Anyone who has read my books or simply my blog knows I put a lot into physical attraction. To say that Mr. Meeks has validated my viewpoints is an understatement. Let’s be real about it, people are not talking about the man because he committed a major crime or act of terrorism. People are talking about him because he took a mug shot that women find attractive. That’s it. I could see if he won America’s Top Model through a national vote. Naw he just took a regular picture. Bad picture really because mug shots aren’t supposed to be flattering. If a person is taking a mug shot it means they made some unfortunate choices in life.
Let’s be clear on something. Women are not going crazy over Mr. Meeks because he’s a thug. Many want to frame it that way but if that is the case how come the pictures of the three men arrested and charged with him haven’t had their mug shots go viral?
Stop and think about it.
Mr. Meeks is now famous and will probably get money out of this because women found him very attractive. That’s it, ballgame. It really had nothing to do with him being a thug. Look at this photo shopped picture.
I have said for years that the Thug Love thing is overrated and misunderstood. The problem is that women are not completely honest about what they really want in a man and it’s impossible for a heterosexual man to see what a woman sees in a particular man. The simple reason being that men don’t have a vagina. The average man can’t judge what a woman sees or more importantly feels with another man. I’ve heard men say, “Well I look better than him. I’m more handsome.” His buddies may even agree with him after they say, “no homo.” They are looking from a heterosexual man’s point of view though which will tend to be more objective. The woman is seeing something totally different. Over the years I have had women confide in me about some man they were lusting after. Different women of course will say different things but there was ALWAYS one common theme: they all said that the men they desired were PHYSICALLY attractive. Typically they considered the men to above average in looks as they would use words like gorgeous, dreamy, and beautiful. The men these women were lusting after ranged from common street thugs to white collar professionals.
In my blogs I’ve talked about how I grew up in the underclass so I definitely saw some thugs getting women. I also have college and post-graduate degrees. The pretty boys with degrees got more women because they not only had the looks but they had the status and money as well. At the same time I’ve known some thugs who got less play than a church boy. I’ve known plenty of professionals who have to travel out of the country to get sex or even attention from women. The thing that separates the select men, the men who get women, from the non-select, men who don’t get women, is physical appearance. Forget everything else you’ve heard. This is the real deal.
The thing most men don’t get and that women don’t admit to publically is that they are just like men when it comes to evaluating the sexual desirability of the opposite sex. I would argue that they are worse. A man will have sex with a physically unattractive woman if she makes herself available to him. Many women however, will choose celibacy rather than have sex with a man they consider physically unattractive. This is the case regardless of the man’s money, status, or game. Some women may have pity sex with an unattractive man if they are horny enough and the man has spent enough money and time with them. For the most part the unattractive man will be friend zoned.
I hate I had to be the one to tell you.
Now someone may say Rom why are you saying all of this? Aren’t you concerned that some men may lose hope? No. Contrary to popular belief anybody can improve their looks through diet, exercise, and attitude. Women know it’s about looks, so there are whole industries designed to help women improve their appearance. Men need to realize that they need to do the same thing. The irony is that men still have it easier. A man doesn’t have to be drop-dead handsome to attract a woman. A man really just needs good grooming, a decent body build and a likeable personality to at least attract a girlfriend. Every man is a Mr. Goodbar to somebody.
I don’t want to make this too long. Men need to stop worrying about women chasing thugs and work on themselves. If a woman wants to be with a thug more power to her. A man needs to be concerned about the women checking for him. While he’s looking at the thug chaser, three equally attractive women are wondering why he doesn’t notice them. Build yourself and the women will come.