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Victory Has Defeated Women

10/11/2015

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​            “Victory has defeated you.” - Bane to Batman in the movie, “The Dark Knight Rises.”
 
            Through a combination of Feminism and the sexual revolution women have come a long way.   Women are free to pursue their life aspirations and their sexual desires.   Women are climbing the corporate ladder, or in many cases creating the corporation.   They are buying big cars, houses, going on expensive vacations, and pursuing their passions.   Sexually they are not stuck dealing with some boring man for the rest of their lives.   Divorce is easy and in many cases a woman may not even marry.   Women don’t need men for support like they may have only fifty years ago.   Women have succeeded in their revolutions for more autonomy.   Victory in many instances has been declared though some women may disagree.  I’m not going to get into all that though.  Bottom line is that women are freer than they have ever been in the modern era.  Too bad that victory has actually defeated women.

            Even though my blogs, books, and videos have for the most part directed to self-improvement for men a reality is that a significant amount of my material has been purchased by women.   Even in terms of one on one coaching I’ve had more women clients than men.   There have been even more women that I have engaged in regular conversations about relationships.   The scenario is almost always the same.  The women complaining the most about their relationship experiences have been educated, high achieving women who owned houses, condos, and if renting had top of the line townhouses and apartments.   These women had money.  On a personal level the women were very intelligent with physical features that were slightly above the norm.   These weren’t supermodels but a man would hold their hand in public.   That’s if they could get a man.  These women despite what they had going for them always had trouble getting into functional relationships.   The few that had a man were usually sharing that man with several other women or they were relegated to evenings of "Netflix and chill."   Most though, after working hard all day in a corporate environment where they hated their co-workers, would come home to big sterile houses.   The number of lonely women is quite high.

            When any movement seeks to change the social order the focus is always on the perceived injustice currently in front of them.   Very seldom does anyone think that a change in the social order will produce a worse social order.   If one studies the many revolutions in history it will be found that when the revolution succeeded in overthrowing the current government or social climate it would become necessary for the revolutionaries to become as oppressive as the previous regime.   The reason is that problems that may not have existed before the revolution start to pop up.   Then a vicious cycle starts when someone decides to overthrow the revolutionary regime.

            Now before someone thinks this blog will be about anti-Feminism and anti-sexual freedom that is not the case.  As will become evident I personally benefit from the way things are.   A Feminist would have to be created from reverse engineered alien technology from a crashed UFO to impact my life in any meaningful way.  I’m definitely for sexual freedom.  I was just moved to point out something that is extremely ironic.   Feminism and sexual freedom have actually made more women single and lonely which in turn makes them perfect prey for Players.  Ask me how I know.

            Back in the day men had to behave a certain way and treat women in a different manner than what we have today.  Even the men who had multiple women had to be a certain way.   Back in the day men had mistresses and in some cases another family.   The man was still expected to protect and provide for his mistress and any children they produced.   Things have certainly changed.   The only way many men provide now is if the paternity test says they are the father and the courts grant a child support order.  Some men get out of that by not having a job.

            The thing is that a real man wants to protect and provide for a woman.  Some men have such a strong urge to do so that they may knowingly protect and provide for a woman who has another man’s children.  This isn’t some simp shit as some men may think.    Just like a normal woman has a nurturing instinct, normal men have a natural instinct to take care of a family.  

            Many women will read this and say many men don’t want to protect and provide for women anymore.   That’s because the protect and provide instinct has been subverted by the current social programing.   Many women are yelling that they are, “independent and don’t need a man.”   Single mothers with boy children are showing these boys that they don’t need men.  So why be surprised that men take women at their word?

            Stop and think about it.

            This is what many women have fought for.  The irony is that many women talk about how independent they are but then get mad if a man doesn’t want to pay for a date.   These same independent women want an old school traditional gentleman.  Many have articulated this to me.  It ain’t happening though.  Viva la revolucion!

            The money and independence is one thing.   These independent women are really getting screwed sexually (pun intended).   Used to be a man had to come correct to get sex from a woman.   All he needs now is a cute smile and visible print.   Women don’t have to deal with that short, homely, pudgy dude who may still have good intentions towards her.  Women don’t have to deal with that stable but boring dude who will faithfully keep a roof over her head and food in her stomach.   Women because they have their own money and can feed and house themselves can go for those big dick muscle men and pretty boys.   They can also go for that handsome man with a six figure salary who lives in a nice condo and drives an E-Class.   This is where it gets good.

            Women have the freedom to go for these men but most women rarely leave these relationships with their self-esteem intact.   When a man gets to a point where several women are chasing him he doesn’t have to treat any of them right.   A Select Man doesn’t have to provide for a woman.  If she doesn’t like that he doesn’t spend money on her, he can tell her to lose his number and unfriend him on social media.   What she gonna do about it?   He has four more thirsty ass independent women who will be happy if he comes over to spend time with them in their big cold houses.   Some men may even make the women spend money on them.  The gigolo game is getting bigger in the social landscape.

            It used to be that men had to at least pretend to be monogamous.   There is a steadily growing group of men who are openly polyamorous.  They are telling the women straight up they have other women and don’t care if the women have a problem with the situation.   The perceived shortage of “good men” which really means “handsome men with a little bit of money" has made certain men very bold.   They know they are a hot commodity and they will deal with women only on their terms.  I have a very attractive lady friend who was commenting on the men in her city.  She’s fine and sexy and yet single.   I asked her why and she said the men in her city were either gay or polyamorous.   Women wanted the sexual freedom to chase Mr. Goodbar.  They got it and the shit ain’t really working out for them.

            Another factor with so many women being sexually free the Select Men can afford to be very picky.  If a man has ten women to choose from he will only deal with the most sexually attractive women.   Too many women have had their heads gassed by thirsty men.   Many women will pass over the thirsty men because they have the freedom to do so.   They get upset when Select Men exercise the freedom to pass them over.   There has been a lot of talk about the body positivity movement.   An unspoken purpose of that movement is to get Select Men to find overweight women attractive.   I find it interesting that it takes effort to find instances of where body positivity is applied to overweight men.  

            I'm just saying.

            Sexual freedom gives a woman the right to sleep with who she chooses but also gives men a right to find her unattractive.  

            Like I said earlier I didn’t write this to be anti-Feminist or anti-sexual freedom.   A random survey of my books, videos, and blogs will show I don’t write for or against Feminism and definitely not against sexual freedom.   What I am concerned about is the hundreds of decent women I have got to know over the years.   These women are good people, they really are.   Most of them would make a good wife for some man even the ones who claim they are so independent.   Women change their tune when the right man comes into their lives.   The problem is because the women are talking about how independent they are the right man may take them at their word and relegate them to booty call status.   A marriage minded man isn’t looking for an independent woman.   He’s looking for a woman who wants to be in a UNION.      

            The very things that women think is empowering them is causing them great pain.

            Think on this.
 

2 Comments
question
10/20/2015 04:58:15 am

hi rom, i have a questioni was chilling with a friend, a girlFRIEND, and a friend of hers that i didn't know. we started talking and having fun talking about sex and being very comfortable with eachother, flirting and being playing she was blushing. Then all of a sudden i felt an akward vibe and uncomfortableness with myself and the group she started acting bitchy towards me and telling me things like you're weird almost to the point of being disrespectful but she still wanted to get my attention! the attraction she had for me was clear (making excuses to sit next to her, want me to drink something of her drink, touching me etc) i've had this before and i don't know what IT IS.

do you know if they're testing me just to see if i can take it? im confused.

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Rom
10/20/2015 01:38:29 pm

You probably said or did something that messed up the vibe. Try to think on what you were doing when the vibe changed. Use it as a learning experience. A woman's interest can change in an instant so don't take it too personally.

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