Anyway I’m going to get into the most important thing a man needs to know about interactions between men and women. Here’s a passage from my book Nice Guys and Players:
One day, a friend of mine I’ll call Jim decided to tell me the secret of his success with women. Jim attracted women like manure attracts flies. Women would quite literally camp out on his front lawn to see him and it wasn’t even his house. He lived with his mother until he got married. Jim wasn’t rich. He didn’t have his own car. Jim would have women chase after him. The irony was you could never call him a player. I have known him since we were ten and I have never heard him use a pickup line with a woman. Not once. My success with women when I was young was never anywhere near his. So one day, after I got him sufficiently drunk, Jim decided to tell me the secret of his success with women. After he told me I asked, “That’s it?” Jim replied, “Yeah, that’s it. Gimme another beer.” Just like that I knew the answer. Of course it took me a couple of years to master the concept, but hopefully it will take you a couple of weeks.
What’s the secret? The secret is simple. Women choose the men. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Well it is simple. Remembering those four words will get you more dating choices than you can handle. Mastering the concept behind those words will save you time, money, and heartbreak. The only time you will be without companionship is when you don’t feel like being bothered. Women, in most cases, know exactly what they want in a man. They don’t always end up with the men they want, but they still know. Women know who can turn them on and who cannot. Many women have told me they can take one look at a man and know whether or not they will date him. If a woman doesn’t choose a man there is nothing he can do to win her heart. All the money, looks, prestige, charm, or power will not change her mind.
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Now I know some cats will read this passage and say “Duh. This is basic stuff. Where is the advanced game where a beautiful woman will fall for me if I give her a few lines?” Actually it’s not basic because the overwhelming majority of men have not mastered the concept behind the statement, “women choose the men.” They think they have but they haven’t. Let me explain why I have come to this conclusion.
Most men will say that women are the ultimate choosers. They will say that women will make the FINAL decision. What most men do is engage in actions to convince a woman to choose them. So, many men chase women, they pursue them on the streets, in the clubs, and like all their photos on social media. Every now and then they will catch the object of their desires. So of course the men think that their “game” got the women. Not really. In most cases the woman had chosen them anyway and allowed the other things to play out. Most women know they will have sex within an hour of meeting a man if he makes their vagina tingle. At the same time most women will not share this information with the men and will sit back and enjoy the perks of dating such as gifts and dinners at seafood restaurants. Another scenario is that many women will allow a man to spend money on her until a man she actually wants comes into the picture.
Now the reality is that most men will do everything in their power to impress a particular woman and still fail miserably. Some men will try to use their money and status. Some men will hit on everything female in their environment. Some men will play the “Good Man” game which is trying to show a woman that they are decent and responsible. More than a few men will play the “Captain Sav’em” game where they rescue a woman financially. Even handsome men will approach women thinking their looks will win the day. All of these men fail miserably and what typically happens they grow increasingly bitter.
I lurk on a lot of forums, blogs, and message boards where men will complain about their lack of success with women. The popular image of men who don’t do well with women are physically ugly men with weird habits who live in their parent’s basements. The reality is that the overwhelming majority of perpetually single men are not basement dwelling, video game playing losers. The majority of men who are constantly single and going through periods of involuntary celibacy are men with their own homes or at least apartments. They have well-paying jobs and they may not rank as a Nine or Ten in the eyes of women but many will still rank as Sixes or Seven. A few such men will rate as Eights. Many such men have better than average body builds. So what’s the problem? They really don’t understand what it means when it is said that “women choose the men.”
Most men have a tendency to chase after and indeed even obsess over women, WHO DO NOT WANT THEM. Men will chase after a woman and when she isn’t interested they will think the woman has a problem or that “she only likes thugs.” No she just isn’t feeling you bruh. It’s nothing wrong. Most men need to let go of that sense of entitlement. A man can be 6’2” with a handsome face, buffed body, and a six figure salary and there are going to be some women who don’t want him. That’s not the game. That’s just life.
See in this culture many men see themselves as the superior sex. As such, many men do not see women as terms of a complimentary partner but rather as a prize to be won. This is where the concept of trophy wives come in. So many men on a subconscious level see getting women as an acquisition that they must pursue. Indeed the men who have withdrawn from chasing women only do so because in their minds they weren’t good at the game. So on a deep level men believe that they can do something to MAKE a woman choose them. Nature doesn’t work like that.
Here’s the Raw Game.
The statement, “women choose the men” means that women make the INITIAL choice of a man. A woman will see a man. She will size him up in the first few minutes and place him in either the Select or Non-Select categories. If she deems him Select he can potentially get the panties. If she deems him Non-Select the best he can get is the friend zone. Let’s be clear, being deemed Select doesn’t mean the man automatically means he gets sex. He is only allowed the CHANCE to get sex. For a numerous reasons the woman may decide she doesn’t want to sleep with the man. Selectmen get friendzoned too. A little known reality is that many women will limit their male friends to only those in Select category. They will have zero dealings with Non-Select Men.
So women make that initial choice. Most women are not going to approach a man. What women will do is put themselves in a position where the man will approach them. The woman’s game is to draw a man’s attention to her. She will look at him, she will smile at him, and she will wear sexy clothing, whatever it takes to attract the man she has chosen. She will play the game of letting him think he’s the one who took the initiative. Naw she’s the fisherman. She may use a net or several fishing lines. If she’s sexy she will catch a lot of men but she will throw back the ones she doesn’t want because they can’t fulfill her needs.
See the true feminine nature is passive. It wants to stay still. The feminine nature is the earth, the ground. It is the block of ice. It’s just there. The feminine nature wants to attract the masculine nature to do for it. It is the earth that wants to be tilled. It is the block of ice that wants to be melted. The feminine needs the masculine to act on it. Women are magnetic and men are electric. A woman is the immovable object that wants to draw the irresistible force of a man. Just not ANY man though. A woman wants to draw a man who can meet HER specific needs. She wants the man who take action on HER behalf.
This is why a man can have everything going for him and still get rejected. Contrary to popular belief all women don’t want a tall man. Some women want a short man, some want a pudgy man. All women have a preference. Quiet as it kept many don’t want a big dick up in them. Many women complain about a big dick hurting their pelvis bones because of the constant pounding. Then again some women need a big dick man. All women don’t want a man with money and status because such men are usually not very attentive to a woman’s needs. Many women would rather deal with a modest income cat who can give them attention. Many women don’t want a good looking man because they don’t to be around a man who looks better than them.
WOMEN CHOOSE MEN ACCORDING TO THEIR NEEDS.
A man does not and cannot know a PARTICULAR woman’s needs. So a man will come at a woman and present what he can do and it’s things she doesn’t need. Of course the man becomes frustrated and feels like the woman has a problem. You can’t force a woman to like or especially need you. The real source of men’s frustration is that despite everything they do women are not choosing them. So we get social media pages bashing women and calling them “thots.” We get men who are withdrawing from the game. We get men who are handsome with money who are still involuntarily celibate. Now let’s look at the other side of the picture. Let’s talk about the men who women routinely choose.
I talk a lot about Mr. Goodbar. I describe him generally as a man with a handsome face, nice body, and cool personality. Many Mr. Goodbars are also known as Bad Boys. The real key to their appeal to women is not their looks or even their personalities whether they are cool people or jerks. The key to Mr. Goodbar is the internalization that “women choose the men.” As a result of that internalization of those four words Mr. Goodbar does not CHASE women. Many men are called Bad Boys not because they are criminals, or engaged in anti-social behavior. One reason they are called Bad Boys is they don’t give a fuck. Think real hard about what I’m about to say.
The men who get the most attention from women, the ones who get the most sex, the ones who have actual harems, DO NOT CHASE women. These men either get approached by women or in most cases women make it extremely easy for Mr. Goodbar to approach them. If you look at a situation with a third eye opened you will see that the women seduced the men and not the other way around. I’m strongly emphasize the next statements.
IF A WOMAN CHOOSES A MAN SHE WILL ACTIVELY TRY TO SEDUCE HIM!!!
IF A WOMAN IS NOT TRYING TO SEDUCE YOU SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU!!!
A MAN DOES NOT NEED TO CHASE RANDOM WOMEN!!!
A MAN ONLY NEEDS TO RECOGNIZE THE WOMEN WHO ARE TRYING TO SEDUCE HIM!!!
A problem is that a lot of men do not want to hear that. They want to go after who they want regardless of whether or not the woman wants him back. So a man will approach 100 women in a month and fail miserably. He then becomes bitter and gets on message boards and social media to complain about women going for thugs or that they are thots. Meanwhile a man may recognize that in a year 30 women have chosen him and out of that 30, 10 of them are worth getting to know and out of that 5 become a part of his harem.
A man who truly understands that “women choose the men” has power. He can CHOOSE who he wants to deal with. A man chasing random women is putting the power in their hands. Most men get played because they are chasing women who do not want them. I cannot say that enough.
Another thing is that once a man realizes the truth of a woman’s choice he can be FREE. Most men react to women. Most men get money and status to get women. Most men work on their appearance to get women. Most men behave as “Good Men,” “White Knights,” and “Captain Sav’ems” to get women. Most men withdraw from the game because they failed at getting women. Once a man internalizes that “women choose the men” he stops trying to impress women. He is able to be authentic and true to himself. He doesn’t have to wear a mask. He doesn’t have to learn game. He can truly be himself. His message is “take me as I am or don’t take me.” Now this doesn’t mean he can’t make money and improve his appearance and his social skills. It just means he’s doing it for his OWN personal evolution and experience of life. Here’s the thing. Women more than anything are attracted to authentic men. The masks may draw their attention but the man’s true spirit is what hooks the female heart. A man who is authentic finds that the women who will consistently choose him will be the ones who can support him in HIS life mission. Let me leave you with something to think about.
A WOMAN WILL CHOOSE A MAN ACCORDING TO HER NEEDS BUT ONE OF HER NEEDS IS TO SUPPORT THE MAN OF HER CHOOSING.