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Why I Don't Teach Game, The Conclusion: The Real Deal

6/18/2014

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            So the question must now be if Rom doesn’t teach game, how can I get women?  I’ll say this.  Game does work.  There is no disputing that.   A man using game can definitely get women.  Even at the rudimentary level that is being taught by dating coaches and seduction gurus.   The real issue is what type of women are receptive to game.   The women most receptive to a man running game on them are not the top quality women men pay hundreds of dollars for books and seminars to meet.   The women most receptive to game tend to be either plain Janes or simply ugly, overweight, low self-esteem females who lack street smarts.   Even the physically attractive women who seem to be receptive to game have some things going on.  The attractive women tend to be promiscuous anyway and quite frankly will have sex with a man whether he used game or not.    If I wanted to teach game I would simply teach men how to tell if a woman is promiscuous or easy regardless of her mask.   My point in all this is that men using game are not getting the best they can get.   They are getting grocery store hamburgers instead of steakhouse Filet Mignons.  So what should a man do?

            First thing a man needs to understand is that women WANT to have sex.   Many men have the false belief that women are not as interested in sex as men.   As a result many men approach women thinking they have to convince the woman to have sex.   She’ll have sex just maybe not with him.   The first mistake is that men tend to approach women who are not trying to seduce them.  Women are really as sexually aggressive as men.  They just express their aggression in a different way.   Instead of approaching a man, a normal woman will dress, and behave in such a way as to draw a man to her.  Women by nature are seductive.  They want to draw your attention to them.  That’s how they hunt.   A young girl on my day job had a short sexy dress.  I complimented her and said, “You’re hunting aren’t you?” She answered, “Yeah I’m looking for a new man.”   A man doesn’t really need game to get a woman.  He simply needs to pay attention.   If he pays attention he will notice that at least one woman has been trying to seduce him.   The key for a man is to develop himself into the type of man a woman will want to seduce.

            The first thing a man has to do is develop his physical sex appeal.  Women are turned on by a man’s body period.   A woman has to be able to look at a man and want to PHYSICALLY have sex with him.   Forget all that mess about WORDS turning a woman on.   A man’s body turns a woman on, period.   Now let me explain why it seems like a man’s words turn a woman on.   Women are moved primarily by emotion.  They are built that way.   Men need to stop expecting women to be rational.  They can be but they are primarily moved by emotion.  A woman’s emotions are moved by her hormones.  That’s why a woman’s moods changes by the week, even day to day.   Now what women do is rationalize their emotions.   Let me get Dexter Goodbar in here to illustrate my point.   A married woman, Gwen, meets Dexter at a store he owns.   She immediately lusts him.   Dexter picks up on it and immediately hits her with his sexually enticing conversation.   Gwen wants him bad because her lust is affecting her emotions.   She starts thinking that her husband isn’t attentive or that good in bed.   What she is doing is rationalizing her desire to sleep with Dexter.   She sleeps with Dexter and tells her friends.   Instead of saying that she was simply turned on by Dexter’s body she says that he said all the right things.   The truth is that Dexter was trying to get a sale and his best sales technique with women is to flirt with them.   Gwen had decided she was going to sleep with Dexter when she first laid eyes on him.   She just had to rationalize her choice.

            Men need to understand the reality of a woman’s sexual aggression.   If there is a man thinking he still thinking he needs game let me share this.   There are plenty of stories in the media about female teachers having sex with underaged male students.   Those are just teachers.   There are many older women who seduce and sleep with teenaged boys.  Something I’ve NEVER shared before but I will do so now.   When I was seventeen I had a brief relationship with an older woman.  I don’t want give away the details.  I didn’t see it as abuse or a bad thing.  It’s just something that happened.   The thing about it though is that I didn’t use any type of game.  I just allowed myself to be seduced.   She was pretty and besides the physical aspect we were both science fiction fans.   My point is that I was able to get her without using any type of game.  She wanted me and I allowed it.

            So a man needs to understand a woman’s true sexual nature as well the need to work on his body.  Just a note about that.  A man does not have to be super-muscular or drop dead handsome to attract a woman.  It doesn’t hurt but if someone isn’t blessed with great genetics he call still turn on a woman physically.   Women like different types of bodies.  Some women like tall and beefy, some like short and slim.   A man needs to work on developing the best body that he can.  He then needs to pay attention to see which women are turned on by his particular body.   All men really don’t need to have movie star looks to get women.   Most women don’t want to be with a man who looks better than they do.  All a man has to be is decent looking with a body that appeals to a particular women.   The only women that tend to want a man that looks better than them are buttaface women.   The reason is that it makes them look good by being able to seduce a good-looking man.   Most men classified as Mr. Goodbar have average to slightly above average faces.   Men who are extremely handsome tend to have issues with women for numerous reasons I’ll get into in a future blog.

            Other than his physical presentation a man needs to work on his overall character.   A man doesn’t need to and shouldn’t change his basic personality to get a woman.  If he is naturally cool and calm he shouldn’t become gregarious because he thinks it will attract women.  Many women are attracted to cool and calm men.   A gregarious man shouldn’t try to be laid back because he thinks it will attract women.   Many women are attracted to gregarious men.   See what many dating coaches and seduction coaches teach men is how to wear a mask.   That’s why so many men fail.   Men have to be themselves.   They have to develop their character.   Too many want to become a clone of someone else.  For example, many men try to emulate pimps because they see how pimps control women.   First of all pimps do is manage women, they don’t control them.   Most women who get with a pimp are naturally promiscuous anyway.   All most pimps do is take advantage of the prostitute’s basic nature.   There are plenty of women out there who sell their bodies for money and they don’t have a pimp.   I first learned of that hustle during my childhood.   I also know some former sugar babies.   People really don’t know how deep the sexual underworld goes.   Yet another future blog.  My point about pimps is that men try to emulate that which they don’t know about.  The books on the market about pimps, even those by pimps, are just the tip of the iceberg.   Ask me how I know.

            When I talk about character that deals more with how some men interact with other people.   The reason most men fail with women is not because they are ugly, or broke, or don’t have game.   Some men are just not likeable.   I was at a wedding reception one time.   I was sitting at the table with a lame ass dude.  We’re at a joyous occasion and all this lame dude was doing was complaining about how women don’t like him.   I guess not.   He really wasn’t likeable as a human being.   He wasn’t the type of person I would invite out with a group for some beers.   Many so-called Nice Guys are whiny and obnoxious.   A woman could be turned on physically by a man and still get turned off when he opens his mouth.   Words won’t seduce a woman but they will sure as hell turn her off.   A man needs to work having a positive character.   Nobody wants to be around a negative individual.  A man who wants to attract women needs to work on being likeable by women.  This doesn’t mean agreeing with everything a woman says.   It means being cool to be around.  A man has to get to the point where a woman wants to be around him because it feels good to her.  A negative man isn’t going to make a woman feel good.

            I use the character of Dexter Goodbar as an example of a man who gets women based on his physical appearance.  A few blogs ago I introduced the character of Jimmy Cool.  Jimmy is Dexter’s cousin.  Jimmy isn’t fine like Dexter but women love him because he is cool to be around.  Let me share another thing about myself.  I attracted many women because they liked how I looked physically.   There were other women I got with who looked at me and said, “He aw’ight.”  There were a few women who didn’t like me all at when I first met them.    I won these women without trying because they were able to get to know me and considered me to be really cool.  For the most part I'm a positive person to be around.   I’m not the type who complains a lot.   If I complain publically about something I usually try to come up with a solution.   See I was a person women liked being around even if I wasn’t having sex with them or spending money on them.  I’ve always had a lot of female friends.  Ironically I’ve only heard the term “I only see you as a friend” a few times.   Those women who friendzoned me were women I either eventually had sex with or they expressed a desire to do so.  All because I stayed cool and kept a positive character.

            This doesn’t need to be too complicated.   Instead of taking the shortcut of game and getting subpar women a man needs to develop his body and his character.  The more his body and character is developed the better the quality of women who will try to seduce him.   At the end of the day that’s what it’s all about: a  man being the best version of himself and getting the best out of life.

2 Comments
Blaximus
6/23/2014 10:57:48 am

First time visitor, but I shall return. Good content, great subject matter. Well done.

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Rom
6/23/2014 06:41:30 pm

Thank you sir.

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