said something that summed up what I heard other Masked Men say over the years in one way or the other.   He mocked Smart Women by saying, “I’m educated.  I have a house and car.  I keep my hair fixed and wear nice clothes.  I’m 250 lbs.  I can’t figure out why men don’t want me.”   Men in general don’t care about woman’s accomplishments and material possessions.   The few that do usually do so because they may be in a social circle where being with a person who projects a certain image is important.  Usually in upper middle class social groups.  In general that shit don’t matter or is at least not the first thing men notice.   When men talk with other men about a woman they just met they don’t talk about her degree, her profession, or her big house.   They say she pretty with a phat ass.  To Select Men most Smart Women are average at best.   When a man doesn’t see a woman as a Dime he will not give her his best.  This is especially the case if he has numerous women to choose from.   Each sub-category of the Select will respond to Smart Women in interesting ways.

            Mr. Goodbar sees most women as sex partners.   For the most part the Goodbars are the ones stroking the Dimes.   Smart Women usually don’t appear on a Goodbar’s radar.  When they do the Smart Woman is usually nothing more than physical gratification.   Even then she probably had to work hard and spend money to get Goodbar’s attention.  At some point the Smart Woman’s emotions become involved and she falls in love with Goodbar.   Goodbar on the other hand just likes her doggy style.   At some point the Smart Woman becomes a burden and Goodbar moves on.   He usually has other women anyway.   Now of course the Smart Woman feels that Goodbar took advantage of her.  She forgets that she chased him and not the other way around.   She really played herself.

            Now the Masked Man is a completely different story.   A Goodbar may not set out to intentionally dog a woman.  The Masked Man may make it his life mission to do so.   Now this isn’t all Masked Men yet there a sizable number who will intentionally hurt a woman emotionally.  The Masked Man didn’t start out as Select.   He had to work to get there.  Physically he had to hit the gym hard.   He had to build his body, he had to work on his grooming, his dental work, and his clothing style.   That’s just the physical piece.   He also had to go through college and maybe graduate school.   For the few blue collar Masked Men they had to put in long hours to learn and master their craft.   The Masked Man had to pay some dues.   The issue is that while they were paying their dues they had very little female companionship.   When these men were Non-Select they got rejected for numerous reasons.   I knew this dude who eventually became a high paid attorney.   He said while he was in school women rejected him because he didn’t have money to spend on them.   Never mind he was in school to become an attorney.   I’ve heard plenty of stories like that.  The irony is that once many of these men started making money the same women that rejected them would get real friendly saying something like, “I knew you were going places.  I always thought you were fine.”   Really?  What happens is the Masked Man has had years to build up some resentment.   There’s another dynamic with this.

            When the Masked Man was just a Good Guy he wanted the Smart Woman.   She just didn’t want him back.   Once he crosses the boundary into the Select World that Smart Woman doesn’t look as good to him anymore.   This is even in situations where her physical appearance hasn’t faded.   The Masked Man got his money right, his house and car are big, his body is muscular and he can wear expensive tailor made suits.   Dude wants a Dime to complete the picture.   He’ll be cool as long as he dealing with a Dime.   When he deals with a Smart Woman he will treat her in an inferior way.   All this pain and frustration he has carried for years will be taken out on a Smart Woman even though she may genuinely be attracted to him.  

            Years ago I did a radio show where I talked specifically about men who dog women.  I told the beautiful host that the biggest and most dangerous dogs are not trying to talk to women in the streets.   The biggest dogs aren’t some men with their pants hanging off their ass.   The most doggish men, the ones who make it their life mission to hurt women, are often the ones who are professionals with corporate jobs.   It’s all part of a vicious cycle.   Smart Women think they should get the top men and reject men who aren’t there.  When those men get to the top they reject those same women that rejected them.  

            I had to speak on this.   I’ve heard so many women complain about not finding a good man but it’s always their egos that get in the way.   A woman can have five Good Guys chasing her but because she thinks she’s the woman she wants Mr. Goodbar or the Masked Man.  Then she will have the nerve to complain that there is a “shortage of good man.”   She get out her ego and humble herself she will see that there are several men for her to choose from.   Her ego though makes her chase that man who may dog her.   Many men are told to stay in their lanes when looking for mates.   That good piece of advice works both ways.
 

2 Comments
mrgoodbar
10/5/2015 10:22:46 am

whats a good way to to describe mr goodbar in one sentence? and how do you know if you're a mr goodbar?

Reply
Rom
10/5/2015 02:14:47 pm

Mr. Goodbar is a man women find sexually desirable. A man knows he's Mr. Goodbar if women consistently make sexual advances towards him. Some Goodbars may even have women tell him they want to have sex with him. Mr. Goodbars rarely approach women. They are the type of men who get catcalls from women walking down the street.

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Archives

    January 2023
    December 2022
    November 2022
    October 2022
    September 2022
    August 2022
    July 2022
    June 2022
    May 2022
    April 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    January 2022
    December 2021
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    August 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    November 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    November 2013
    October 2013

    Categories

    All
    50 Cent
    90 Day Rule
    9-5
    9 - 5 Job
    Abundance Mindset
    Acculturated Prostitution
    Adinkra
    Adonis
    African American
    AKAs
    Aliens
    Allah
    Alonzo Harris
    Alpha Fux
    Alpha Hunk
    Alpha Males
    Amanmere
    Amazons
    Amish
    Anacostia
    Andrew Carnegie
    Animal Rights
    Apex Predator
    A Player's Eyes
    Apollo 13
    Arousal
    Attractive Women
    Aura
    Ausar Auset Society
    Author
    Average Joe
    Bad Bitches
    Bad Boys
    Bane
    Bangers
    Barbershop
    Barbie
    Barry White
    BBC
    BDSM
    Beautiful Men
    Beautiful Women
    Beauty Industry
    Best Self
    Beta Bux
    Beta Males
    Bible
    Big Handsome Men
    Billy Dee Williams
    Bimbo
    Bi Polar
    Bitter Men
    Black America
    Black Barbie Dolls
    Black Christian
    Black Elite
    Black Men
    Black Professionals
    Black Relationships
    Black Subcultures
    Black Women
    Blame Game
    Blessing
    BMW - Black Man Wokring
    Bodybuilding
    Bodymen
    Body Positivity
    Book Publishing
    Bookstore
    Boris Kudjoe
    Bourgie
    Boyfriend
    Boyfriends
    Brazil
    Buddy
    Buffalo Wings
    Bullying
    Buppie
    Butch Lesbians
    Buttaface
    Cable Box
    Cable TV
    Captain Sav'em
    Caretakers
    Carnal
    Cells
    Champion Road Arena
    Cheating Women
    Chick Magnet
    Chocolate City
    Christian
    Christmas
    Chubby Chasers
    Clark Kent
    Clowns
    Coaching
    Coffee Shop
    Coffer Shop
    College Basketball
    Cologne
    Col. Sanders
    Comic Books
    Complusion
    Conscious Brothas
    Content Creators
    Cool Dudes
    Counterfeit Persona
    Coyote
    Craft
    Creep
    Cuddling
    CW Network
    Danish Women
    Dark Girls
    Dating
    Dating Coach
    Day Job
    Deltas
    Demographics
    Demon Lovers
    Denver Broncos
    Denzel Washington
    Depression
    Destiny
    Dexter
    Dexter Goodbar
    Dick
    Dimes
    Divine Man
    Domestic Violence
    Dominatrix
    Dominican Republic
    Dominic Republic
    Donald Trump
    Do Right Man
    Do Right Men
    Eagle
    Earl Nightingale
    Early Christianity
    Earned Income Credit
    Easter
    E-books
    Educated Black Men
    Education
    Edutainment
    Ego
    Elites
    Energy Drink
    Entitlement
    Entrepreneur
    Esoteric
    Evolution
    Exercise
    Expo
    Failure
    Faith
    False Beliefs
    Fashion Industry
    Fasting
    Fathers
    Father's Day
    Federal Law Enforcement
    Feminism
    Feminist Porn
    Feminists
    Feng Shui
    Fetish
    Filet Mignon
    Fine Men
    Fitness
    Fix My Life
    Food Services
    Foshoenergywork.com
    Four Weddings
    Franchise
    Freak
    Friday Night Tykes
    Friend Zone
    Game
    Gamesman
    Gamesmen
    Games Women Play
    General Patton
    Genetically Modified
    Genetic Alpha Male
    Genetic Beta Male
    George Subira
    Gifted
    Gifts
    Gigolo
    Global Domination
    Goal Setting
    God
    God Hand
    Gold Diggers
    Golden Rule
    Goodbar Clans
    Good Black Men
    Good Girls
    Good Girls And Bad Boys
    Good Goody Girl
    Good Guys
    Good Looking Men
    Good Men
    Government Job
    Gratitude
    Grown Women
    Gye Nyame
    Gym
    Gym Sales
    Healer
    Healing
    Health
    Health Club
    Heart
    Heru
    Himbo
    Holiday Season
    Holistic Living
    Holy Men
    Honesty
    Honeymooners
    Hot Women
    House Of The Man
    Humility
    Hunter
    Husband
    Husbands
    Huslter
    Hustler
    Hyper Capitalism
    Hypergamy
    Icon
    Idris Elba
    Illuminati
    Imhotep
    Incels
    Independent Women
    Inferior Man
    Infidelity
    Intellectual
    Internet Radio
    Invisible Men
    Involuntary Celibacy
    IQ
    Iwa Pele
    Iyanla Vanzant
    Jamaican Restaurant
    Jay Williams
    Jazz
    Jeremy-meeks
    Jesus
    Jewelry Store
    Joe Thomas Sr.
    Joy
    Jr.
    Jujumama
    Kemetic
    Kentucky
    Kentucky Fried Chicken
    Kenya K. Stevens
    Knowledge
    Kwanza
    L.A. Banks
    LaCoste
    Ladies' Man
    Lames
    Leslie Ersdaile Banks
    LGBT
    Life Coach
    Life Purpose
    Little Black Book
    Little Girls
    Loneliness
    Lookers
    Looks
    Lothario
    Lottery Mentality
    Loverman
    Lover Of Many Women
    Macks
    Magic Mike
    Male Dating Advice Industry
    Male Exotic Dancers
    Male-freaks
    Male Model
    Male Strippers
    Mandingo
    Marine
    Marriage Counselor
    Masculine Self Development
    Masked Man
    Masked Men
    Massage
    Maury Show
    Media
    Medicine Black Elk
    Meeting Attractive Women
    Meeting Beautiful Women
    Men's Clothing Store
    Mental Health
    Mentors
    Merchandizer
    Mesomorph
    Metaphysical
    Metu Neter
    Michael Baisden
    MLM
    Moment Of Clarity
    Monetize
    Money Management
    Money Men
    Moses
    Motivation
    Movie Scripts
    Mr. Goodbar
    Mr. Right
    Muhammed
    Muslim
    Napoleon Hill
    NASA
    Natural Blueprint
    Natural Hair Show
    Negro Bed Wenches
    Netflix And Chill
    New England Patriots
    New Year's Eve
    New Year's Resolution
    Nice Guys
    Nice-guys
    Nice Guys And Players
    Non-Select Men
    Nursing Home
    Okomfo Anokye
    Oldest College Football Player
    Olympian
    Omari Hardwick
    Omar-little
    Paper Route
    Parable Of The Talents
    Passion
    Paternity-testing
    Patriarchy
    Peacocking
    Pennsylvania Dutch
    Personality Disorder
    Phobias
    Pickup Artist
    Pimp
    Plain Jane
    Plain-jane
    Players
    Playstation
    Polo
    Polyamorous
    Polyarmory
    Poon Hound
    Popeye
    Porsche
    Post Office
    Poverty Mindset
    Power
    Power Compeny
    Power TV Show
    Pretty Boys
    Pretty-boys
    Pretty-ricky
    Pretty-ricky
    Print On Demand
    Prison Body
    PUA
    Public Access
    Pusherman
    Queen Of Spades
    Racism
    Rasta
    Raw Game
    RBG
    Real Man
    Red Pill
    Relationship Experts
    Relationships
    Relationship Seminars
    Religion
    Resilience
    Responsible Men
    Restaurant
    Reverent Intelligentsians
    Revolution
    Rico Suave
    Right Attitude
    Rites Of Passage
    Rocks
    Romance
    Romance Novels
    Romantic Intoxication
    Romantic-intoxication
    Rom Wills
    Rom-wills
    Running A Train
    Russell Price
    Russians
    Sales
    Sales Commission
    Salesmen
    Samurai
    Scandinavian Women
    Schizophrenia
    School Shootings
    Sea Turtle
    Seduction
    Select Men
    Self Love.
    Sellout
    Seminars
    Senior Services
    Sensual Bohemian
    Sensual Bohemians
    Sex
    Sex Abuse
    Sex Addiction
    Sex Tourism
    Sexual Charisma
    Sexual Chemistry
    Sexual-chemistry
    Sexuality
    Sexual Magnetism
    Sexual-presence
    Sexual-presence
    Sexual Shadow World
    Sexual Subculture
    Sex With Students
    Sexy Woman
    Sexy Women
    Shallow Hal
    Shamans
    Shaming Tactics
    Shango
    Shantam-nityama
    Shophar
    Short Story
    Side Hustle
    Side Job
    Simps
    Singer
    Skits
    Slayers
    Smartphones
    Smart Phones
    Smart Women
    Smith Machine
    Social Class
    Social-intelligence
    Solitude
    Solstice
    Spiraling
    Spirit Of Man
    Spiritual Development
    Spiritual Path
    Spring Cleaning
    Starbucks
    Starting-from-zero
    Star Trek
    Star Wars
    Steriods
    Steve Harvey
    Steve-walters
    Street Cats
    Street Game
    Street Harassment
    Street-soldier
    Style Consultant
    Subcultures
    Success
    Successful Men
    Sugar Babies
    Sugar Daddy
    Sunday Morning Podcast
    Sunday Morning Simulcast With Rom Wills
    Superior Man
    Swag
    Swag-cats
    Swingers
    Talent
    Talent Agent
    Tantra
    Tantra-brothas
    Tattoos
    Tax Refund
    Teddy Bears
    Teen Club
    Thanos
    The Bible
    The Force
    The House Of The Man
    The Perfect Man
    Therapy
    The Right Man
    The Sun
    The Universe
    The Wolf
    Think And Grow Rich
    Third Eye
    Thirsty
    Thoroughs
    Thot
    Thots
    Thugs
    Tiara Harris
    Tipping
    Tithe
    Tom Brady
    Touch Football
    Toxic People
    Trades
    Training Day
    Trends
    Trophy Women
    Tyler Perry
    Tyra Banks
    Uber
    Upstream
    Validation
    Vampire Huntress Legend
    Vampire Huntress Legends
    Vampires
    Vasectomy
    Vegan
    Vending
    Video Games
    Visualization
    Vitality
    Wall Street Traders
    Warren Moon
    Warrior
    #wastehistime2016
    Wealth
    Webinar
    White Knight
    Why Men Become Dogs
    Winston Churchill
    Wisdom
    Womanizers
    Women
    Workshops
    Writing
    X-Files
    Yao Nyamekye Morris

    RSS Feed

Copyright 2023 (c) Romuald P. Wills