See the mask is not about a man putting on a façade so much. It’s more about what the WOMAN sees when she looks at the man. The woman doesn’t see pretty eyes, a flat stomach and a big package when she looks at a Masked Man. Even if the Masked Man has these things, which many do, women don’t see raw sex appeal when they look at this class of men. Women will look at the Masked Man and see that he has a nice suit on which means he may be a professional. They see that he is driving a late model car which means he has some money. They see that he speaks and carries himself a certain way which means he may have some status. Masked Men are what women look for when they get tired of dealing with Mr. Goodbar.
Most women see Mr. Goodbar as good for sex and nothing more. Women chase Mr. Goodbar from their teenaged years to maybe their early thirties. A few women never really stop chasing Mr. Goodbar like these women in their fifties who blatantly flirt with young boys thinking they’re still sexy. As an aside these older women aren’t sexy to these young boys, just easy. I may do a future blog on that subject but I digress.
Women with a little bit of sense eventually outgrow Goodbars. Six pack abs don’t mean anything when the bills become due. Multiple orgasms are one thing but when the car breaks down and the repairs cost over a thousand dollars that good dick isn’t helpful to the average woman. After they come down from that orgasmic high the car still needs to be repaired. Goodbar may not be able to help even if he wants to. Many Goodbars don’t have much going for them outside of sex appeal. Many are living with their mamas or being sponsored by some older woman. Many can’t keep steady jobs because they are going in and out of so many women that their work experience doesn’t go beyond minimum wage jobs. The more thuggish Goodbars may have money from illegal hustles but despite what many people think most street hustlers don’t make that much money. The reality is that someone working at a burger joint makes more money than the average street cat. My point in all this is to say that Mr. Goodbar is more a romantic dream but then that alarm clock goes off and the woman has to deal with real life. That’s when the Masked Man becomes more attractive.
So women start looking for that educated professional or in the case of lower social classes that blue collar cat that looks like he is making money. Women in general after they go through their Goodbar phase start looking for a successful man with money. Some women will say they are looking for someone “with benefits.” In the Black community in particular someone may say they are looking for a “BMW,” – a “Black Man Working.” I’m not sure about an equivalent term in other communities though the Masked Man thing is prevalent wherever western culture is practiced. Indeed in the white community the line between Goodbar and the Masked Man is EXTREMELY blurred. Now that’s a topic I would have to get into some deep metaphysical knowledge to fully explain. A few African and Native American Shamans know the great secrets though. I won’t share it here. Y’all not ready.
Back on topic, the Masked Man becomes most desirable to women when they want a more stable and grown up relationship. They want a stable home life and someone who can provide the resources for that home life. The women have that biological clock ticking and will want a responsible successful man to be the father. Some women may already have children and want a responsible, successful man to be the stepfather. A game some women will run is to get pregnant by Goodbar and then try to act like the Masked Man is the father. In my opinion that’s why paternity testing should be mandatory. For this reason many very successful men will get vasectomies.
So you get the idea that women go for Masked Men for their money and status. Funny thing is that women in private, in the media, and in public forums, will loudly proclaim they want these men. Indeed on social media there will be memes designed to shame Masked Men into wanting a woman regardless of her physical appearance and emotional baggage. In many ways and situations a woman will get angrier with a Masked Man for rejecting her than Mr. Goodbar. The average woman doesn’t have any expectations from Goodbar beyond good sex. They are looking at the Masked Man, however, as that good catch. He’s the good man they are speaking of when they say there is a shortage. The Masked Man is marriage material. A woman’s biggest problem with the Masked Man is that he is not cooperating with her expectations. In my observation a woman is more likely to get dogged by a Masked Man than by Mr. Goodbar. Let’s get into why I have this observation. I’ll need some help with this one, so I’ll turn to Eric Money. I introduced the character of Eric Money in some previous blogs as a successful man. I didn’t really get into his backstory though.
Eric Money as a teenager was skinny and awkward. He wasn’t the most popular boy in the neighborhood or in school. When girls texted each other about cute boys his name didn’t come up. In the locker room after gym class he didn’t have any stories or good lies about the girls he had been with like the jocks and thugs told. Eric was just someone who was very good academically. The teachers and older women in the community saw his value but the girls were more interested in the popular boys. Eric went through his four years in high school without getting so much as a kiss.
Things got a little bit better for Eric in college. He managed to have sex with a couple of Plain Janes but those were flings that didn’t materialize into relationships as the Plain Janes were more interested in Frat Boys and Jocks. They made it very clear to Eric not to get his expectations up. They both said that he’s a “Nice Guy but…” Eventually Eric graduated college and got a well-paying job as a financial advisor. The women were still not feeling him even with the extra money. Many went on dates with him and pretended to like him so he would spend money on them. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when he took a woman on a date and then after the date took her to a house different from where he picked her up. She gave him a kiss on the cheek and went to the house where a buffed man answered the door wearing nothing but shorts. It was a defining moment for Eric. His view of women changed. Eric was at a crossroads and decided to change his life.
So Eric started reading books and blogs about being successful with women. After reading all the information Eric went into a period of transformation. He started hitting the gym to put muscles on his skinny frame. He developed a better understanding of a woman’s inner nature. The most important thing he did though was stay focused on his career and stopped letting basic women interfere with his self-esteem and life goals. Within a period of a few years Eric was able to put on forty pounds of muscle. He upgraded his wardrobe and personal grooming. Eric started to hang out in more affluent circles as he moved into a house in an upper class neighborhood and only drove late model luxury cars. The main thing he did was to begin to hold the women he dealt with to higher standards. Before his transformation Eric had genuine interest in women who rated at best as sixes on the 1 -10 scale. After his transformation he would give barely give women who rated below an eight the time of day. He wouldn’t even look their direction while out and about. Of course as a result of that dynamic more women became interested in him.
Incidentally I just gave away some game.
Eric transformed into a fully realized Masked Man. No he’s not drop dead handsome. Even with the extra muscles he doesn’t have a great body which would cause a woman to want to take off her panties thinking as the meme says, “I won’t be needing these.” What women see is a man whose demeanor and self-confidence communicates the message that “yes I can succeed and provide resources. Yes I would make a stable husband.” The panties will come off for a different reason. Now here’s where it gets interesting with Masked Men. Women are choosing them but the Masked Men are not choosing them back.
Here’s a reality that women need to grasp. Truth be told women tend to get mad when this reality is pointed out to them. Many don’t want to hear it. Too bad. Women need to get their heads out of the sand because what I’m about to share is a very real dynamic. Many women will reject a man for many reasons. Admittedly some reasons are very good but many are frivolous. The rejection itself might not be that bad. It’s part of life. I personally say that a man can learn a lot from a rejection. Rejection helps a man to grow. The problem though is that many women can’t just graciously reject a man in way that leaves his self-esteem intact. Many women will reject a man in a mean-spirited way. Many women will purposely try to hurt a man’s feelings. For what? All he did was find them attractive and work up the courage to approach them. A woman doesn’t have to want a particular man but don’t make him feel bad that he isn’t tall with a six-pack and pretty eyes. Yet many women have no problem rejecting a man harshly. Too bad many women don’t understand a simple universal principle: What goes around comes around.
When men are rejected they may get out of a particular woman’s face but they don’t really go away. Some men learn how to game women and become straight up dogs. They learn to treat women in a poor way. A woman may reject a particular man and that man turns around and dogs another woman. Some degenerate men may dog that woman’s teenaged daughter even though he’s forty. In the case of the Masked Men he never forgets what made him into what he is.
Here’s a very common scenario that virtually every Masked Man has shared with me. Even a few Goodbars have talked about this as well. Here’s the scenario. When a woman is young, pretty and sexy she will reject a particular man who wanted her badly. The man is typically put in the friend zone so it’s not a case of a man randomly approaching a sexy woman on the street. The young sexy woman knows the man very well. She even likes the man to some extent but for a number of reasons does not want a relationship with him. Even Goodbars will experience this with at least one woman. Rejections like this hurt the man more than a rejection by a random woman on the street. At some point the man moves on to more receptive women. The sexy woman and the man typically fall out of contact with one another.
Now a few years later that woman runs into the man she once friend zoned. The man is now more muscular and confident. He’s a successful Masked Man, well dressed and moving through the world with authority. The woman on the other hand has put on some pounds and has taken some emotional hits from dealing with a few Goodbars and maybe a Demon Lover. She also has a child from one of the Goodbars who refuses to acknowledge the child. She’s struggling in life and she sees this man who always adored her and waited for a long time for her to return his feelings. At that point she finds this man she had friend zoned as VERY attractive. She starts flirting and the nicer Masked Man may let her down easy.
The meaner ones will say, “Get the fuck outta here with that bullshit.”
Once a man gets to a point where he is suddenly desirable after many years of being seen as undesirable he doesn’t all of sudden want the women who rejected him when he was younger. That may work in a romantic comedy and a novel. In real life it doesn’t fly. Now a few Masked Men may have sex with the women who once rejected them in order to dog them out but most will simply not want to be bothered.
There’s more to be said about the Masked Man. We’re talking about complex individuals. I mean women find them attractive for their material possessions and their status but what about the man underneath the mask. Also a reality is that beyond sex a Masked Man really doesn’t have a need for women. I’ll get into all that my next blog.