First of all, nothing advocated by #wastehistime2016 is new. Women have been playing these types of games with men for generations. I’ve been conscious of these games since I was a little kid in the seventies. I used to watch older women play these games. In my latest book, “A Player’s Eyes” I write that I learned that thing called “game” from women. I’ve talked with elders who told me about women’s games going back at least to 1930's which means women have been playing the game even longer. There’s nothing new under the sun. I repeat #wastehistime2016 isn’t particularly revolutionary. Young folks need to stop thinking they are reinventing the wheel. They would know this if they would have real conversations with their elders.
Let’s be straight up about something. Many women are embracing this hashtag to turn the tables on the men who have hurt them, primarily Players and Bad Boys. Let’s be raw. Women are NOT going to doing anything to waste a Player or Bad Boy’s time. The true Player, especially if he is a sexually appealing Mr. Goodbar type, only deals with women on his terms. When Mr. Goodbar tires of a woman he dismisses her like the maid. A woman gets one shot at him. If she does some dumb shit he has five other women to take her place. Women know this. Plus to be real, a woman is not going to play games with Mr. Goodbar anyway because she wants that good dick from him.
As far as Bad Boys let’s be raw again. Some of those men are crazy. I’m not talking about the men who call themselves Bad Boys because on the surface they go against the grain. I’m talking about crazy men who will beat a woman’s ass for being five minutes late from the store. Domestic violence is a serious matter. Many women think they got that girl power thing and they can do or say anything to a man and he won’t put his hands on them. These women are STUPID! If a man has it in him to put his hands on a woman he will not give a fuck about the police, your male family members, or your woman’s empowerment group. The type of man who will beat a woman will put a bullet in another man’s ass. All it takes with some men is just the PERCEPTION that a woman is trying to play him. #wastehistime2016 may get a woman killed. For the women reading this you never truly know who you’re dealing with. Don’t get hurt over a silly game.
The biggest single problem with #wastehistime2016 is not the Players or Bad Boys and their reaction. The biggest problem is that women will do these things to genuinely good men. For reasons I have never been able to fathom women like playing games with men who have good intentions towards them. A woman will meet a man who finds her attractive and interesting. On the other hand she might not be feeling him because he doesn’t make her vagina tingle like Mr. Goodbar. Instead of just letting him down easy she lets him spend money on her and pretend like he’s winning her heart. That’s a best case scenario. Often she will play those games advocated by #wastehistime2016 as revenge for what some other man did. The women who do this get a level of satisfaction but ultimately they’ve created some bad karma.
There’s a type of man I never really talk about. Even when I talk about Mr. Goodbar I don’t really say anything negative about him. Mr. Goodbar doesn’t have negative intent towards women. He simply desires multiple women. He is giving women something of value, pleasure, to the woman. The type of man I never really talk about it the DOG. This is the man who will INTENTIONALLY hurt women. He will go out of way to emotionally damage a woman. Another term is DEMON LOVER. These men in most cases weren’t born evil. I’ve found something interesting in talking with these men over the years and even observing a few I’ve watched transform. These men all started off as genuine good guys with good hearts. Then they ran into game playing women who broke their hearts. The most common case is an emotionally abusive mother. The second most common case is not just being rejected but demeaned by an attractive girl or woman. Let’s get deeper into that last one.
If a woman just rejects a man that’s one thing. All men, including Mr. Goodbar, have been rejected. It’s another thing if a woman strings a man along. Wastes his time. Many women do that. They know they have no interest in a particular man. Yet they will let a man take them out on dates and buy nice things. The whole time she will be a little mean to him. After a month or so they will tell the man they just want to be “friends.” The woman already knew she wasn’t interested but she USED the man. Some will even laugh about the man with their girlfriends. Many men can do nothing but complain on social media and in general withdraw socially. Then you have the Dog.
The men who become Dogs are typically men who are what I call “Dormant Goodbars.” These are those men who will either be a little underweight, or have a little baby fat. They will have generally handsome features but they may not have the best look as far as their haircuts and facial hair. They won’t have a good style and may not have a lot of social skills. What they have is good hearts and good intentions towards women. At least until several women have intentionally “wasted his time.” There comes a time in a Dog’s life when that good heart he had closes. Once that happens a Demon Lover is born. There’s a saying that says “Once the student is ready, the teacher appears.” That Dog will run into someone who will teach him two things: how to attract women to him and how to push a woman’s sexual buttons. The Good Guy has become the Dog and thus a vicious cycle is continued.
Many women might think that #wastehistime2016 is empowering but the reality they are creating a scenario where instead meeting a dream man they will encounter a nightmare.