A foundation of my relationship books is the different categories of men. What is interesting about these different categories is that they represent actual personality structures that have developed in this culture. The development is the combination of nature and nurture. Most men in the Mr. Goodbar category have good genetics. Most have symmetrical and muscular body builds which naturally arouse women. Women will naturally choose them. Whether or not they take advantage of the good genetics is a matter of nurture. A boy with good genetics growing up in a low income, crime ridden neighborhood is likely to grow up to be Mr. Goodbar. A boy with the same good genetics who grows up in an upper class gated community is likely to be a Masked Man.
That’s some raw game there that I don’t give away for free. The member’s only site is coming soon.
Getting back to the different websites I lurk on I have found some rather interesting dynamics with regard to men in particular. I check out some women’s web spots as well when I can find them. Women as a group tend to keep their real juicy conversations away from prying eyes. Women are real good at hiding their sexual faces despite what many men think. How to read those sexual faces will be something else for the member’s only site. Men though, we put it out there. Most men tell everything whether it’s true or not. I find the different worlds of men to be interesting in regard to how they interact with women. I’ll share examples of some of these worlds. I won’t give websites because none of these dudes are paying me to advertise for them. I’ll use colorful nicknames.
There one site I lurk on I’ll call “Incel World.” Incel refers to “involuntarily celibacy.” These are men who go long periods of time without sex. From how they describe themselves they are not the most handsome or muscular men. A belief in this community is that only the most handsome and robust men who they refer to as “slayers” get the lion’s share of sex from attractive women. I emphasize attractive women because many Incels are only attracted to the most physically beautiful women and they have little to no interest in the average and ugly women who are more in their league. These men spend an inordinate amount of time judging each other’s looks as well as the looks of “male models.” This community is based on the primacy of looks, status, and money. Intangibles such as personality and charisma are outside of belief system of this community.
Another site I check out every now and then is what I call “Scuzzy Playa World.” This community is about that game. These are lower end Gamesmen. These men are about getting the pussy by any means necessary. It doesn’t really matter the quality of women either. The men in this community idolize attractive women like most normal men but are not above sex with any female with a pulse. From how these men talk I really don’t think most of them would pass up a drunk, average looking, overweight young woman who was on the autism spectrum. Most people have met that one man who will stick his dick in anything female. The “Scuzzy Playa World” is a whole community of such men.
Several websites make up what I call the “Bitter Man Nation.” These websites, blogs, and pages on social media are filled with men who spend their time bashing women. These are typically men who are in the Nice Guy category who have started to act out after being constantly rejected not only by attractive women but average ones as well. These men didn’t start off bashing women. Indeed as a group these men at one time put women on pedestals. That is until they’ve been friendzoned for the umpteenth time. Another scenario is when they find out their prudish girlfriend who is making them wait for sex is doing the freaky-freaky with the local meth dealer. At some point they snap. Constant rejection can literally kill somebody. Most male suicide is because of rejection. The bitter men instead of slowly killing themselves have decided to strike back viciously.
One website I check out I’ll call the “Better Man World.” These men as a group are generally positive towards women. In this community these men are dedicated to improving themselves not just for women but for themselves in general. The men in this community are likely to talk about business and making money as they are about women. They recognize that everything is connected. These are not men who were blessed with great genetics. These are average dudes who know they need to improve their bodies, work on their social skills, and make more money. A key word used in this community is “upgrade.” As far as women they idolize the most attractive women but also look for women who have “their minds right.” Men in this community will skip over a woman with the pretty face and phat booty if she brings nothing else to the table.
Now one community I’ll call “Poly World.” This community is UNDERGROUND. A search engine will not find this community. A man has to be INVITED to be a part of this community. The men in this community go beyond what is taught publically as game, dating advice, or seduction. The conversations in this community isn’t about dressing well, working out, or what type of game to run to get a woman. The men in this community are typically involved in relationships with three or more women at any given moment. The conversations in this community focus on how to manage multiple women. The typical complaint in this community is having too many women and dealing with the drama that brings.
Here’s the interesting thing about all of this. The men from these different worlds RARELY interact with each other socially. There are invisible boundaries that separate these worlds. It is in a man’s true nature to set up boundaries. These boundaries range from the personal space of a man to being the citizen of a particular country. When men join with other men they set up a boundary. Boys who live on a particular street will set up a boundary based on that location. They will have loyalty to the boys on that street and see others as outsiders. Street gangs are nothing but boundaries. Many boundaries are set up around religious and political themes. The Samurai were a boundary as were the Nazis as well as ISIS. The boundaries of the communities I just outlined are set up around having the same mindset about relationships with women.
Boundaries like everything in life have good and bad sides depending on the perspective of the men. A boundary can be good if it promotes personal evolution. At the same time it can be bad if it prevents a man from learning something new. Using the above examples I provided the boundaries are preventing many men from growing. A great example is the Incel World and the Poly World. One group of men has trouble getting any woman while the other group has to limit the number of women they are willing to deal with. The Incels could learn a lot from the Polys but the boundaries would prevent this. One issue is just the perspective. It’s hard for two people with two different perspectives to communicate. Two, race would be a boundary since the Incel World is primarily white, and the Poly World is primarily Black. Yet there is something in the Incel perspective that is valuable because looks are a factor in mating decisions. The Poly perspective is valuable for the most part these are average looking men. Yet that conversation isn’t happening.
The Bitter Men could learn a lot from the Better Men. The Better Men have been rejected but instead of becoming mad they were inspired to improve which helps them in life period. Better Men can learn from Bitter Men because Bitter Men do have a tendency to call out negative behavior in women. Yet the boundaries are in place. The groups are not interacting.
One good thing about scuzzy playas is that they are realistic and pragmatic. Many men have problems with women because they are looking for the perfect Tens. Women who would be rated a Ten without the help of makeup, body shaping clothes, and someone good with Photoshop are rare. The average woman in Western society is short and slightly overweight. Most women are average looking. Yet they are still very good women who have a lot to offer a man. With the right makeup and clothes many of these women are very attractive. Many men lose out on these women. The scuzzy playa will talk to that woman even if she is wearing sweats. The scuzzy playa has a lot to teach.
The takeaway I want a man to get from this blog is to go outside your boundaries or better yet expand them. Any man can have several boundaries. “Circles within a circle.” To navigate life a man needs to have knowledge. As a former pimp once said to me a man had to be in the streets. What he meant was that a man needs to know what’s going on in the world. Most men don’t grow because they stay in their little worlds. Personally I know a lot about different things because I’m always exploring to gain knowledge. Knowledge brings me power to move through life with authority.
Fellas, go visit some new worlds.